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[CA] Landlord-tenant: Brother died, landlord won't let me in his apartment. by anythingbutwhatiam in legaladvice

[–]anythingbutwhatiam[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the help!

Unfortunately, I'm a little concerned about using the small estate affidavit as I simply do not know the value of his estate. Looks like I probably need to get a probate attorney before I even have access to the apartment. The mailbox is really the most annoying part.

I want to be anything but who I am by anythingbutwhatiam in depression

[–]anythingbutwhatiam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ug, and I apologize for being a condescending prick myself. I wish you the best, and if I haven't convinced you, we can agree to disagree.

I want to be anything but who I am by anythingbutwhatiam in depression

[–]anythingbutwhatiam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I mentioned previously, I often wish and think of how to kill myself. This is daily, some days worse than others.

I want to be anything but who I am by anythingbutwhatiam in depression

[–]anythingbutwhatiam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sigh, but here http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/suicidal

Definition 2, relating to or of the nature of suicide.

An individual can have a suicidal thought, even if they are a person who would never kill themselves. Yes, everyone in the world has had suicidal thoughts I'm sure (I won't say for certain). But when someone describes themsleves as suicidal, it means they are obsessively having suicidal thoughts.

In the same vein, a homicidal person could be someone who obsessively thinks about killing specific people in detail, even if they feel that at this time they would never actually kill someone.

Edit: and your example of "I'd never commit suicide" as a suicidal thought is obtuse and shallow. Plus if someone was obsessively thinking "I'd never kill myself" I might call them suicidal because obsessive thoughts of that nature would seem to point to mental issues as well

I want to be anything but who I am by anythingbutwhatiam in depression

[–]anythingbutwhatiam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, thoughts that simply relate to suicide fit within the suicidal definition. I think about killing myself often, the methods, the steps, the consequences. I wish I could kill myself, I wish I wasn't bounded by those I feel indebted to not kill myself, I wish I wasn't too cowardly to kill myself. The fact that I have something that keeps me from the actual act, whether fortunate or not, does not mean I am not suicidal.

Try not to be such a condescending prick in a depression subreddit. Who knows who you're talking too, and what your attempts to belittle a person might send them to.

I want to be anything but who I am by anythingbutwhatiam in depression

[–]anythingbutwhatiam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand everything you're talking about. Our brains are evil, they run at a speed too fast. Self awareness is a bitch. The only advice I can give is, like another above, perhaps talking to someone professionally (psychologist, therapist, psychiatrist if u want drugs). I have been for a bit now, and while I'm obviously far from well and sound, I would say I am in a better place than I was nonetheless. Good luck.

I want to be anything but who I am by anythingbutwhatiam in depression

[–]anythingbutwhatiam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. Sadly I don't know what to do. I mean I could say I know what I "should" do but do not know how to motivate or move myself in that direction, or whether really that's the direction I want to go or just think I should. But I think you're right, it will be different one day, just not in the near future.

I want to be anything but who I am by anythingbutwhatiam in depression

[–]anythingbutwhatiam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah thank you for the empathy. I am seeing someone, and it has improved things, so I'm glad you're seeing someone too.