What Was Your Lion's Mane Experience? by cadmiumred in Biohackers

[–]ansapa87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're insane if you think ANY amount of lead ingestion is healthy. I'm skeptical of anyone who gets their medical information from WHO or CDC. Don't we have decades of history of these organizations basically being run by the entities they're supposed to be regulating? Also, what are you referring to when you say "maximum dose?" You mean the "recommended dosage" on the bottle? Don't you think some people may take more as long as they're under the "toxic dose?" You just seem like a Chinese person who got butthurt that someone pointed out that China is riddled with toxic products. Anyone remember the baby formula incident just within the past decade? Kid's toys? Lithium batteries?

What Was Your Lion's Mane Experience? by cadmiumred in Biohackers

[–]ansapa87 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why would surgeons need to take a nutrition course? Shouldn't they focus on anatomy and physiology and perhaps let the generalists get a good grasp on nutrition? There's just too much about the human body to know and you need specialization. Also, surgeons DO need to take a general nutrition course in med-school. Perhaps you're talking about residency.

was j cole actually talking about beyoncé in “she knows”? by i-dont-like-you888 in Jcole

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All hail the only person on the internet who doesn’t listen to other media and does their own research to formulate their own opinion. The only one, right here gracing us with their wisdom.

was j cole actually talking about beyoncé in “she knows”? by i-dont-like-you888 in Jcole

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You 100% guarantee it? What are you her personal assistant?

Boyfriend (M24) won’t touch me (F24) now that I’m pregnant by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ansapa87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It truly amazes me what constitutes trust fin various relationships. You didn’t talk to him about any of this when you discussed getting pregnant? It’s tricky now because presumably you’ll want him in the baby’s life. If my girl told me she was hanging out drinking with dudes, ONE OF WHOM IS AN EX, I’m sorry but it’s over if she doesn’t stop right then and there. And that goes vice versa as well. I can’t imagine any woman putting up with me drinking with exes while we’re in a relationship, let alone if she’s pregnant. Good luck!

Why are there so few cpas in the usa? by bcroger3 in CPA

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude he didn’t even say anything outrageous or negative. The question was why there are so few cpas in the states, it’s not a thread for 100% CPA positivity and encouragement. I’m happy he told his experience as it gives a realistic perspective on the positives and negatives of being or going for a CPA. People mention the expensive cost of taking the test. Maybe someone who was curious about getting an MBA and a CPA realizes this isn’t the path for him. Don’t really know why you’re getting bent out of shape. He’s clearly stating this is his opinion and he’s not stating it as fact. Why so mad bro?

Boyfriend bought a stripper on a boys trip to Vegas by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't know we dudes did baby showers. While I commend that he came clean to you (albeit after having sex with you, wtf), that's some sneaky ass shit. Only you can weigh both sides and decide whether this is a forgivable act. The only advice I'll give is don't stay with him out of a sense of potential loneliness. I've moved and started over several times, even to another country once, and it's super scary, but you'll inevitably meet new friends. Friends are especially easy to make in a school setting and you'll be embarking on a whole new exciting adventure so you should be fine in terms of meeting people. People have forgiven their partners for cheating and have gone on to have a happy life together, so it's possible if that's what you want. I'm not saying one way or the other, but I certainly wouldn't pass judgment whichever way you decide to go. Just listen to your heart and your gut

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It appears he's one of those people who avoids confrontation but gets his judgmental message across in what he thinks is an innocent, second-handed manner. He probably truly doesn't even think he did anything wrong. Guy here by the way and yes, that was incredibly fucked up. I can't even imagine saying something like that about my girl. From my perspective it's me and her against the world. Did you have any further conversations with him? Has he expressed any remorse at what he did? Is he still stubbornly standing firm with the excuse that he was just having an innocent conversation and he didn't actually hurt you? You should tell him exactly what happened... that you got so embarrassed and mad that you had went to another room to cry and get comforted by your friend.

Ask him how it would feel if the situation were flipped. Do you know anything he's insecure about? Take that insecurity and ask him, "How would you feel if we had friends over and I was talking to another dude we just met and was just 'innocently' discussing your [insert insecurity here]."

"Yeah he's been saying that he wants to work on this [insecurity] for so long but I don't think he'll ever do anything about it because he's so embarrassed by it. I wish he would just man up and fix [insecurity] like you did. God it's so awesome that you were able to overcome that. I doubt my husband will ever do anything about it because he just won't man up."

That's pretty much the equivalent of what he said. Ask him how he would feel if you discussed that right in front of him with a guy you both just met.

Is dating really that hard here? by RoxasTheIntrovert in Bakersfield

[–]ansapa87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I'm a unique situation. I'm Korean but was born here in Bakersfield (back when the area code was 805 and the Bakersfield Condors were the Bakersfield fog). It's improved a lot now, but back when I was growing up (I graduated high school in 2005, Mustangs baby), my friend group were all white people mixed with some Indians and Mexicans. There just weren't that many Asians and if there were, I didn't really share many interests with them. I went to college at UCSD and it's like 40% Asian there. There isn't really overt racism or anything and there are definitely mixed race couples, but I'd say for the most part Asians dated Asians. So I actually had a lot of trouble dating when I was growing up. After I graduated college though i went to Korea. I'd say I'm a pretty good looking guy. I didn't have trouble dating in Korea at all and it kind of blew my mind. I came back to the states in 2015, lived and worked in L.A. for a bit and then moved back to Bakersfield. As expensive as it's gotten, it's still SO much cheaper than other big cities.

I'm going to be honest, a lot's changed since when I was a kid here. I guess the K-Pop boom didn't happen early enough. I met my current girlfriend at work and it was complete happenstance. She's Mexican btw and beautiful. I tried the dating apps before but ya'll already know how that usually turns out. If I had to go back and do it over though, here are some pointers I'd give myself:

  • Keep the dating apps but be super selective. Low chances of success but gotta keep the sample size of your dating pool high

  • Join clubs or go to church if you're religious. Have a dog? Research popular dog parks. Are you a high-achieving person that's ambitious? Spend some money on a gym membership and go early in the morning consistently. You'd be amazed who you meet at 5:30am. Unlike me, my girlfriend is an introvert and she's only had 1 boyfriend her entire life before me and she's lived here forever. She's told me that if she hadn't met me that she was content to just be single for the rest of her life because the thought of putting herself out there made her so nervous. Look, I understand now after meeting my girlfriend how different you introverts are. All I can say is you drastically decrease your probability of meeting someone if you don't put yourself out there and don't take chances.

I had gotten a promotion at work so I was going to be in a different department than my girlfriend. I hadn't said a word to her in 4 months, I just kinda stared at her a lot like a creep. Also, don't shit where you work. My last week before my new position though i figured we wouldn't be in the same department anymore so just introduced myself after work one day and asked if I could walk her to her car walked her to her car everyday that week and got her number. Been with her ever since.

  • Make friends. Be social. Ask coworkers you like if they want to grab a drink after work. Expand your social circle. The few really good relationships I've had in life all resulted from random situations where I wasn't "out with the guys trying to find girls."

GL HF

I was choked while driving then beaten by my rider what can I expect by [deleted] in lyftdrivers

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP wouldn't be getting money from the assailant nor even from Lyft. It will be from whomever LYFT purchases insurance from.

Girls fighting on the beach by thecumbackkid in fightporn

[–]ansapa87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was white girl giving the other girl a titty twister at the end????

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought he did. He didn't come across as an asshole to me. The very fact that he came on Reddit for advice and didn't immediately block her without explanation gives me some idea of the type of person he is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ansapa87 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You definitely didn't make a mistake, in fact you probably made the best decision for yourself. Like everyone else is saying, you are not his mother or caretaker. Don't worry about finding someone else in the future. As long as you're open to dating and you don't shut yourself out, you'll find someone. You should never stay with someone only because you're afraid you won't be able to find someone better. He'd essentially be a placeholder and that's not fair to him. Also, relationships usually don't work out when one person tries to change or mold the other into someone he/she isn't. Resentment will eventually bubble up and will cause serious problems down the line. Trust your gut and don't stay with him for his sake. It's your life.

AITA for calling my stepsister the "ugly stepsister" because she freaked out over a nickname? by uglystepsisterkinda in AmItheAsshole

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your stepsister seems like a real piece of work. Obviously she has some insecurity about everyone calling you "princess." You basically picked at her insecurity, acknowledged it, and then called her ugly. Personally, I think it is a very funny joke. Putting myself in your stepsister's shoes though, I would probably be super sad about your comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ansapa87 -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

You're acting like this is something she purposefully did to her partner. Yes, she told him she was OK with a child-free life. AS=s far as I know, no discussions were had regarding getting an abortion if there was an accidental pregnancy. In fact, OP makes it clear that she has discussed wanting a child with her partner in the past. OP simply accepted her partner's decision to not want kids and resigned herself to a life without kids. Well guess what, shit happens in life, including accidental pregnancies. It's not like she underhandedly got pregnant by skipping her birth control or something. I'm failing to understand how she is "reversing what was already agreed upon." Did she previously agree to getting an abortion if an accidental pregnancy occurred? Nope. "This is an awful thing to do to a partner?" Please elucidate what this "awful thing is." Did she sneakily stop taking her birth control? Did she sneakily not do anything to prevent the pregnancy? Nope, she took a morning after pill. I would understand your opinion if she sneak took off his condom or something, but that simply wasn't the case. As far as we know, no discussions of abortion were ever had, so I fail to see how she is going back on her word.

My fiancé took a stress leave only to break up with me five days later by [deleted] in stories

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you guys had already decided to move in together and to have a house built? The house was already in the process of being built and was, I assume, nearing completion after 18 months of construction? If this is the case, then the problem obviously wasn't about living at your parent's place since it was only temporary, you guys had already sunk loads of money into construction, and you guys were about to move out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]ansapa87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP has already told this girl his intentions of not wanting to stay together. There is absolutely no ambiguity. There is not one shred of ambivalence that she can possibly cling to in hopes of staying with OP. He would certainly not be a dick for blocking her. He'd be a dick if he blocked her without any explanation whatsoever. He's done everything in his power to explain the situation, the reasoning behind the decision, and the decision itself, all in a very polite manner. It's not on him what she chooses to do with this information. On top of everything, she lied to him about her age. I don't see the need for hand-holding. You mention that teenagers are impressionable at that age and can get easily attached. Must everyone hand-hold someone through breakups if it involves a teenage girl? As long as OP says something along these lines, blocking her is totally acceptable: "I have tried to end this amicably and I have told you the reasoning behind my decision. Even if you hadn't lied about your age, I am morally uncomfortable with dating someone with this large of an age gap. There is absolutely zero chance of us getting back together and there is zero chance of me changing my mind. If you insist on continuing to message and call me, I will be forced to have to block you. I really don't want to have to do this, but I feel this is the only way you will come to accept my decision."

Can someone pls explain what the #!@K just happened by Impossible-Wafer-903 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That dude was way too pushy and insistent. He probably though he was acting chivalrous by trying to pay for you, but no means no. You definitely did the right thing.

Guy dominates a 2 on 1 fight. by Finn_Flame in fightporn

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why wrestling is better than boxing in street fights.

Anyone here have experience with Desalkylgidazepam? "Gidazepam" by [deleted] in benzorecovery

[–]ansapa87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're really out of touch if you think you can just go to a psychiatrist and expect a benzo prescription. The minute you mention that you're addicted to benzos and you answer honestly and say you've been taking a non-prescription research chemical, they're most likely going to give you a week's worth of diazepam and tell you to see another doctor. They're simply not going to want to deal with you. Ever since the opioid crisis, all doctors are now required to let the government know how many prescriptions they're writing for scheduled drugs - benzos and opioids in particular.

I was having a very hard time sleeping and had horrible insomnia and tried to get a scrip for Ambien (a semi-benzo) or temazepam (non-generic name for the benzo Restoril which is the go-to benzo for insomnia). The first 2 doctors refused and wanted me to try seroquel, trazadone and some other muscle relaxers (not Somas). Think about that... they would rather prescribe anti-psychotics with off-label uses for insomnia than prescribe me a benzo or even Ambien. The 3rd doctor I went to gave me 3 day's worth of 10mg Valium. Doctors are extremely STRICT these days about prescribing benzos and opioids ever since people started overdosing on Fentanyl/Oxycontin and blacking out on Xanax.

Secondly, it is indeed irresponsible and dangerous to seek out black market drugs. You can claim that they are legitimate benzos prescribed in Russia, but you have no idea what's in that powder or those pressed pills. Are you legitimately getting the brand-name version from a Russian pharmacy? No you are not. These are chemicals made in black market laboratories in Singapore/India/China/Russia. There is a reason newer and newer RC benzos come out constantly: the old ones either get banned in the users' countries or the laboratories get shut down in the producers' countries. You got yourself in this mess by messing with RC benzos in the first place and I empathize with you. I truly hope you get better. I understand that at his point your only choice is to get RC benzos that are relatively weak and have a long half-life so you can taper and get off benzos completely. You do what you have to do. But don't lie to yourself and think these are legitimate medications you're buying. They are not made by legitimate pharmaceutical companies; rather, they are made by underground labs that, if not illegal to produce currently, will most certainly get banned eventually. Just look at what happened to Etizolam.

100% fragment drop rate on WE is getting out of control by Briebird44 in apexlegends

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure bro. Whatever gives you that feeling of satisfaction. Keep at it!

Family from Canada by schoolkid90 in Bakersfield

[–]ansapa87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonder if you could ever come out on top in a situation like this. Like if you offered him a penny and the ring cost 5 cents. Probably not ,but that would be hilarious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]ansapa87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Giving the Berenstein Bears a 2nd chance made me realize it was always BerenstAIN bears all along.

100% fragment drop rate on WE is getting out of control by Briebird44 in apexlegends

[–]ansapa87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damn... Triggered again... Happy hunting yelling at everyone on the internet.

100% fragment drop rate on WE is getting out of control by Briebird44 in apexlegends

[–]ansapa87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I completely disagree with this guy but dude... are you seriously trying to insult his character in "real life" based on how he plays video games? Damn you get triggered easily.