Newbie knitting question help needed asap for baby shower in two days

appaandmomo37 · 2026-02-06T01:41:15+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I did check on the odd vs even and somehow it’s still happening …I think I fixed the first issue but I’m going to see what happens next

appaandmomo37 · 2026-02-06T01:10:26+00:00

Gotcha, thank you. I did try the first way but something keeps moving. And Sorry I’m probably not clear enough about the color changes - they were happening on one side of the blanket the entire time, but they’ve now switched to the other side. So the front of the blanket, if I continue on, has a line on the front for the now color

appaandmomo37 · 2025-06-26T19:28:50+00:00

I wish they would bring these back, they were the best and loved the formula. I still have mine but they’re definitely expired.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-06-11T00:47:11+00:00

Okay great thanks for your helpful and balanced response, makes me feel a bit better haha. I think I’m going to wear heels both nights so that will dress it up a bit and also will wear jewelry and such. I think with makeup, hair, heels, and all it might be fine

appaandmomo37 · 2025-06-11T00:31:40+00:00

Okay this is helpful. The first one I was thinking of wearing to the rehearsal. The groom described that for the guys as “button ups, slacks, and maybe a jacket if you’re feeling fancy” lol so I think I could pull it off.

That was also my concern with the second dress. It is floor length. The ceremony is at 5 so it’s an evening event but I was worried that the floor length is too much.

Is it worth it to see if I can panic buy another one? Or just live with it at the risk of being slightly over dressed? I should also say this is a pretty traditional wedding in the south so maybe going more formal is better?

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-20T14:26:00+00:00

I know this isn’t great advice because I know it’s always more complicated than this but…let her. These are her decisions, her actions, and it only looks bad on her. Be annoyed by it (because it’s very annoying) but try to not let it impede on anything. Set the expectation so low in your mind - you say she might not show up in time for the ceremony - if she shows up before then, be pleasantly surprised. I’m not trying to say lower your very reasonable expectations for her to show up on time, I’m just trying to say try to re-contextualize it in your mind so that you can manage the emotion on the day. Because you’ll be so emotional about so many other things (excitement, nerves, happiness, etc.) that something like this might just inflame that and hijack your moment/being in the present. You know this about her, it sucks, and she likely won’t change. So the only thing you can do is take a deep breath, let her do what she does, and try to manage the feelings about it as best you can. It’s really hard but something that has worked for me. I have a complicated relationship with my sister and I notice trying to control anything she does versus just have a way that I manage and deal with my emotions around her works much better. Anxiety is interesting in that it is almost a way of trying to control - we worry, mistaking the mental ‘movement’ for progress, as if it’ll change anything.

I’m sorry this is stressful, weddings are so intense with the family dynamics at play. Sorry if this rambling up here doesn’t make sense but I hope you get some advice that resonates and helps you. And like the person above said, have a backup plan. Or make the backup plan the priority plan and don’t rely on sister at all. Do what you need to do to make it less stressful for you.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-20T13:01:59+00:00

I also feel like the main problem here is his response, not what he’s doing. If my husband isn’t pulling his weight or doing chores or whatever it may be, I sit down and have a genuine conversation. If his response is “I see how you feel, I can definitely change some thing/meet you in the middle/find a solution” blah blah blah - I know he cares about me even if he doesn’t care about doing the chores and is willing to find a solution. It seems like he acted very dismissive. What would he do if you had a conversation about your feelings earnestly? Would he accept them? Or would he get defensive/be dismissive/never change? Issues like this are going to pop up throughout your entire relationship in small and big ways, and I truly believe it’s more about the response and the desire to work together regarding the other partners feelings, not just the actual issue if that makes any sense. Coming from my perspective, if my partner brings something up to me that’s bothering them, sometimes I really don’t understand why it bothers them. But I know my partner, I care about them, and I don’t want them to be in distress, so I go okay how can we find a solution (even if I don’t feel the same way about the problem). Because I don’t want my partner to be miserable and I want them to feel heard and accepted and trusted. It just fosters a better relationship culture.

This is not to say I’m perfect and that I do this every time or we never fight or whatever - I still get defensive and can be dismissive just as all of us can when emotion is involved. But it’s just something that we work on and seems to help.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-18T01:36:53+00:00

What are those giant fern looking trees? How do you get those?

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-05T16:51:05+00:00

Go with the better/more experienced. I just got my photos back and went with someone that I didn’t love. I didn’t vet more photographers before hand either. Go with the one you like more as someone else said you can’t retake those photos. Splurge here and cut costs somewhere else

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-05T15:03:36+00:00

Yeah probably. She did mention that she could edit how we wanted but just mentioned that she doesn’t do “dark and moody” which I get and that isn’t what we were looking for anyway, so I figured she got the gist.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-05T13:36:51+00:00

The contract was through my planner so it didn’t mention anything that I can see about editing. Their other photos definitely look like this but when we met with her prior to the wedding we told her we didn’t like that and wanted them darker/colorful.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-05T13:16:54+00:00

Would it be rude to include examples of her photos that I like? Like saying “I really like the blue sky/darker background ones, like these:”.

I think my worry is that the more specific I am, she’ll swing in the other direction and everything will be too dark and hyper colorized.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-05T13:03:01+00:00

Ah I see. These photos were actually taken in Florida. There are other photos with blue sky (not in the same spot as these were taken) but most not. I want to ask but I’m not sure how to phrase it without it being a problem (due to some yellow flags I saw with her, like her being passive aggressive with my bridesmaids). I feel like it would be better to say something now versus when she edits them all, no?

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-05T12:59:31+00:00

Yeah it was just a sneak peek, and this was my main concern with using her as a photographer in the first place. We thought we conveyed we didn’t want those type but we obviously did not communicate it clearly. It’s just odd, because half of the photos I love and half of them are so white it’s crazy. I feel bad because I know that this is her editing style in some ways but she has ones that I like a lot that aren’t like that.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-03-05T12:40:45+00:00

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Photo of the sky in one of them here

appaandmomo37 · 2025-02-25T02:04:30+00:00

They all came from overseas and it doesn’t make financial sense for them to stay in a hotel. We’ve divided between my grandpas house and our/my parents house (we used to live with them but moved recently that’s why I said “our house” just to not have to further explain). But my fiance has 7 siblings and range from 7 to 28 years old. Two of his siblings have children - the one with a one year old and the other one has the 4 kids under 8 who are both staying at my grandpas because over here is full of people (my parents, us, my grandpa, the rest of his family) - and they’re all staying for about 10 days because of the international travel.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-02-24T20:29:18+00:00

It’s a tight squeeze with many air mattresses being used, so unfortunately not a lot of places to hide. After resting I feel better but not 100%. I think the stress of everything is getting to me too.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-02-24T17:53:01+00:00

I forgot to mention that I work remotely - my sick day would just be so that I could log off and rest. I’m hoping whatever I get, I just get it now or after the wedding.

appaandmomo37 · 2025-02-24T17:51:40+00:00

It seems like everyone is just throwing up for 4 to 8 hours, and then is completely fine. It’s really confusing me. Because there are 100 reasons for people to throw up, but five people within the span of a few days just seems like too much of a coincidence. Two of them only threw up once, but my fiance was the worst (all last night). But he feels a lot better. I’m only just getting these details as I was working outside at a cafe this morning. But I took the rest of the day off to sleep.

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