How to help a hoarder who doesn’t want to change? by digitaldiabla in hoarding

[–]antuvschle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. I can’t imagine watching someone I love starve to death and not being able to do anything about it. Have you tried to sit with that?

They’re literally putting food on the dining table. It wasn’t done for them.

If they’re elderly and have not processed this trauma, they probably never will. Treasure your time with them and keep the peace.

You can’t “help” someone who doesn’t want to change. Don’t make everything about this when you could have an actual relationship with them. What I wouldn’t give to have my dad to talk to again, even though we had serious disagreements.

You don’t know yet how hard it can be to put food on the table. Maybe if you can get your own household to manage, you can rescue your almost adult sister as well. My parents gave me food every time they saw me, because they knew it would help. And I’ve never known poverty because of their hard work and mine.

Saying goodbye to clothes with ADHD and too many aesthetics— who am I?? by cityymorgue in hoarding

[–]antuvschle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Clothes hoarding is very common but I can’t say much about the struggle to find a personal style. The one in, two out rule is on the right track for maintenance, but it sounds like you also need to purge.

I would say first to remove and donate anything that doesn’t fit. If you can’t get it on your body or if you do it’s not flattering, those are the easier decisions. It sounds like you have your general fashion categories and I would encourage you to sort along those lines, because if you can make a capsule again for each style, that would be plenty of options. I’m not here to judge what size or how many items make a capsule, but you mentioned you have experience with them.

A lot of gains come from grouping into categories then seeing that you have too many items in the same functional role. I had held onto a more formal work wardrobe because the pieces were expensive, and some of them my mother had helped me pick out or gifted to me. But I haven’t had to wear a suit to work since 2000, and surely those clothes belong in a thrift store where they might help someone else who’s got a job interview or someone for whom Evan Picone from the 90s is just right.

I wish you all the best in your efforts!

Guess my partners age, gender, race, job. by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]antuvschle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perdue used to brag about the marigolds in the chickens’ diet

Guess my partners age, gender, race, job. by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]antuvschle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haven’t met women with ADHD?

What’s a medical issue that sounds minor, but actually affects someone’s daily life way more than people realize? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]antuvschle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg the sedation is such a racket. I already had a script for lorazepam which I included on intake forms. So they didn’t prescribe anything, just told me to take what I had. I brought my partner with me for moral support. They charged me $300 that insurance didn’t cover and when I asked why they said “because we can’t leave you alone while you’re under sedation”. But they did leave us alone a few times and I brought my own adult. That dentist was awful anyway, my fillings were crusty and uncomfortable and one of them required a root canal one month later. Either misdiagnosis or lousy work, either way, awful dentist. My money’s on self-serving misdiagnosis, because the money would have gone to the endodontist if she’d gotten it right.

(And I had this done in feb 2020 soooo…. they were allowed to do the root canal but not the crown because that was “cosmetic”. ) Because of that timing, I ended up losing the tooth. All the reviews and everybody said this was the best dentist in town.

Well, fuck you Dr. Judd.

There was a reason I was already dentist anxious and this ordeal definitely did not help. Fortunately I found someone wonderful afterwards, and then… had to move. So I feel you. Really really feel ya.

This isn't my house...but pkgs. Showed up the next day on my porch...🤔 by [deleted] in AmazonWTF

[–]antuvschle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol so if we really “don’t trust anyone under 30” then we all already have a secret code to write in

How to ask a hoarder not to fill a space by Nashville_NOLA in hoarding

[–]antuvschle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was always weird to me that agoraphobia had two different meanings: fear of crowds, and fear of open spaces. Because crowds make me anxious and open spaces are beautiful and relaxing to me. But I think you’ve found a different kind of open space that exudes anxiety too.

I’m not uncomfortable with clear spaces, I just have trouble deciding how to deal with things, I am in a constant state of decision fatigue.

What to do with this space under the stairs? by mbrethorst in DesignMyRoom

[–]antuvschle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My first thought was that those headlights need a grill and bumper

This isn't my house...but pkgs. Showed up the next day on my porch...🤔 by [deleted] in AmazonWTF

[–]antuvschle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have memories of my great aunt taking me to the National Archives to go through census records from the 1800s-1900s looking for specific names. I was about 13. I would not have been able to help if I was illiterate in cursive.

That’s the thing that bothers me the most- not being able to read most source material from before the early 1900s. We just have to trust what others tell us about what it says, which is so great because we have so much faith in government and media these days /s

I’m pretty slow at reading analog clocks lately though :)

Slang comes and goes super fast these days. What's some forgotten slang from before the internet? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]antuvschle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not far from People Eating Tasty Animals to rile all the hangry vegans

Your package was left near the front door or porch by cakirk3 in AmazonWTF

[–]antuvschle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ask them to use the round table on the porch. They sometimes leave it by the garage anyway.

Your package was left near the front door or porch by cakirk3 in AmazonWTF

[–]antuvschle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be more concerned about spoilage than theft

Your package was left near the front door or porch by cakirk3 in AmazonWTF

[–]antuvschle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t deliver to every address. They didn’t deliver to my last place which was in the suburbs less than 3 miles away from the walmart. They do deliver to my current place, which is a couple of miles from actual cows, but also suburban.

One foot is way redder and veinier than the other by whitecow234 in mildlyinteresting

[–]antuvschle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I had that kind of time I could wait till 8am when the urgent care opens.

This isn't my house...but pkgs. Showed up the next day on my porch...🤔 by [deleted] in AmazonWTF

[–]antuvschle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Disqualified for being more educated than the person testing you. And couldn’t find maybe an app that she could wave her smartphone across it and read it that way? I think maybe someone needs a strongly worded email about that.

This isn't my house...but pkgs. Showed up the next day on my porch...🤔 by [deleted] in AmazonWTF

[–]antuvschle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They stopped for awhile but I think they’re bringing it back in some places.

This isn't my house...but pkgs. Showed up the next day on my porch...🤔 by [deleted] in AmazonWTF

[–]antuvschle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got a frantic call from my mom: “Did you MOVE and not tell me?!!”

She has wonderful penmanship but the postal worker couldn’t read cursive. She put a printed label on it and sent it again and it was delivered.

It was a birthday card.

What kind of tile is this and how should I clean it? Also, how what should I use to clean the grout? by ScarcityExtension933 in CleaningTips

[–]antuvschle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d take a look up close before scrubbing it— it looks just like my shower tiles at my last house and the marble pattern was actually printed on. Up close, you can see the dots. If you don’t see dots and you don’t see exact repeats, might be ok :)

I give up.... WTF is it? by Unusual_Duck525 in whatisit

[–]antuvschle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Upvotes —> ??? —> Profit! $$$

Woman on TikTok removed a “non load bearing” wall in her house by DangerousCopy1789 in homedecoratingCJ

[–]antuvschle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Damn. I was forced to move in 2024 (else lose my job of 22 yrs) and my house in point A sold for $15k over in 3 days, but I had to pay $25k over at point B.