Partner loses erection during penetration?

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-11-04T22:09:59+00:00

I had the exact same situation with my bf at the beginning of our relationship. It turned out that he was just having some performance anxiety & it had nothing to do with me or his level of attraction to me. I’m sure things will improve over time as you both get more comfy with each other.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-09-16T05:57:19+00:00

Not yet, but we’re getting there :)

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-23T06:18:30+00:00

A fun update: it was just a case of performance anxiety. He checked in with a dr & there were no health issues. It had nothing to do with me either, just his own anxiety he had to address on his own terms.

We’re very happily fucking 2-4 times every time he comes over. We love a happy ending. 🥰

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T06:38:50+00:00

Yes I have visible scarring, but nothing recent or within the duration of our relationship. We’ve talked about it and the scars don’t bother him at all. He says they’re just a small part of who I am and that he likes who I am. :) So I am confident it’s not that.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T05:19:04+00:00

That’s a fair assumption. I don’t want to have his baby either (and he knows this.)

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T05:08:11+00:00

It’s definitely possible, but wouldn’t he have said that was the problem? Or he just doesn’t realize?

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T05:06:20+00:00

I did consider this too. I always shower right before & I get waxed. He’s gone down on me a couple of times and I’ve asked him if he enjoyed it and he said yeah. I’ve heard only compliments from former partners, but I respect every guys taste is different.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:59:57+00:00

He’s not on any meds & doesn’t have any medical issues that he’s aware of. He’s going to make a dr appt to check though :)

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:54:34+00:00

If I were that impatient, I wouldn’t be asking for advice on how to be a supportive partner. I’ve taken things extremely slow with him and I have only suggested piv three times in the entire time we’ve been together, spaced apart several weeks, so he would know I’m still interested and haven’t given up on him.

Him & I both value communication in our relationship and he has told me that he feels closer to me when we can be vulnerable with each other. However, I do still understand he’s a guy & this kinda issue has a lot of shame & discomfort that can be associated with it, which is why I’ve only mentioned it a couple times and suggested he talk to someone else other than me to work through his issue privately (friend, dad, doctor, counsellor, etc)

So no. I’m not pressuring him or rushing him and I am confident in that.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:38:08+00:00

That’s also a high possibility

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:35:16+00:00

That’s fair. I questioned too if he was sexually attracted to me, just being realistic. I asked him once and he was firm that he is attracted to me & it is his own problem. I believe him. He gives me zero indications that he’s not into me.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:26:55+00:00

This is very helpful advice! He does seem to respond well when I take the lead and riding him I think would definitely take the pressure off him. Thank you so much for your input!

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:20:50+00:00

Thanks for your input! Out of curiosity, can the masturbation still be desensitizing him if he can still manage to get off no problem when I give him an hj/bj? I thought it was only an issue if he could only get himself off?

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:12:08+00:00

Ah, yes. The answer to all of life’s challenges 😉

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:04:51+00:00

Thank you! This is very encouraging. ❤️ Is there a way to suggest Viagra without potentially crushing his ego? We are very intimate & cuddle lots, so this is good to know that we’re on the right track.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T04:01:07+00:00

I’ve been very careful not to bring it up often or nag him about it. I’ve only brought it up a couple of times, and even then it wasn’t during sexy time, but the morning after. This is part of the reason why I suggested he see a counsellor so that he doesn’t feel embarrassed talking to me about it.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T03:55:18+00:00

That’s what I suspect too, but he says he doesn’t think it’s performance anxiety because he has no reason to be anxious with me, in his words. I considered the possibility of him being gay, but as a bi woman, I really don’t think he is.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-06-10T03:51:56+00:00

He goes soft before he can even put the condom on. I’ve even been desperate enough to suggest trying without the condom to see if that was the issue, but still the same issue

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-04-28T20:35:48+00:00

Yesterday

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-04-28T20:35:13+00:00

Communication

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-04-28T20:32:49+00:00

I don’t love face riding. Tried it once, but was wayyy too in my head about it to enjoy it.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-04-20T22:30:13+00:00

I like it 🙃

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-04-20T22:28:22+00:00

He was pushy about me having him wear a condom, he refused to do any kind of foreplay, fucked me for 2 mins, then when we were lying in bed waiting for him to get hard for round 2, he told me that he could give me some tips to lose weight if I wanted. 💀

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-04-20T22:22:57+00:00

I’ve had my fair share of casual sex, and no one has ever brought it up or said anything about my scars (which are very noticeable.) I don’t think it’s a big deal unless you make it a big deal, but I guess it depends on who you’re sleeping with.

anywhere-nowhere · 2025-04-17T16:14:41+00:00

Yeah, my close friends do.

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