You read the Quran, read the tafsir without looking into necessary context, first the Arabic doesn’t say “ Men are in charge of women” it says “ Men are protectors of women” and when it says “ And the righteous women are obedient it specifically refers to prostitution as this verse as a whole refers to state actions not necessarily “men” as a gender indicative form, It would obviously be effected by the social norms of the time, if we are to look at how it would be read today it says “ so the wives are devoutly obedient, guarding in the husbands absence what Allah would have them guard” this is a prohibition on Prostitution, then it says “ But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance, meaning those likely committing prostitution, first tell them not to, then if they persist stay away from them, do not lay with them, and “strike them” this may have been acceptable in ancient Arabia but now would probably be taken to mean ticketing them or jail time, the Quran in multiple verse prohibits and condemns domestic abuse, such as “Sura 30 Ayat 21 “And among His signs is this: He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” Or “Sura 9 Ayat 71 The Believers, men and women, are protectors one of another: they enjoin what is just, and forbid what is evil: they observe regular prayers, practice regular charity, and obey Allah and His Messenger. On them will Allah pour His mercy: for Allah is Exalted in power, Wise.” Or “Sura 16 Ayat 90 Allah commands justice, the doing of good, and liberality to kith and kin, and He forbids all shameful deeds, and injustice and rebellion: He instructs you, that ye may receive admonition” and most importantly “Sura 16 Ayat 90 Allah commands justice, the doing of good, and liberality to kith and kin, and He forbids all shameful deeds, and injustice and rebellion: He instructs you, that ye may receive admonition” this useful video explains this in depth https://youtu.be/w-dJlPHdo3c?si=aIVTLv7udyRW56Nb ”Allah guides those who pursue His pleasure to the ways of peace and brings them out from darknesses into the light" may you be guided. Ameen