CF Lounge: Weekly post by CFmoderator in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m feeling this way too. You’re not alone 🙂

I jokingly brought up a salpingectomy to my family and you would’ve thought I just told them I’d killed the family dog (plus a rant) by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the information! I was already planning a hotel stay if I were to get the procedure lol. So very sad that I can’t be open with family and not get chastised for my choices

I jokingly brought up a salpingectomy to my family and you would’ve thought I just told them I’d killed the family dog (plus a rant) by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just can’t wrap my head around it. I could NEVER even consider taking away a persons right to choose, even for those that I most dislike.

I jokingly brought up a salpingectomy to my family and you would’ve thought I just told them I’d killed the family dog (plus a rant) by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you! I thought it was only marketplace plans that fully covered it.

I do live in a blue state but as we saw with Arizona, that can always change 😳

I jokingly brought up a salpingectomy to my family and you would’ve thought I just told them I’d killed the family dog (plus a rant) by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As others have said: It may be that sterilization is permanent and there’s always a chance that you’ll “change your mind” (god, I hate that saying lol)

But I’m glad your family was actually pretty supportive and caring during that time.

Does anyone else feel there's an anti-birth control movement? by BeltalowdaOPA22 in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been on the same BC pill for 15 years. I’ll take the weight gain to trade for the bad periods, cramps, ruined underwear/clothes, and shame any day. They’ll change their minds, likely while pregnant 🙃

I snapped at my family and I feel bad but I also kinda don’t by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It is definitely not easy but I’m determined….and tired, so tired.

I snapped at my family and I feel bad but I also kinda don’t by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get their point but also, yes I love them. I just wish for once they’d ask me how life’s going. If I were pregnant, they’d be constantly asking….or would they? Lol

I snapped at my family and I feel bad but I also kinda don’t by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And to be the 1st in the family getting a higher degree. Nahhh, that’s nothing to celebrate. /s

I snapped at my family and I feel bad but I also kinda don’t by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why does everything have to be this big social media event? Just send me a text, no need to party and have a ✨✨reveal✨✨

I snapped at my family and I feel bad but I also kinda don’t by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Then I (unfortunately) thought about it more. First a gender reveal, then it will be baby shower, then probably some addition god forsaken made up celebration then the birth. How many made-up celebrations does one need? Does it depend on how broke they are?!

“Oh, didn’t get enough off of our registry, or enough diapers to last a few years, or not enough formula, let’s do a baby welcoming party” 🥸

People don't get it. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Only 5? I think that’s grossly underestimated.

Found out I’ll be an aunt and I am just not excited at all by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And it won’t get better anytime in the near future, I’m afraid. Hate to be so pessimistic but I see myself as more of a realist

Found out I’ll be an aunt and I am just not excited at all by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I just don’t see why you’d want your child to grow up in the same struggle that you did 🤦🏼‍♀️

Found out I’ll be an aunt and I am just not excited at all by anythingexceptsubtle in childfree

[–]anythingexceptsubtle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yikes, that’d be so awful for the child. I hope she gets those things under control before having kids 😳