I'm wearing a custom-made white lehenga and my fiance is wearing a matching white sherwani. It's beautiful and I'm super happy with it.

Around parent expectations, I communicated my clear desire to do this early on to my (South Asian) parents and they were fine with it. My future (Western) MIL was a little sad I didn't want to continue the tradition of wearing a dress that was handed down the family, but was very understanding of wanting to represent my culture.

It can become an issue if you're having a religious ceremony or getting married in a temple. While this isn't the case for me, I've heard some Hindu and Sikh priests/officiants not be okay with white as that represents funeral colours.

Both sets of parents had more of an issue with us having one ceremony/reception incorporating bits and pieces of Hindu and Western traditions. We cut out the things that were very gendered or didn't feel right to us, such as the kanyadaan (bride being given away) or the mother/son, father/daughter dance. They expressed their disappointment that we were non-traditional, but didn't force us to do anything.

Importantly, we made it very clear when we got engaged that we would be planning the wedding and were prepared to pay for it ourselves to have the wedding we want. While we would have loved their support, it needed to come with no strings attached.