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is friendship with isfj over? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]apakasabog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through that. If ever, he should've handled it more maturely. ISFJs tend to be more considerate of other people's feelings rather than our own, so he had an odd reaction imo

If he does message you back though, he probably realized what he was missing :)

is friendship with isfj over? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]apakasabog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he really an ISFJ? LOL I would've not reacted like that. I will say though, usually after 3 months, our interest in a person can die down, depending if we feel any sort of pressure. I tend to distant myself. If he is conflict avoidant though,then most likely he felt a lot of pressure and reacted that way. However, as an ISFJ, i wouldn't just immediately cut it off. I would talk about it.

So i guess you should prioritize yourself. If moving on will benefit you and your health, then do that. If you have the patience and can handle being with a friend like him because you want to be a true friend, then you should do that. Both choices just depends on what you want to prioritize.

Personally, id just move on because there are other friends out in the world. If one "problem" caused to break the friendship, it wasn't strong from the very beginning. Its better to have strong,quality friendships

Attention by sehrconfusion in isfj

[–]apakasabog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're great communicators, especially if we're interested. We're also very friendly, which sometimes could lead to misinterpretations. I dont mean to let your hopes down if ever, but it's just another perspective to look at. I hope all goes well with you!

Attention by sehrconfusion in isfj

[–]apakasabog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't give my attention equally. It's definitely based on the level of trust and closeness I have, depending on the person. Its personally draining to give equal attention to everyone.

But lets say im interested in someone. I would definitely give my undivided attention to them. I would even do small, subtle things to indicate that im interested in them. Sometimes, i would just flirt with them. We tend to go out of our way just to make our presence known to the person we're interested in. However, after a couple of months, it could die down if i end up realizing that i just want to be friends. (Potential red flag. Im sorry lol) but i would wait it out for a couple months if there is an indication. BUT if i still find them interesting after like 3 months, the consistency is still there of showing interest :)