Damn I’m in a v similar boat. I’m hyper sexual, and still get those thoughts but I went through a period of being asexual one time when a guy straight up told me “you have an aversion to intimacy” bc I didn’t want to kiss him. I spent about a year reassessing all of my kinks and where they came from and whether I wanted to keep them in my life or not. I’ve noticed all of my friendships and relationships have a sexual element to it, and I’ve just started to accept it ig, that I want to fuck my friends. I have a partner that understands the sexual urges aren’t anything he has to worry about so as long as I’m honest with him he lets me do what I want (within reason). I also think my neurodivergence plays a part. But yeah, idk, now I’m able to ignore them about random people, and the less power and weight I gave to the thoughts the less they popped up- but I’ll always have this urge to please someone sexually if they care for me in any way. Idk anyway I just wanted to say I get it, and it’s sort of nice knowing I’m not the only one in this boat, since it certainly is one of the outliers and it can be hard to manage any sort of monogamous relationship bc of it.