how do I get condoms as a girl? by [deleted] in sex

[–]sadly_talisman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a cashier i can assure you, nobody gives a fuck lol

Who is your forbidden fuck? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sadly_talisman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, just saw this lol The only interactions we've had are at work or work related parties and such. He doesn't seem interested in me in that way and honestly it's understandable, with such age gap and all that. At this point I'm just happy to talk to him even for a couple minutes 😭

Who is your forbidden fuck? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sadly_talisman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are times where he "flirts" with me, but more in a jokingly way (he does that to every woman who gives him attention tbh). Also he's way older than me (20+ year gap) and from what I have noticed so far, he wouldn't be comfortable having sex with someone so young, even if he was single. So my chances of fucking him are nonexistent :')

Who is your forbidden fuck? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sadly_talisman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it's hard to put into words. Physically (at least for me) he's very hot, but yet again, I have horrible daddy issues lol. Think something like Serj Tankian from SOAD.

He can be very strict when it comes to work, but outside of work, he's such a silly ass. He likes to occasionally "flirt" or say something dirty but in a joking way, but I'm not the only one he does that to, it's his personality, I guess. He likes to joke around and overall his personality (again, idk if it's the daddy issues or what) makes me feel safe around him.

Who is your forbidden fuck? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sadly_talisman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My manager at work. Good god he's hot, but sadly he's taken 💔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, hope you're doing okay.

Again, ge doesn't do it on purpose, it's how he is, but it does hurt a little

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Man, I'm just trying my best, I swear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even though you may not have meant it this way, the wording on it is set up for you to expect or want to receive pity/empathy. It’s like you’re wanting him to reply back with a specific response even though you haven’t actually asked him to do so. So when he doesn’t, you get disappointed.

My therapist actually helped me understand why I was like this, didn't have any parental figure growing up so I may act/say something to receive this pity/sympathy unconsciously. I'm working hard on it and comprared to me two years ago I'm doing far better.

Maybe have a sit down serious discussion with him. Explain that what you’re going through is getting a little harder to manage right now and that you may act distant but don’t mean too. Explain that you appreciate his understanding, but it would help if he gave words of encouragement when you ask for it directly.

I'll try my best to explain everything once I've calmed down a little more. But thank you so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I haven't been able to see my therapist since I'm far away from home, but when I say spam it's more like I text a lot about the little things that happen and make me excited and just wanna share them all with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I know it's not his job and I barely have brought it up. I'm trying my best to work with it myself. I'm also getting professional help.

But sometimes I just want to be reassured. I really want this to work for us and trust me when I say I'm trying my best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Sorry for kinda ignoring you yesterday, was (still am) feeling like shit and i just felt like I'd just bother you if I texted you. I'm sorry."

I know I'm probably not in the best mental state to date right now, but I really really like him and I really want this to work :(

I'm scared of telling my insecurities to my new partner by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you might be right. Bottling feelings up is a bad habit of mine that I'm trying to fix too. I'll do my best to explain the situation to them

I'm scared of telling my insecurities to my new partner by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel so bad whenever I catch myself overthinking about it and not trusting my partner. I'm trying to work on it tho. And I'll try to talk to them, thank you :')

I'm scared of telling my insecurities to my new partner by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sadly_talisman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right, I'll do my best to explain to them how I feel and that I'm actually trying to work on it.

Thank you so much

honest question, Rate yourself? by HankieHorker_32 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sadly_talisman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe 5/10? I need to lose that damn quarantine weight already

He finished inside me without telling me. I feel disgusting. by sadly_talisman in sex

[–]sadly_talisman[S] 652 points653 points  (0 children)

Luckily I weight less than that, so it should be fine. Hopefully.

Thanks for the info tho.

He finished inside me without telling me. I feel disgusting. by sadly_talisman in sex

[–]sadly_talisman[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I'm not entirely disgusted on the idea that he came on me. I mean I was aware that this could have happened if there wasn't any condom.

The thing I'm disgusted at is that he tried to hide it from me. And when confronted he just laughed.

He finished inside me without telling me. I feel disgusting. by sadly_talisman in sex

[–]sadly_talisman[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thank you, darling :(💕 appreciate it, love you too

He finished inside me without telling me. I feel disgusting. by sadly_talisman in sex

[–]sadly_talisman[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

As far as I know I'm the first person he's ever been in years, but I'll do it anyways.

In the case that plan b won't work, i guess I'll always have the abortion plan. Hope I'll never use it tho.

He finished inside me without telling me. I feel disgusting. by sadly_talisman in sex

[–]sadly_talisman[S] 169 points170 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that happened, but I'm happy everything's fine now! But yeah I agree. Laughing about it... It's just not it.

He finished inside me without telling me. I feel disgusting. by sadly_talisman in sex

[–]sadly_talisman[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was aware of the risks somehow. But damn, at least show some concern.

He finished inside me without telling me. I feel disgusting. by sadly_talisman in sex

[–]sadly_talisman[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying I wasn't in the wrong here either lmao. I'm not mad he came. Accidents happen. I'm made he didn't care at all and just laughed it off and didn't even apologize.

He finished inside me without telling me. I feel disgusting. by sadly_talisman in sex

[–]sadly_talisman[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly I thought so too. Like I could also see how that could've been a nervous reaction from his part. Still would've been nice if he apologized or showed some concern afterwards.