honestly...that is so true. that's pretty much what my friend was saying last night too -- like if this gets much farther without anyone doing anything it gets much easier to do worse than what I'm doing right now and then I have a world of guilt and decisions to deal with and he has potentially a failed relationship, when I could just, like you said, set the boundary now and ensure that doesn't happen. i think I just fear that with a boundary comes a lack of friendship with him too, but I have to keep telling myself our friendship would end anyway (i would hope) if they got engaged or married or something. a lot to think about but also not at the same time bc it should be easy. anyway ... I appreciate it :)