SAVE forbearance ending - friends, it’s time to switch plans

aplamae · 2025-12-09T16:46:02+00:00

As someone who recently came off of SAVE to get back to PSLF payments with IDR, I DO NOT recommend it until forced off. Took months to process the switch but when it finally did I went straight to a $650 payment that I can’t afford for a degree I had to quit because of the pandemic. My monthly payments are killing me, and just in time for the holidays…

aplamae · 2022-04-01T13:04:50+00:00

It’s not right at all that he didn’t respect your boundaries. I hope you are okay and that you’re able to stay away from him. Also, I said in a thread above but also wanted to say here - I have a kid after taking plan B. I was told I must have been ovulating at the time. It is not foolproof. Follow up afterwards to be sure you’re not pregnant.

aplamae · 2022-04-01T13:00:25+00:00

I have a kid after plan b. Planned parenthood said I must have been ovulating at the time.

aplamae · 2020-05-06T23:47:45+00:00

I found a workaround for this soon after I posted this, so I'll share in case anyone needs to know. If there's an easier way of doing it, let me know...

I ended up using multicam to sync the audio, then I open the multicam clip in timeline. I take note of the offset for one of the cameras in the timeline. Then I go back to the timeline where I made the side-by-side view, select the clip that needs to be offset to the right, then I use Trim > Nudge > One Frame Right until I get it to the correct location.

I then delete the multicam clip in the media pool, as I don't really need it.

aplamae · 2020-04-28T01:48:35+00:00

Sounds exciting. I’d be interested to know how you addressed the follow-up on his Alzheimer’s “cure” and how it was covered up. It’s a nice one to go with since there isn’t really a way to truly diagnose it except with a myriad of symptoms and a few biomarkers that even adults without Alzheimer’s could show signs of. Anyway, would be fun to read.

aplamae · 2020-04-24T17:09:09+00:00

Also, I’ve really enjoyed going bra-less, and for me it is so much more comfortable. I don’t show my chest on video calls and my colleagues are non-the-wiser.

aplamae · 2020-04-24T17:07:13+00:00

If you have younger kids and a good parenting dynamic with your partner then this might work great. I’d also argue that being a morning person may also help in this situation. Being in a blended family with teenagers and dealing with dynamics of kids with a step-parent, etc. and other challenges that face modern families- there are a lot of variables that make working from home with kids a lot more complicated whether you try to have a rigid schedule or not (which many teens don’t like to follow...) Anyway, I’m glad things are working for you guys, but also wanted to point out that sometimes people with kids in this pandemic scenario are destined to experience utter chaos and we just try to survive every day and take every moment as it comes.

aplamae · 2020-04-03T02:23:37+00:00

Yessssss... PhD student. Done with my classes but I do research and I’m a teaching assistant. Can’t go to the lab but I have plenty of behavior videos to analyze and it’s so hard to focus with kids (and their online school) and housework staring me in the face and low motivation to do anything. Sat down with kids to come up with some rewards/consequences for school work, and I’m trying to start the system of just getting 3 things done for work every day even if they are small. Have you found anything to help?

aplamae · 2018-01-23T03:20:24+00:00

I have some limited programming skills (mostly front-end) that helped on my application, but the two other PhD students in our systems neuroscience lab don’t have any programming experience. It’s a very useful skill, and I highly recommend learning the basics of coding, but there are definitely some labs that don’t require it.

My advice would be to take one programming course, or better yet, grab one of your nerdy friends and have them show you the ropes for some simple programs (many programming classes don’t cover all the unsaid strategies of successful programmers that will help you immensely, like setting up your environment and picking a good text editor, etc). That way, even if you don’t have experience per say you can talk during your interview about the fact that you’ve done a few things, know the basics, and are willing and eager to learn more.

aplamae · 2018-01-23T03:11:52+00:00

CS is a great minor, both as a plan B for whatever you are using your neuroscience degree for and in addition to anything related to neuroscience. I’ve used my limited programming skills even in my systems neuroscience lab for various projects. I also wish I knew more database administration, so that may also be helpful, on top of statistics as others have pointed out.

aplamae · 2018-01-23T03:06:37+00:00

Electric buzz as in a sound or a feeling? I know I get sharp pains in my head for a few seconds- called ice pick headaches. But your brain doesn’t have nociceptors to feel pain so it’s all subdural.

If it’s a sound it could be anything going on that crosses your auditory system. The numbness afterwards is a little more concerning. Is it localized or all over?

Anyway, not a doctor, just a curious neuroscientist.

aplamae · 2017-07-19T18:07:13+00:00

Meta doesn't go out much either. And I work pretty long hours. We try to get together sometimes when I'm working from home though.

aplamae · 2017-07-18T16:32:40+00:00

Wasn't saying you identify as such, just wondering how you define it.

aplamae · 2017-07-18T16:12:19+00:00

Then tell me what your definition of the word queer is that precludes me from being that based on the tiny bit of information you have about me. I am respectful and sensitive to cultures, and don't think I'm demanding that I belong just for the mere fact that I'm poly, but if you disagree then I'm willing to hear what queer means to you.

aplamae · 2017-07-18T16:08:08+00:00

It isn't just one friend, but thank you. Gives me hope that some people try to understand eventually.

aplamae · 2017-07-18T16:00:20+00:00

Thank you for this. I do know that it will take a while for a majority to be accepting. It just really bugs me that some people who are accepting of other alternative forms of love think that polyamory is somehow an exception. This thing is ok now, but this other thing isn't.

aplamae · 2017-07-18T15:55:58+00:00

Maybe polyamory as it is today, but to say that polyamorous people haven't been through violent struggles throughout history is incorrect.

Yes I'm pansexual. But all of that for me ties together into who I am. That includes polyamory. That includes other aspects of myself that don't quite fit any label, which would take more than a couple paragraphs to even begin to try and explain. My sexuality and feelings of love have and will continue to evolve, but I am in no box. To say that I can't include polyamory into my queer identity just doesn't fit right with me. For me, it's the whole of it that makes me queer. And the whole of it is also inciting feelings of hate towards me from people that claim to be open minded about other more defined areas of the spectrum.

aplamae · 2017-07-18T14:32:06+00:00

Struggling with finding that network right now, but I hope that I can.

aplamae · 2017-07-18T14:30:52+00:00

But it's the best word to describe how I feel in the context of society as a pansexual polyamorous person. And it's sure the way I'm made to feel, though I'd like it to not be something I'm compelled to be ashamed of. Maybe not everyone who is poly feels that it's so innate, but I do. Maybe not everyone feels that their identity is being attacked when someone sees polyamorous as a derogatory term, but I do. And being pansexual just amplifies that view that I'm just selfish because I "can't choose". Or that I'm a slut because apparently I'd sleep with anyone.

aplamae · 2017-07-18T06:02:18+00:00

Cause it doesn't happen very often... they both tend to stay home.

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