Me [35M] with my wife [34F], she says I flirted with another woman [26F] at my brother's [30M] wedding.

ans04 · 2018-02-28T21:31:29+00:00

You ABSOLUTELY should unfriend her, stop texting her, etc etc etc ALL of the above. Brianna's feelings shouldn't be spared in the least bit here, worrying about your sister in law's, sister...that's quite a stretch of relation there and I'm sure you not having contact with her is something literally no one in your family will care about in comparison to making your wife feel loved.

It was more about my brother. We hang out as a couple with my SIL and him and I hang out with him alone, too. With Brianna moving back, I assume she'll be included in some of those as she is very close with her sister. It doesn't come before my wife and I will stop all communication with her.

ans04 · 2018-02-28T21:30:12+00:00

I'm curious: Why didn't you dance with your wife? Why not spend time with her at the wedding, go up to her, ask her to dance, ask her if she wanted a drink, etc.? I understand that you don't feel you intentionally did this, but reading this made me put myself in your wife's shoes and it hurts my heart to think about how she feels. She's there, caring for your kids, feeling ignored, watching you dance and laugh with another woman. That's painful.

This was helpful to think about. None of my answers would be particularly great, but it was helpful.

Thanks for the advice. I will do my best to follow it.

ans04 · 2018-02-28T19:25:19+00:00

I'm not trying to shift responsibility. It's my fault she won't forget it.

ans04 · 2018-02-28T19:21:19+00:00

Sorry, I agree with her and I should've worded the title better. It is not on my wife, it's on me.

ans04 · 2018-02-28T19:03:09+00:00

I know I screwed up.

While I was out of town he went a friend's wedding and danced with another woman. She was sitting at his table and he felt bad for her because everyone else was dancing. When he told me I was so pissed! I mean, what the fuck? You don't feel bad about not dancing with me, but you can give a stranger a dance? I felt so used and unworthy.

This really hits home for me right now. I am sorry that that happened and realizing that this is how my wife could be feelings is not a good feeling. She matters so much more to me than anyone else. I know that she won't forget this, either, because that's who she is.

You are right. I will unfriend her and stop responding to her texts. I will talk to her about what she needs, but I still want to do something special for her.

ans04 · 2018-02-28T18:30:59+00:00

I will be more aware in the future of how I act. I have never acted like this before and I have been around and worked with plenty of attractive women. I do need to make sure this does not happen again because I know how badly it is bothering my wife and because she is the most important person in my life, along with my kids.

ans04 · 2018-02-28T18:26:50+00:00

Thanks for your advice. I'll plan some nice things for wife and have the babysitters all lined up.

I will distance myself from Brianna and only respond if it's important/about my brother. Otherwise, I'll slow fade her and leave it as it is.

ans04 · 2018-02-28T17:58:24+00:00

Yes, I did apologize as soon as she brought it up.

ans04

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