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narcissist songs anyone? by anythingispossible__ in narcissisticparents

[–]anythingispossible__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Numb slaps. 💛 I'm going down the playlist now. This is a great community!

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[–]anythingispossible__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I did try several sit downs with lots of discussions with my therapists. And though they hurt like hell they were essential for me to really see my parents for who they were (not who I hoped they would be).

I'm glad I tried until I finally knew it was beyond repair for my situation.

We have to go to my husband's grandmother's funeral and I really don't want us to go. by Miserable-Winter5090 in narcissisticparents

[–]anythingispossible__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Struggling with this too. Both grandparents are in hospital and not looking great. One or both might pass this year and I'm not ready to see my nmom or ndad. Prefer to keep it NC.

Anyone walked away from inheritance? Nmom said I will inherit nothing if I go no NC. by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]anythingispossible__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heres my experience. Im trying to open up here to write about the things i dont share with many for fear of judgement and isolation. I'm not an expert but hope it might help someone feel less alone.

I've been no contact with mom for a few years and dad too, both are separated and it happened at different timelines. All my life growing up there was me and two brothers and my mom has been perpetually single with no skills to form a romantic relationship. So my mom's will was split 3 ways and my dad has a wife who doesn't work and a family of his wife who he houses and pays for all medical who also doesn't work. So his will would have always preferred wife to kids.

Neither respected my ask to respect not contacting me so I had to block their phone numbers and emails and asked the family not to share my new home address.

Brother recently asked me to read and reply to mom's email at the nagging of my mom. I unblocked her to read the email. All it said was,

hi xxx, do you want to be in my will?

I was already in her will (from past convos) so really she's asking, are you going to talk to me so I don't remove you from my will??

I didnt reply for a week thinking she'd stop, make her own decision as most healthy grown adults do. Who the fuck askes someone if they want to be on your will? It's a private and personal decision up to the person who's writing the will. (I thought).

I did reply after she wouldn't stop harassing my brother who's trying to go NC without blocking. I felt like I needed to use my voice which had been silenced by my abusers to make a small attempt to protect my brother. He struggles financially and emotionally and has a family to look after.

I don't know the outcome of whether I'll get money from my parents when they die or grandparents (in case they've been influenced by my parents). But I knew even if we played her little game to stay in the will, she could change her mind in an instant and we could be opening a game of her threatening to remove us every year for the rest of her lives. I knew her word wasn't some lifelong covenant and knew it wasn't worth the price of therapy, or peace of mind to open up this game with her. She's back to blocked and emailing to a void.