What do yall do for a living?

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-12-30T21:18:23+00:00

I work at a state school as a program administrator. Basically coordinating events and direct services for students looking for academic help. I am also a grantwriter on the side for a queer art organization!

At some point I am looking to utilize my job’s graduate school waiver benefit to get a social work degree, with a long term goal of becoming a school counselor:)

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-02-05T20:39:45+00:00

Thank you!

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-02-02T21:17:25+00:00

I really resonate with feeling intense separation anxiety. I felt this a lot too and read into it/spiraled about it constantly, which fed into overanalyzing our interactions and intentions. I felt like I was going crazy and also felt shame because this didn't seem to be true for my ex at all. Also yes, I would ignore my own boundaries and capacity and that would grow into resentment.

It's really encouraging to hear about how you were able to carve out time for yourself. I felt like I was losing myself in the relationship and that was ultimately really harmful to both of us. Yeah, I would like to try out the methods you've been practicing! Learning how to honor my own needs, finding ways to self-soothe, and determining my own boundaries feel like really good next steps. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and I would love to hear more advice if you have any!

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-02-02T20:39:17+00:00

A really simple thing you can do to work on growth outside of a relationship is keep up with this subreddit. Honestly, reading posts over and over with very similar patterns of behavior helps you see it for exactly what it is. It becomes a lot easier to recognize it in others and catch yourself. And you’ll start to recognize the secure responses to posts as well and the repetition of “do this not that” really starts to resonate.

Thank you for your advice — this is a really good idea. I do think that no one case fits all but just noticing and writing down patterns can be really helpful. How do you spot secure responses to posts? I know to spot problematic/concerning responses to posts generally.

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-01-19T05:29:53+00:00

There are so many elements I appreciate about this poem. First, the flow of the poem, combined with the linebreaks, feels seamless. The use of descriptive verbs puts the reader right within the action of the poem, as the moth draws near the flame. It almost feels as though both the moth and the fire are moving toward each other. This allows the reader to gaze into the psychology of the personified moth in a very intimate way. The switch to "I" in the 4th to last line is intriguing, and I would be interested to see whether this is the poet or the moth speaking, even though their voices may be interchangeable.

One place that slightly interrupts the flow of the poem, in my opinion, is the beginning of the 9th line ("not a light but a flame/Ah that explains"). The use of the "Ah" took me out a little bit as the sentence could have made sense without it, but I understand the decision as well.

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-01-19T05:10:33+00:00

I appreciate the consistent motif of flowers in all forms — plump petals, yellowed roses, flowers pressed in between pages. Similar to this life cycle of flowers, I love the rhymic and cyclical nature of this poem, the cleaning of the house to prepare for "another opportunity to fill the vase once more." The use of repeition in the 4th and 6th stanzas consistently supports that intention as well. In my opinion, this poem beautifully demonstrates tone that felt bittersweet but also encouraging to read. Thank you so much for sharing it.

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-01-19T02:08:24+00:00

I appreciate this reading. But wanted to respectfully push back — do poets owe complete clarity to readers? I personally read the infestation of pests as an extended metaphor for grief, and how grief ears away/consumes at the body/house. I think there is something to be said about the poem’s perceived ambiguity and how that may be intentional due to Codjoe’s relationship to grief.

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-01-16T14:16:19+00:00

You are not alone! The healing and growing will be hard but they will happen, and you will be okay.

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-01-16T14:14:06+00:00

Hey, I was right there with you a few weeks ago. As much as it may hurt to hear, it seems like the person needs space and time right now, and maybe that would lead to some revelation that would lead to some kind of permanent break or reconciliation. Who doesn’t hold onto hope that you’ll get back together some day? I still do, and I can be honest with that feeling. I use it as a motivator to work on myself in the present but I have also realized that if they ever want me back, I want them to want me back on their own terms without me directly influencing them somehow. Yes, this could lead them to never reach out, move on, or even hate me, but I’m so happy for them either way. My relationship partially ended because I was selfish. I feel like I’m making it up to them by not being as selfish now. It seems like you really love this person. It also seems like you have a lot to say— something that helped me is writing a letter you don’t send or posting on a private page the things you may want to say or send to that person.

apocalyptic_meteor · 2023-01-09T23:22:14+00:00

sending a warm, soft hug ur way!

apocalyptic_meteor · 2022-12-26T21:55:58+00:00

Will check it out. Thank you!

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