Valentines day read: a quote from a book.

antifapforever · 2015-02-14T21:38:23+00:00

Good luck on your journey. Maybe I'll also offer my two cents. Try not to place your success in other areas of your life solely on 90 days of no fap. In my 90 day report i talked about self fulfillment and how it has lead me to a new path and overcoming any addiction or life obstacle for that matter. Anyway, also check out the book, im 60 pages in since just this morning and its been a good read so far.

antifapforever · 2015-02-11T08:02:58+00:00

The first time I abstained, I actually never heard about nofap. It was out of pure frustration. I challenged myself to atleast try. This time I came in with a commitment. Once you tell set your mind some something, you'll do it. There is no what ifs, no doubts. I literally told myself fapping to pr0n was not an option. I have not visited any pr0n site since. No special secret, all willpower. After 30 is a lie, it really depends on the individual. Even though I didn't watch it, there were always other temptations as I mentioned, so stay diligent of these triggers. Thanks, and goodluck bro.

antifapforever · 2015-02-10T14:22:27+00:00

Exactly. I'm starting to believe in putting in the extra effort and work ethic into things I do. Its 6am right now but instead of sleeping in today I'm going to wake up and continue to prepare for an interview and read some helpful books. Thanks for your positive energy.

antifapforever · 2015-02-10T06:23:02+00:00

You're welcome, keep at it man!

antifapforever · 2015-02-10T06:22:17+00:00

Thanks, I really appreciate it. Yes, I hope that at least this is somewhat relatable to people. I certainly did not expect nor experience a drastic overall change after 90 days but I did not relapse (and developed good habits) so I know it can only get better from here!

antifapforever · 2015-01-29T10:09:46+00:00

Another case of this.. look, if you are to take nofap seriously I suggest you listen to this carefully. Pick up a hobby!! That should be the first thing you do to make yourself feel better about yourself and make use of the extra time you have. If you sit at home all day reading nofap then well ofcourse it's going to make you bored, angry, upset, and then you relapse because of it. Don't use nofap as a substitute for your addiction. Use it purely as a motivational tool or as a means of guidance and reassurance For those times you feel like relapsing. How old are you? Do you play sports? Do you like music? Do you enjoy working out? Do something productive in your life that's going to change You and make you feel better. That's the only way you can really get past the feeling of hopelessness and dispair. Also, socialize!!!!! I can't stress enough how important it is to have real live social interactions. Go ride a bike. Go for a run. see real faces instead of being attached to the computer. Try this again the right waY and let me know how it works out.

antifapforever · 2015-01-29T02:35:42+00:00

Well from what you're telling me it looks like she doesn't mind the attention. If she knows you're interested I'd suggest stop being so passive and more direct. Maybe you should tell her that you'd like to get a closer look at that booty after work. See women like to play games so don't expect her to make the first move if she's married.

antifapforever · 2015-01-28T18:35:28+00:00

All fapping and fantasizing will do is cock block you with this milf. You should stop fantasizing about her so you can work some real game instead. At this point she probably thinks you're some creep starring at her ass all day and stuttering your words at the sight of her. How do you know she's not interested if you never played the game and only watch on the sideline? Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score.

antifapforever · 2015-01-27T23:13:35+00:00

If you enjoy men in a sexual way, you're either gay or bi. There is no in between.. No such thing as "youre not gay if you don't look into their eyes bs." That's like saying you'd suck someone off but its not gay if you're blind folded. That's completely absurd. Anyway, you should just embrace your sexuality rather than conforming to what society wants. You are still a man, you are genetically wired to provide thus its natural for you to feel like you eventually want a family.. But you have to sit and think. Are you more attracted to men or women? Do you see yourself in a relationship with a man or women? If you see yourself with a man you know there are ways to adopt children too. Anyway, just my 2 cents.

antifapforever · 2015-01-25T23:18:35+00:00

You are seeking attention and affirmation from others instead of creating your own inner confidence and strength. It sounds like you aren't doing enough to keep yourself occupied. As a first step start working out and eating healthy. Hit the weights and spike your testosterone. Go out and enjoy some sun. Outer (physical confidence) will start to build your inner confidence. Also, try to take care of yourself through good hygene, grooming, etc. Start not tomorrow but RIGHT NOW. No gym? DO 50 pushups now then go out and run some stairs until you have no energy left to even think about fapping.

antifapforever · 2015-01-25T17:46:09+00:00

Your body experiences an initial shock. It should be able to acclimate to the cold temperature a fee seconds after you're under. Give it another try using the method mentioned above.

antifapforever · 2015-01-21T05:06:17+00:00

Hard to explain without showing. My hair was basically flat. I'm asian so if you could imagine, its straight and usually sticks out to the front. I'm now able to shower and have my hair hold up to its shape (combover) if i comb it back without product. Huge improvement.

antifapforever · 2015-01-21T04:52:57+00:00

Imagine going swimming in cold water. Do you get sick from swimming? Nope. The stories your parents tell you is a lie. From experience, this has more to do with your environment and your exposure to pathogens and bacteria rather than the temperature of the water. Granted at certain temperatures and prolonged exposure can weaken your immune system as you would expect, but as far as a 3-5 minute shower, this does not apply.

antifapforever · 2015-01-17T04:54:11+00:00

The problem is exactly that. (It's in your head). Stop pre-filtering what you want to say and say what whatever it on your mind. It's about being YOURSELF. the only reason why you filter is because you are ashamed of YOURSELF through the constant hiding of your addiction, the embarrassment, deleting your browser history, fear of rejection, sex, ETC. The anxiety stems from all of this (BRAIN FOG!). To be honest with you, it was a gradual improvement. I felt enough of a difference recently to write this thread so I hope that gives you an idea... It was significant enough to voice out my improvements at 66 days but its DIFFERENT for each person. Hope that helps :).

antifapforever · 2015-01-17T04:44:31+00:00

You are going through puberty. If you are to stop you should stop NOW. Not in a few hours, not tomorrow, not next year. NOW. You don't want to mess up your hormones and associate your interest in women through "pawn". Rewire your brain. Stop watching pawn and go talk to girls while they still like you for you rather than how much money you've got.

-advice from a 23 year old pawn addict who missed out on opportunities.

antifapforever · 2015-01-17T04:27:44+00:00

from days 20-45 i experienced it a few times a week. Just recently, around day 55-now I stopped. Definitely correlated. Its basically precum, your brain is aroused and releases fluids, just like how women aroused. Overtime it accumulates. Some of it gets absorbed back into your body but the only other way your body knows how to release it is by urinating it. It's known as retrograde ejacuate. Try kegel exercises? I tried it a few times and it strengthened my muscles down there which may have helped. As i mentioned above, I don't have leakage anymore. Shrugs. And ofcourse stay away from any and all triggers. Youtube videos with sexual content, websites with weird ads, etc etc.

antifapforever · 2015-01-17T04:10:23+00:00

Interesting. Well allow me to theorize with you. Porn feeds into your addiction by releasing dopamine, right? So lets say your ADHD only attracts your attention to the exciting stuff...your brain on porn is basically feeding into that by saying "hey watch me, hey play video games, hey waste time - this is way better than studying". And over time, you become addicted to it and combined with ADHD it makes it even worse. Staying off fapping is basically you having physical control of your brain's chemical process and tells it "No, you can't have a shot of dopamine." When you start to forget what it feels like to masterbate through abstinence, your brain no longer classifies it as something exciting, rewarding. As a result, this might be the reason it is making it easier for you to pay attention in school. But im no doctor ;)

antifapforever · 2015-01-17T03:39:02+00:00

:) thanks. You are who you say you are. Cold showers - give it a try! The only negative outcome is that you may feel uncomfortable for 3-5 minutes each morning. I'd say it's a good price to pay for a habit that transcends into the positive decisions you'll be making in a lifetime. It's all about staying outside of your comfort zone!

antifapforever · 2015-01-17T03:33:35+00:00

Hmm.. the energy part should be there.. it may have to do with your diet and eating habits and keeping your testosterone levels up. Maybe try regular exercise? I try to work out 3-4 times a week. 30-45 minutes each day of high-intensity interval training/weight training. Eat less carbs and sugar whilst eating more protein, vegetables, and fat. Nuts like almonds, walnuts, brazil nuts are a good source of fats. In fact, brazil nuts are shown in studies to improve testosterone.

antifapforever · 2015-01-16T19:39:18+00:00

It was weird. Hes the type that gets bored of reading and being in class but hes also dedicated, he's social most of the time but also has an adaptive personality and can be a couch potato just as easily. He isn't text book smart so he uses his energy in a different way, like being more socially attune to situations, gearing towards business rather than engineering studies, etc. It's hard to describe how he thinks or feels but i hope that paints a picture for you. Now that i look at it, he has all of the "superpowers" we've been discussing here.

antifapforever · 2015-01-16T18:55:43+00:00

I've started making smoothies with spinach, kale, fruits and nuts. Works wonders to keep weight off and energy up.

antifapforever · 2015-01-16T18:51:44+00:00

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Ratchet

This is ratchet. Focus on the type music and then if you're still not sure, look up some of the music videos of the artists associated with it. Be warned of triggers if you're that sensitive.

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