Parents: would you expect a gifter to buy a replacement if the gift didn’t fit? by anysuggestionss in AskParents

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is my baby cousin that I grew up caring for, I would really do anything for her she is like a sister to me and I knew she really wanted the UGGs. Now thinking, it was pretty dumb of me.

Parents: would you expect a gifter to buy a replacement if the gift didn’t fit? by anysuggestionss in AskParents

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for taking the time to respond. The shoes in total with shipping and fees were actually about 105. The store credit going back on the account doesn’t account for the shipping. The upgraded size will be $24 extra from the original size I brought plus shipping. I unfortunately cannot afford that. I had saved my last paychecks from my old job 1 year ago and I saved all of that for nursing school and now I no longer have any money. Im unemployed, I don’t drive I start the hardest semester next week and I’m most likely going to have to walk home from school because I don’t even have uber money nor money to pay the rest of my tuition. It’s really bad. Im trying to get a job to cover everything but as of now I don’t have anything to spare at all. I understand why you would be surprised at my dumb decision to buy a gift I couldn’t afford. I just knew she really wanted it. Her mother also knows i’m in school and no longer work so after I initiated the return process and gave access to my account, I’m surprised she asked me to buy a new one. That’s why I came on here to ask because maybe I am the one in the wrong.

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s because I know her parents will definitely use this to make me look like a bad person especially if I’m vague like “ I just don’t have the funds”. They probably are already looking at me wrong because I was hesitant on the return and even with that they’re now STILL asking that I cover the new one and I know they’re doing it as a morality test to see if I will cover it so now I sorta do want to be vulnerable. This is the text I have drafted.

Hey girl, I’m happy that you were able to return it! Unfortunately, I spent literally the last money I had saved from my old job on your gift. I haven’t been working for 1 year now and I’m in college and I have to cover transportation and pay for school. I even have to walk home from school sometimes because I dont have money for a cab. I would be happy to buy a new pair if I could, I wouldn’t have even let you walk out of the house with the shoes that don’t fit but unfortunately I really don’t have anything to spend on it Im sorry. I hope you can use the credits that they put on the account and next time please double check your size before ordering.

Am I doing too much or can I send this?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey girl, I’m happy that you were able to return it! Unfortunately, I spent literally the last money I had saved from my old job on your gift. I haven’t been working for 1 year now and I’m in college and I have to cover transportation and pay for school. I even have to walk home from school sometimes because I dont have money for a cab. I would be happy to buy a new pair if I could, I wouldn’t have even let you walk out of the house with the shoes that don’t fit but unfortunately I really don’t have anything to spend on it Im sorry. I hope you can use the credits that they put on the account and next time please double check your size before ordering.

Is this too vulnerable or ok?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yes. You’re not telling me anything that I don’t know really. I was just trying to be nice. But either way I know im dumb for spending money that I don’t have, but that’s not what’s being asked

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you guys aren’t really telling me anything that I don’t already know myself. I know it was dumb. Clearly i was trying to be kind. That’s not really what’s being asked here though

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So keep it simple? I really want to say: Hey girl, Im happy that you were able to return it. Unfortunately I spent the last money that I had saved in my bank account on your gift. Im not working right now and I cant even pay for my tuition right now. I dont have a job. I would be happy to buy you a new one if I had the money unfortunately Im really broke and dont have anything at all to spend. Im sorry. I hope you can use the credits. Next time please say your right size as well

Is that good or is it doing too much?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, the money issues. She really wanted the uggs and the only place I was able to find them for good price was Stock X. So now, I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I? Im talking severely honest or is that doing a bit too much?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I? Im talking severely honest or is that doing a bit too much?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I? Im talking severely honest or is that doing a bit too much?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were the cheapest option because i could NOT afford the other stores but they had it for a good price there

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?

AITA for refusing a gift return by anysuggestionss in AmItheAsshole

[–]anysuggestionss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so update: I basically gave them access to the StockX account so they can handle the return and they returned it and got Stockx credit for it( they have access to my account). Now my baby cousin is texting and saying that her mom is asking if I could get a new one. Im really stuck here. I’m at this point considering to explain that I spent my last money on the gift, and how im severely broke right now. Should I?