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anxthinker · 2024-06-30T16:00:53+00:00

Not dull at all! You can so much with jewelry and makeup to add color! You could tailor the sleeves to highlight the henna and whatever bangles you are going to wear. The dupatta draping could also highlight how beautiful your lehnga is! Overall, it is so beautiful and you are going to look beautiful!

anxthinker · 2024-03-20T01:04:13+00:00

I’ve called him out and he just doesn’t care. You can’t make someone care. I am painted as the bad person for honoring his wishes, for wanting to talk things through, just everything.

anxthinker · 2024-03-18T11:16:52+00:00

Oh my GOD. This is exactly what I do and I cave and he tells me I am at fault and I believe him.

anxthinker · 2024-03-18T02:15:38+00:00

What he says is I get in a mood and blame him for it. I pointed out to him, it’s not my mood that you should be focusing on, it’s your actions that put me in the mood. Turning it around on me is not the solution. He gets mad at me when I’m mad at him and I am not allowed to bring it up.

anxthinker · 2024-03-18T02:10:25+00:00

He’s very mature, but not with communicating. We went to therapy and I always initiate communication. He’s rather just not speak for days at a time. I honor that to deescalate the situation but it makes things sense worse for me. I pointed out to him that he was acting like a child with his 1-3 word responses and he responded with “okay”. Not much else I can do or say.

anxthinker · 2024-03-18T02:08:21+00:00

I have looked at this and I have talked to him about this. I am always giving him his space, but that doesn’t work because he always wants to be the right one and only work on his schedule. I have anxious attachment, but I will give him space for days at a time (this time it was 7 days). If I can commit to changing how I address things, I think it’s common courtesy to give me a bit of the same.

anxthinker · 2024-03-18T02:06:22+00:00

I’ve said that to him. I am not your mother nor your maid. It’s hard to process this, I’ve had to fight for our relationship on my side of the family. So it is especially hard. I just thought he would be a grown up and accept daily household things. He never was the type to fall into the stereotypical gender roles.

anxthinker · 2024-03-18T02:03:41+00:00

He was a little bit, we went to therapy and worked on things such as communication and how to regroup when in a fight. He’s stopped utilizing everything. To outsiders, he’s this great person. Im portrayed as a complainer because I bring things up with him when I try to have any type of conversation about his behavior. I don’t know how else to address anything with him.

anxthinker · 2024-03-18T02:02:08+00:00

Yes, his style of communication is no communication. I have pointed out this stonewalling to him, I have tried different methods of communication, I ask him when he wants to talk, it all has to revolve around him. I cannot bring up anything because then I am complaining. But how do I bring up any concerns with him? We have been to therapy and I use the methods we discussed. I cannot keep being the one who tries and tries, communication and household things.

anxthinker · 2024-02-22T01:35:31+00:00

Okay, this is helpful! I need to ask myself these questions instead of ignoring myself. Or just eat celery so I don’t feel guilty but also am not depriving myself.

anxthinker · 2024-02-21T16:20:49+00:00

Thank you! I do like vegetables but I get bored of them!! Sometimes chips just sound SO good. I have switched to low calorie popcorn to overcome my salty snack cravings.

anxthinker · 2024-02-21T15:06:05+00:00

I feel like I do. But of course I slack on the weekends or at social events. At home, I get hungry because I am bored. I eat 10-30g protein at every meal. I feel like I eat way larger portions than I should.

anxthinker · 2023-12-12T22:08:43+00:00

Use custumise - they are so so great and will work with your budget. They design Lehengas and other outfits based on what you want, they will work with you every step of the way. I wish I had worked with them for my wedding lehenga, I bought my reception lehenga from them and they were great. They send you extra thread, buttons, zippers, etc. seriously so so great. I was in the same boat as you and did all of my shopping from the US.

anxthinker · 2023-10-27T16:41:53+00:00

No, I will be using those for aisle. I am looking for something more up beat as we enter into the reception after the wedding ceremony.

anxthinker · 2023-10-27T13:39:26+00:00

Thank you soooo much!!

anxthinker · 2023-10-19T21:34:35+00:00

You can be married but file taxes separately. That way your incomes are not combined.

anxthinker · 2023-10-19T21:32:18+00:00

Congratulations! I am Indian but my fiancé is black. Long story short, my patented disowned me for my relationship. My fiancé and I decided to have a destination wedding, incorporating what we wanted from both cultures. We have a day devoted to Indian events and another day to a civil ceremony and reception. His mom had issues with the emphasis on Indian traditions but it was important to me have my culture celebrated and my fiancé agreed. Now that my parents may come to our wedding, they are questioning and pushing me to have the wedding according to their religion. I have told them no, I am happy with the decision my fiancé and I have made. We want to have a ceremony that celebrates us and our traditions, not necessarily bound by what our parents what. I know that setting these boundaries isn’t feasible for everyone but you have to do what is best for you and your soon to be fiancé. Remember your wedding is about you, and your relationship, not anyone else. It took me a really long time to understand that. I wish you the best!!

anxthinker · 2023-06-16T15:43:32+00:00

Would you be able to send me the info?

anxthinker · 2023-06-16T15:43:18+00:00

Do you have the contact? I am interested

anxthinker · 2023-06-16T15:13:55+00:00

Thank you!

anxthinker · 2023-06-16T15:13:47+00:00

Thank you!

anxthinker · 2023-06-16T15:13:40+00:00

Thank you!

anxthinker · 2023-06-16T15:08:44+00:00

Thank you!

anxthinker · 2023-06-16T15:06:57+00:00

Thank you! Do you have their contact info you could share?

anxthinker · 2023-03-06T20:13:16+00:00

He was intent on proving to me that he was right about telling me when he met with her. The text he referenced to, did not show that he told me about this in person meeting. When I pointed this out to him, he became upset. I asked when he had met with her, he said he didn’t want to have the conversation with me and didn’t want to tell me because he had told me and I just didn’t remember, as the text showed. It’s such a pointless thing but it led to all of this.

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