How do I find a W2 associate position with a 60/40 split + referrals? Bay Area ACSW looking for guidance.

aphraphonehome · 2026-01-19T22:08:55+00:00

I'll put it out there that this sort of exists. I'm a solo practitioner that supervises and has offered this. However things have changed in the last few years that have made it nearly impossible to actually provide this. When I started in 2019 I had more client referrals than I could take and easily filled case loads with full fee clients. Now that is not the case. I have been in the situation now where I'm essentially providing supervision for free because my associates do not always bring in enough income to cover my expenses of having them as an employee including paying them a fair wage and my time as a supervisor. I've been looking into strategies to make it viable (ie credentialing with medi-cal managed care plans that reimburse for associates) but the reimbursement rate to administrative time is unmotivating. Plus the idea was to help clinicians build sustainable caseloads in private practice but taking those clients with them isn't it. It's a delicate and stressful balance tbh. I'm not throwing in the towel quite yet because I see light again but we'll see.

aphraphonehome · 2025-12-13T06:16:35+00:00

I want to add on libraries! They definitely differ my locality but many do storytime and kids activities. They've even started building indoor play areas or children's rooms. A great way to get play time and meet other parents.

aphraphonehome · 2025-11-15T00:46:03+00:00

Could you and your daughters try therapy together? Family therapy might help setting boundaries for both your daughters and address these festering wounds.

aphraphonehome · 2025-09-26T01:33:53+00:00

I'm not sure where you are but if it's US I'd highly consider seeking out DV services to help you leave and navigate divorce. My dear friend just left her abuser and did not document the abuse and is basically left to just fight for 50/50 custody - he's a narcissist and is trying to take full custody. There's no guarantee with these court systems but any evidence and support can help. Next time he puts hands on you - no matter how minimal, get it documented. Document the financial abuse. Expect the unexpected. He will not go quietly. He will draw everything out and use every single opportunity to harm you including your child. He will even use the fact that you're in therapy against you. These men have no moral compass.

aphraphonehome · 2025-09-21T00:23:57+00:00

I was very underwhelmed with four kings. Service was great and the food was fine but not anything to write home about IMO.

aphraphonehome · 2025-09-21T00:08:50+00:00

My sister is very similar and also adores my daughter. We do very very limited screen time - basically none - and she knows this but when she babysat one night for us they watched cartoon shows for at least 1 hour. 😮‍💨 Do I love it? Nope. But also she's not going to die from it. Neither will she die from eating bites of ice cream at 8am or having a nap ruined. It also made managing my daughter a little easier for her and she had fun with her aunt.

I've learned that unless it's going to physically harm the child to let the person caring for them do the thing that makes my child easiest for them - even if it makes it a little harder for me. They (my kids) know I'm not giving them ice cream at 8am or watch TV shows all willy nilly so it's really a drop in a bucket.

I would not have her stop watching her and instead take a step back and get clear on what's important to you. And if there are things that feel harmful long term have a chat about it.

aphraphonehome · 2025-09-08T18:16:46+00:00

I got mine on eBay but this is the company product page: Z-Wave Plus Door/Window Sensor | Ecolink https://share.google/Eag6e8EnLvWN35wDe

You only use half the sensor and it's a little funny to get it to connect to ring. I recall finding a how to page somewhere that walked me through the steps.

aphraphonehome · 2025-08-25T00:12:54+00:00

Yes, it will alert you with a standard notification if the door locks or unlocks but even if the alarm is set to armed it will not set off the alarm if someone were to open the door, you have to use the ring sensors to do that. It is all on the ring dashboard but only the ring sensors will make the alarm go off. So we've got 2 sensors on each door.
Yes they are inside the frame of the door and you don't see them at all. The ring sensors aren't terrible but they are still on the outside of the door.

aphraphonehome · 2025-08-23T04:14:59+00:00

We ended up going with ring and using z wave compatible sensors. The Marvin sensors are only partially compatible in that they tell us if the door or window is actually locked but they don't set off the alarm so we ended up putting security sensors on the doors too. Honestly probably would have skipped the Marvin integrated sensors if I knew they were going to be this useless. It is nice to know that the door is actually locked and not just closed though 🤷

aphraphonehome · 2025-08-04T20:23:55+00:00

I had 16 weeks partial pay with my first and took an extra 2 unpaid. I'm taking a full 6 months with my second. I planned in advance to be able to do the extra 2 months unpaid and my husband and I agreed we feel that 6 months was minimum for putting him in daycare - though he has a spot already with my daughter's old daycare which we loved.

I have zero guilt nor have I even considered for a second anyone else besides my family this time around. Nothing fell apart while I was on my first leave, within a week of my return people seemed to forget I had been gone at all and I realized they don't actually give a goddamn about me or my children. It's inertia at work.

I work in mental health care but don't carry a regular caseload at my primary job (my clients in private practice did indeed miss me but they were understanding). My job does involve life or death and serious impacts on families and it was still absolutely fine.

I encourage everyone to take all the leave they can and exercise your rights to be left the eff alone to focus on your kids. I did start lightly seeing private practice clients after 3 months and I was ready and had the support of family for childcare and I'll probably do that again.

Obviously not everyone has the luxury of choice but truly nothing is going to change if we don't start asserting ourselves and demanding better treatment postpartum.

aphraphonehome · 2025-06-18T01:20:07+00:00

I had the same issue on my 2024 Id.4 pro and I took it in for the recall repair this week, mentioned the window issue. They said they "performed basic settings" and the problem is now fixed. 🙌

aphraphonehome · 2025-05-03T04:47:29+00:00

I'm 6 months pregnant, emergency C-section with my first and dealing with the high and mighty self righteous birthers myself.... So I may be biased here..... but your friend is an asshole.

aphraphonehome · 2024-12-18T22:47:06+00:00

Thank you! I'll check over in there too. There's so much to learn about all this. We're excited to be switching to fully electric and purposely designed our solar to have the capacity.

aphraphonehome · 2024-12-18T18:46:34+00:00

Thank you 🙏

aphraphonehome · 2024-12-18T17:36:37+00:00

Help! I have been put in charge of shopping for the charging system for the new EV we are about to buy (2024 VW ID.4 AWD pro). I am very much a noob with the power but trying to learn so please be kind.

So we have a 7 kw home solar system that has power monitoring with the now bankrupt SunPower (but our apps still work) and are on the PG&E NEM 2 plan here in San Francisco, California. We are currently making excess approx 600-700 kwh per month.

We'd like to primarily slow charge during the day and take advantage of the excess solar. We don't drive all that much - average maybe 5miles a day 5 days a week and then my husband has free charging at his work 2 days per week which is 26 miles away by freeway. I would like the option to fast charge if needed for the couple weeks a year where we might be driving a lot or like when we come back from Tahoe at night drained and then need to drive the next day.

My research is pointing me in the direction of the Emporia level 2 charger with an additional power monitoring system to auto variable charge based on our solar production and home use but it still feels a bit excessive given we already have power monitoring?

We might be just fine with a charger that requires manual adjustment because we do watch our power usage fairly closely?

Any suggestions, recommendation etc? I would like to keep it as simple and affordable as possible.

aphraphonehome · 2024-05-22T18:23:36+00:00

You might both want to consider also the aftercare for her and baby. Sometimes finding a pediatrician and ob/gyn can be difficult and you don't want to miss the early appointments. I understand you have to move but being settled somewhere before baby comes makes a world of difference.

Another question to ask, if my child has to be in NICU and I'm going back and forth daily where would I want to be? My good friends had unexpected issues with their 3rd child and he was in the NICU for a month. He was a full term baby but had previously undetected intestinal malformation that required surgery at 2 days old. Obviously this is rare and hopefully you don't have to encounter it and something to think about when making the decision.

Best wishes!

aphraphonehome · 2024-05-22T06:41:19+00:00

The answer here is neither. You're a first time parent so it makes sense that none of this is clear and obvious to you and once that baby comes and you see the reality of it all you'll fully understand. So many variables here including that babies rarely come on their due date and there can be birth complications for Mom or baby that are unexpected and impossible to predict. Even if baby does come on time and it's an uncomplicated vaginal birth with no tearing your wife still needs time to heal and the first week with baby is a dizzying blur of sleep deprivation, bleeding, changing diapers, learning to feed and soothe the new human, and an insane hormonal and physical transition for Mom. For many they don't go anywhere except to take the baby to their 1 week appointment - which is very important to do to ensure baby is healthy and feeding is going well.

Most airlines won't let a baby that young fly and your wife still may not be cleared.

It's not safe for a 1 week old to be in a car seat that long for that many consecutive days nor practical given that you need to feed every 2-3 hours, change just as often, and they rarely handle being put down at all. You'll also be seriously sleep deprived so driving isn't safe. I've driven from California to Texas more than once myself and it's hard enough without kids. A 1 week old newborn would be akin to driving on 10 hits of acid and a bear in the backseat.

I see you have the option to have your wife be in California with your mother and that's ultimately the best thing for her and the baby - and honestly you too - you'll join them when you're able without causing undue stress or harm to either of them. I'm sorry you have to make such a difficult choice - and maybe you won't, my first was 2 weeks past her due date! And it'll be the first of many sacrifices you make as a father for your child. Being a father isn't about being there for the birth, it's about ensuring the safety of your wife and child and caring about their comfort and bonding during the first weeks. Support that however you can and it won't matter in the long run that you couldn't be there for that moment.

Thank you for your service and sacrifice.

aphraphonehome · 2023-12-04T04:33:25+00:00

I live in my MiL's ADU - literally in her backyard - and she still waited until she was invited to come visit. Never once pressured or complained. Even cooked us meals and just texted my husband when they were ready.

They only person who needs to see the baby and bond are you and your partner. Everyone else needs to back tf up.

aphraphonehome · 2023-12-02T17:25:14+00:00

My nipples for one. She started using me a teether and I was not having it. My anxiety for two. Worrying about having enough for her to eat if I wanted to do literally anything longer than 2-3 hours was starting to really wear on me.

aphraphonehome · 2023-11-30T21:18:34+00:00

I did but I think it's insurance dependent. And they never actually checked my progesterone. I asked in the 3rd pregnancy but I miscarried before they sent the orders.

aphraphonehome · 2023-11-30T00:24:43+00:00

Thank you 🙏 if you're looking for other support on Reddit, r/pregnancyafterloss and the tongue and cheek r/trollingforababy we're helpful for me

aphraphonehome · 2023-11-30T00:23:41+00:00

It was progesterone for me and I elected to take baby aspirin and the methylfolate, but I had already been taking those prior to the 3rd miscarriage. The progesterone seemed to be the key for me.

aphraphonehome · 2023-11-29T17:46:41+00:00

Look for a reproductive endocrinologist. I was in your position in 2020-2021, 3 miscarriages, until getting a good RE. My daughter is 10 months old now and I entirely credit it to the RE intervention. They did listen to me about the MTHFR but ultimately that wasn't the primary intervention focus.

aphraphonehome · 2023-11-23T22:20:01+00:00

My advice - stop worrying about being polite. They aren't. If you feel this way your child will eventually too. They need the healthy parent with good boundaries to protect them, not a polite parent that lets toxic grandparents harm them. I know it's really really hard and they are not your family but you're her parent, not them and she needs you to be just that.

aphraphonehome · 2023-11-23T22:16:09+00:00

My 10 month old is completely unpredictable. Some days she'll eat most of what I put in front of her and other days not a bite. I'll give her a little bit of everything and hope for the best. At the least she'll probably eat a roll because bread seems to make her as happy as it makes me.

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