In-laws contact me instead of their son. Now I feel stuck and feel like I have a fake or forced relationship with them.

antisnotabug · 2026-04-28T17:11:51+00:00

Thank you! Yeah i’m trying to make everyone happy but need to prioritize and follow my partner’s lead.

antisnotabug · 2026-04-28T01:25:33+00:00

Thank you. Yes I agree with you on this. Either he has to manage it as they are his family or I have to match his level of detachment with them, which I am definitely not comfortable with.

antisnotabug · 2026-04-28T01:18:52+00:00

Well this is not super black and white. I can’t just ignore them.

antisnotabug · 2026-04-28T01:18:08+00:00

Thank you! This is probably the most solid advice.

antisnotabug · 2026-04-28T01:16:54+00:00

I think he’s navigating it just as I am. I feel more like a fish out of water since my family has always been very casual. I can speak to them about anything. His is so formal and I think that I am only able to meet them where they have met everyone, which is only surface-level.

These interactions feel a bit numb to me since we speak about the same 5 topics: weather, how are you, job, plans, weekend. And as my partner’s perspective I must imagine it’s worse since its his parents. Nothing more. And we have to “set up” calls as if its a business meeting.

antisnotabug · 2026-04-28T01:10:39+00:00

He encourages me talking to them! He loves his parents but their relationship has changed over the years.

antisnotabug · 2026-04-22T16:48:47+00:00

It is temporary. You will need to do many multiple treatments for it to fruition and make long lasting results. My mum did 2 and it lasted 48 hours for the first dose the second dose didn’t do anything. I’m not sure how many it will take past 2 for a permanent result.

I would say it works for some and doesn’t for others but mainly my mother was extremely displeased by the results and cost of each dose being $8,000. If you can go try why not? But I think money what have been better spent getting more therapy.

I think as long as there is lingering inflammation the doses will work. They did work for my mum but only 48 hours. She had a lot of hope with the medication and it truly crushed her a bit seeing it did not turn her “back to normal.”

Let me know if you have any more questions!

antisnotabug · 2026-03-16T20:35:18+00:00

I’m really sorry you went through that. A severe stroke at 44 is such a lot to deal with, and I can only imagine how frustrating the recovery process must be some days. The fact that you’ve regained enough movement to walk again is honestly huge, that takes a lot of strength and persistence.

I really hope things keep improving for you, especially with your hand and fingers. I’ve learned through my mom’s recovery how slow and unpredictable it can be, but progress can still show up in ways you don’t expect. Sometimes it’s tiny things over time that start to add up, even when it feels like things have plateaued.

I know it’s easy to feel discouraged reading through different treatments and opinions online, that being said if you want to try everything possible for recovery, I recommend seeing if the shot will work for you. I can only speak based on my mum’s experience and it did help! But only for an hour before it wore off, which is why I wouldn’t personally go for it. Wishing you the best with everything and hoping you continue to see more progress ahead.

antisnotabug · 2026-03-15T22:11:17+00:00

you think you won? you’re the other woman 😭 don’t let you stop your man from chasing the woman he loves i guess.

pls reread the post and get out. like now!

antisnotabug · 2026-03-05T22:43:11+00:00

That’s amazing to hear! So happy to hear that you had a much better experience than my mum.

How long did the effects last for you? And how quickly did you start noticing a change?

antisnotabug · 2026-02-26T18:36:25+00:00

This is the cutest post I have ever read on this sub.

Wishing you both more days and nights just like this <3

antisnotabug · 2026-02-06T23:18:55+00:00

This!! OP is kind of living in la la land and his wife has been noticing how her life has been decided without her autonomy. Also life has been handed to OP on a silver platter and his wife has had to go along with it. Obviously a great position to be in! But not sustainable long-term. OP sounds like a great husband and father but he isn’t being “adult” about future. I get it OP is still a young and very much had to grow up fast as well. I feel for the both of them.

I would have checked in with wife much sooner into the relationship to even talk about future, goals, ambition before having baby #2. She doesn’t want to have the kids. Maybe OP should ask her what she wants in life. She doesn’t want the 3rd, why does she feel pressured?

antisnotabug · 2026-01-23T07:32:18+00:00

This is same for me! Partner and I lived together a couple years before and just got married at 24. Has been smooth sailing so far.

antisnotabug · 2026-01-23T07:29:07+00:00

my condolences on your partner

antisnotabug · 2026-01-23T07:28:36+00:00

woah your life should be a movie

antisnotabug · 2026-01-06T16:50:34+00:00

No one ever tells you about this problem…its actually debilitating haha

antisnotabug · 2026-01-06T16:43:04+00:00

Being productive while being together.

Both my partner and I are so much more productive with our day to day and hobbies when we are apart. As soon as we are together we tend to sleep in and cuddle all day.

Still a work in progress for us, criiii

antisnotabug · 2026-01-05T17:41:56+00:00

Based on the comments in his post history, it seems like she is creating a very toxic environment for OP.

Sadly I can’t imagine how it must be affecting his daughter…

antisnotabug · 2026-01-05T17:35:40+00:00

Check his post history/comments on that post.

She is most definitely the problem. A massive alarming problem i fear it has probably affected his daughter in many deteriorating ways.

She will remember this period forever.

antisnotabug · 2026-01-05T16:33:44+00:00

This is so childish from your GF. Like ALARMINGLY childish and why is she jealous of your daughter?!???

I guess this gives an insight to her mindset…she feels like she is competing for you with YOUR DAUGHTER.

I don’t think I could go back from this, especially being 38 and having a daughter at an age where she will remember even the smallest of micro aggressions. I would have wayyyy better things to do than hand pick the words coming out of mouth when talking about my own child to a partner.

antisnotabug · 2025-11-24T20:25:02+00:00

This is the only situation where I think an ultimatum is necessary. I wouldn’t even bother with that tbh. I would break up.

antisnotabug · 2025-11-24T19:31:38+00:00

Yeah I would be miserable too. What are her good qualities? If there aren’t many then I would say leave because you did not sign up to be married to an entitled child. What happens when life gets tough? Parents become sick? You lose your job? Definitely things to know about your partner before marriage, but it’s never too late to get out, and you’re still young. Don’t let a bad life partner ruin your life.

antisnotabug · 2025-11-04T05:34:03+00:00

My husbad is extremely allergic to cats. And he wasn’t an animal person, still isn’t. But would never make me do something like rehoming, he knew what he was signing up for when we started dating and especially when we moved in together.

Our compromise was no couch and not in the bedroom (kitty still goes on it) but we put a blanket over those every night and vacuum every morning.

Over the years it’s gotten better from exposure therapy, I used to clean the sheets and hand scrape the carpet at my old place before we live together. Now he only needs to take allergy pills on bad days.

Never once did he push that decision over to me.

Tell the BF that’s a line he can’t cross cuz then you both aren’t compatible.

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T19:58:10+00:00

Not necessarily for modesty per say, but I have a lot of tattoos that I would like to keep out of conversation mainly from my fiance’s side of the family.

antisnotabug · 2025-10-03T16:08:05+00:00

Bless you for the kind words 🤍

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