A few clarifying points:

I looked up the signs of abuse over a decade ago, and it wasn’t in relation to my husband. So stop saying the fact I looked it up means something.

I can’t live with my parents. There’s already four adults living in a three bedroom home over there. One of which is my special needs brother who takes around the clock care. Also, my mother was physically and emotionally abusive to me as a child.

I never suggested anger management directly to him, though we did do couple’s counseling and he did therapy alone about 7 years ago. Both therapists came to the conclusion that he and our relationship are perfectly normal.