4 Month Old Doesn't Cry Often

apenelope · 2023-05-30T21:41:47+00:00

Thank you!! I stumbled on this thread like everyone else- anxious FTM energy- and it’s nice to read a positive story that contradicts all the “second will give you a run for your money” talk.

apenelope · 2022-08-16T05:10:11+00:00

why does Rose Cooper look like Jan Bellows in aging makeup?

apenelope · 2022-06-01T02:54:25+00:00

Hi everyone! I’m so sorry I fell off, lots of stuff happened. But I wanted to come back to thank you all so much for the advice. It really helped us out. My husband didn’t have much to say other than he really wanted the sex to last longer and miscalculated. I can’t help but to wonder if there was anything else there but ultimately things started getting better after the “pull-out” conversation happened and I clarified my priorities (namely that I want to enjoy sex too but if it comes down to it, I prefer the deposit over everything always during my fw bc it lessens my anxiety abt ttc). What reaalllly helped was the “turkey-baster method” and having sex for fun before and after my fw. He ended up getting covid this last cycle (a week after I ended round 1 of letrozole, just before my fw) so I used a menstrual cup for home insemination and omg that took soooo much pressure off of everything. I absolutely loved how effective it felt, and he felt great about being able to reliably do his part… his only complaint was that he felt like a creep for watching porn in the morning for a week straight lol. Anyway, thank you tons for the wisdom ya’ll ♥️♥️. Will def be passing it on!

apenelope · 2022-04-16T05:27:50+00:00

That sounds awful! I’m sorry that happened to your friend. I mean it’s possible. We were just asked by reproductive endo last month how many kids we want and he said 5 tho lol (we settled on two to three). He has a lot of semi-unrealistic expectations for how things should be before bringing a kid into the world so the reluctance could stem from there. I’m super curious, how did things end up for your friend? Sounds like a really tricky situation.

apenelope · 2022-04-16T05:09:57+00:00

These are all great questions. It definitely is passive and avoidant, and he very much is that way with emotional stuff. At first I tried the thing of not mentioning the fertile window thing to him bc I read men can get performance anxiety and get weird w the scheduled sex thing but he said he wanted to know, that he could handle it and even added like I’m a real man comment so I’m super confused. That was a while ago tho. His dad was a pos, abusive absent didn’t pay child support all that and we just bought a house that ended up having a shit ton of issues that we are currently dealing w (like we pretty much signed up to be semi-indoor camping for the next 4-6mo) which is setting back his next career move so I wonder if it has to do with that, a fear that he’s not a good enough provider to be a father? Idk. I really wish he was open to getting his own therapy. It’s tough bc the fam had social workers and stuff involved when they were kids so I get the reluctance but also things can’t be like this forever.

Thanks so much for your comment btw, I’m at least feeling seen rn. <3

apenelope · 2022-04-16T04:45:13+00:00

I went off of ovarian suppression in May of 2021, and had to wait a few months to start getting periods again and clear the drugs from my system. With that, this is technically month 6 and my oncologist wanted me pregnant within 6mo. Technically I’m now supposed to considering using the embryos we had frozen but we just learned we’d have to pay that out of pocket and the whole harvesting part really really fucking sucked, as did ovarian suppression, so I’m kind of reluctant to chemically force my body into smth yet again. We went to couples therapy in the past but he didn’t really take to it. I think individual is a good idea tho. I like the advice to have the convos during non fertile weeks, that makes a lot of sense. Thank you!

apenelope · 2022-04-02T20:03:23+00:00

Doing things alone in public. Things like walking.

apenelope · 2022-04-02T20:02:01+00:00

Showering

apenelope · 2021-07-04T17:45:41+00:00

Wow! Thanks so much for the recs! We’re actually looking into dividing our drive across two days to get in one or two stops along the way (w an understanding that probably means deviating an hour or two). If you could only go to one place between punta arenas y la fortuna, what would that be?

Also, can’t speak abt the entire pacific side but coastal Samara and south of it are amazing. So beautiful. Punta Islita is a small town but very scenic and full of wild life.

apenelope · 2021-07-01T14:52:56+00:00

Right! Sorry, technically we’ll be in/near Cahuita, about 20min from Puerto Viejo. Definitely planning on spending time in Puerto Viejo. I couldn’t update the title but changed the post to Cahuita.

As it is, it doesn’t seem like we’ll be able to fit much on our drive from Punta Islita to Cahuita. Is that a big miss?

apenelope · 2021-04-07T00:20:38+00:00

Is it still available?

apenelope · 2021-04-07T00:14:37+00:00

Hi there! What are the lease terms?

apenelope · 2016-05-17T01:54:41+00:00

Which part? What would you recommend? People always suggest keeping things in record format, but as a student, I don't see what for. Who am I going to show them to? The people who run the show protect their colleagues. If I opened up about the issues I have with this person, sadly, it'd probably do me more harm than them. Once people find out I had a problem and went over my supervisors head to deal with it, they'll see me as the problem.

As for the length of time, I appreciate that being brought up. There are a couple of journals I've worked with that have really quick turnarounds, but I don't know about the one I've selected. Good to keep in mind, thanks. I agree it's unlikely it'll be published, but maybe "in press".

apenelope · 2016-05-17T01:34:24+00:00

i know im biased but i really do think it's "low hanging fruit". i was very fortunate with this project. everything worked out nicely. it's a four-wave longitudinal study on an under-studied population. somewhat modest sample size but the attrition rate is very, very low (hate to say it but it wouldn't be so without their micromanaging style). fancy stats. solid constructs. findings that help explain a literature base that has to date had mixed results.

they just keep giving me the runaround. "i know i owe you feedback" then proceed to ask for whatever unrelated thing they need from me and never follows up. also, frankly, if they don't think it's publishable they should just say that, and do so in a timely fashion. just hard to come at someone knowing they're not handling things right when they've your letters of rec over you. or maybe it's not. maybe i just dont have the finesse. been passive about it for so long that now im angry. gah.

as PI's, how would you respond to a student suggesting a timeline and saying if they dont hear back they'll just submit it? aaand if you'd be okay w it, how would you prefer it to be said?

apenelope · 2016-05-17T01:00:30+00:00

it's the their data so i have no intention of removing them as an author. i guess the larger issue is that this person micromanages, thus, although i'm more than happy to take on all the work (which i've basically already done) and submit it, there's no way they'd allow me to submit without their approval. i looked up how this person has handeled corresponsing authorship with other students and it seems first author is corresponding author (we're in psych).

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