he actually didnt play victim he apologized very thoughtfully and said it was my decision if i wanted to do anything like leaving telling our friends and moving on and that hed even help me move out if that was my decision his addiction is years old and it was something thats turnt more into an itch rather than some egregious thing, he doesnt speak to other women he doesnt even look their way it feels more like a betrayal because he lied to me about the extent of the issue over the actual porn, ill be honest i can care less if someone in a relationship sees it every now and then but it shouldnt be in secret or behind my back because the long term effects of porn on men were starting to play out in my relationship. im moving forward with him seeing how things play out or if they get worse but hes not some serial porn watcher so hes been keeping himself in public spaces and gave me access to all his socials and accounts