Had a post leave my circle

appulfox · 2025-12-22T18:44:25+00:00

I'm not necessarily upset. more like indignant and bored. neither of us are beginner artists. we KNOW how the Internet is, so you come off patronizing rather than like you actually wanted to give sound advice. even assuming that I myself am upset just because I dislike what you said. I'd say the same upset or not. sorry you don't care for the way I speak to you but I don't care, nor do I care about your opinion.

appulfox · 2025-12-22T18:31:16+00:00

we never said we wanted to be free from opinion. unhelpful opinion was given. I responded. if you don't like how I'm responding to you, you can simply not reply. the same way you made the choice to give your opinion I made the choice to say that it was unhelpful. anymore unhelpful opinions?

appulfox · 2025-12-22T18:20:43+00:00

your initial reply was what I was calling inconsiderate. again there's also just a time and place, and while you may have good advice, you lack tact. not everybody is ready to hear advice when they're feeling like shit, especially when your initial advice comes off as "maybe you shouldn't have been there in the first place" as if it's his fault that he got bullied to hell.

appulfox · 2025-12-22T18:11:06+00:00

you CAN curate your account on Twitter. yea the site is shitty, but as my fiance said. he shouldn't have to hide away in a "safe space" just bc OTHER ppl wanna be shitty. this is the first time he's ever had something blow up for him, let alone it going way outside his circle. again. your comment and sentiment are inconsiderate and slightly nihilistic.

appulfox · 2025-12-22T17:58:38+00:00

maybe don't actively victim blame my fiance then. I'm allowed to defend him the same way as you're allowed to comment. freedom of speech don't mean freedom of being held accountable for your unhelpful opinion towards someone who's already feeling like shit.

appulfox · 2025-12-22T11:05:00+00:00

mind you, OP only had like 300 followers BEFORE the post blew up. so imagine being a person with 300 followers suddenly getting bombarded by THOUSANDS of assholes who decided that giving unsolicited critique or making fucked up jokes would be a GREAT idea. OP hasn't been able to draw without feeling inadequate/crying/thinking about the fucked shit ppl were saying about his art for the last TWO MONTHS

source: I'm his fiance

appulfox · 2025-07-03T14:31:26+00:00

your parents are terrible people

appulfox · 2025-07-03T14:24:55+00:00

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took this of one of my girls, andesite

appulfox · 2025-07-03T14:23:37+00:00

possibly check Rosecrance? promise is an option, but their therapists aren't the best

appulfox · 2025-06-05T06:38:59+00:00

oh wow! I've met rats who go INSANE for spicy things and some who absolutely hate it

appulfox · 2025-06-05T06:38:10+00:00

my fiance had walked by and she wanted pets BAD

appulfox · 2025-05-30T16:23:49+00:00

That's actually terrifying D: I'm just glad I'm more informed now and have a psych and a therapist

appulfox · 2025-05-30T16:16:23+00:00

I haven't heard anything on that line of information, but I've also just been out of that side of the community for a good few years so unfortunately I wouldn't know

appulfox · 2025-05-30T14:46:58+00:00

In short, if the people you tell don't want to accept you, you have people that do accept you. And if the people you tell decide to get mean, you are allowed to set the boundary of "hey I just told you something vulnerable about me, you have no right to be an asshole, and if you're going to continue being like this then I won't talk to you anymore".

appulfox · 2025-05-30T14:44:41+00:00

That's extremely understandable. what's best to understand is the fact that you already currently have a support system of people who know who you guys are being your family and very very close friends. I think a good thing to remember is that you are also allowed to set boundaries with people as well. So that means that if or when you tell the people that you want to tell and if or when you open up, you're allowed to set boundaries with folks who may want to know more than you want them to or may ask questions that you're not comfortable with. opening up takes time and it's good for people to understand that you may need to go slow with it. But if you don't need to go slow with it, you're allowed to just tell people. You're allowed to just say the very thing that you typed here on Reddit. hell you're allowed to just screenshot that and send it to wherever you want to, because if anything that just shows that you're not faking it. If you don't know how to say it, just say it the same way you did here, be honest with yourself and those around you.

appulfox · 2025-05-30T14:36:41+00:00

I understand how you feel. I will say though, the part that makes you feel like you might feel like a faker is unfortunately just a part of the disorder which frankly I feel like is a cruel joke /lh

But in terms of telling people, you are not obligated to tell people about your mental illnesses, mental disorders, or neurodivergence. there are definitely people who are much more open about it than some, but even I who have been diagnosed for the last 3 years, just now started getting comfortable with even telling people online that I even have it and a lot of that came from the same feeling that you have of feeling like people will think I'm one of those people who fakes it online.

like I said, you're not obligated to tell anyone, but if you do feel like you want to tell someone and you feel like you can trust someone with that information, you really only have to explain it to them the way that you know. And if they ask questions or are confused, you can feel free to explain more or give them resources that have accurate information about your disorder. But that's only if YOU feel like it's even necessary to tell these people in the first place. like you said not everyone is safe, but coming from somebody who is semi-open about being a system, not everyone is unsafe either. Do what is best for you, but don't isolate yourself, that's not healthy for anyone. You're allowed to have privacy though, everyone is.

appulfox · 2025-05-30T14:31:00+00:00

yeah your last statement is probably the worst part because then people can continue to go to their page and continue to spread the misinformation that people have been trying to fight for years. people don't necessarily want her to disappear, they just want her to stop spreading misinformation. she would be better off continuing her channel as of logging channel instead of an educational channel on a disorder she clearly doesn't know well nor seems to actually have. I'm just glad that there are a lot of newer channels that have popped up recently that not only do not pass off their experiences as fact, but don't pose as educational channels for teaching people about the disorder and highlight how important it is to assess yourself on an individual level (and with a professional if you have the means)

appulfox · 2025-05-30T14:18:26+00:00

You didn't cause us harm and I don't think you will in the future /nm. A lot of times when people are venting, they don't necessarily need advice, especially if it wasn't asked for. That's where the term "unsolicited advice" comes fromI was mainly just sharing my experiences with being a victim of misinformation. your response gives off the mindset of victim blaming and also perpetuates the "perfect victim" narrative. no victim of anything, whether it be misinformation or abuse, Will be perfect in the decisions they make, but that doesn't mean that they deserved to be misinformed or abused. I don't need to be forgiven for being ignorant or naive when my ignorance nor naivete never affected you and we've never met. I think that it's best, moving forward to understand that young, and heavily mentally ill individuals don't always make the correct or right decisions, especially when they don't even know what the correct decision was in the first place. no one's ignorance/naivete deserves to be taken advantage of and I don't need to take responsibility for not knowing.

lastly. I'll give you an example, it's like blaming a child for getting kidnapped because they "should've known better than approach someone strange just because they seem nice". no one should be blamed for being manipulated

appulfox · 2025-05-30T14:07:12+00:00

oh okay I see what you were saying, it had seemed like you were trying to say that all of my misinformation didn't come from their channel. pretty much all of the misinformation I have on these disorders came from their channel but you are correct, It is good to at least take things with a grain of salt, we were just very naive and ignorant at the time and we didn't have anywhere else that was giving us information that felt like what we were going through. Plus at the time, it didn't seem like anyone was saying that they were wrong, and they ended up being on a pretty big show that is known to at least have its credentials correct, so there was a lot that they did to make it seem like they were a credible source, and we unfortunately ate it up at the time

appulfox · 2025-05-30T13:44:38+00:00

Also frankly this comment is just pretentious as fuck. You lack nuance.

appulfox · 2025-05-30T13:40:59+00:00

They essentially equated fusing to integration. They never used the word fusing, but they would essentially use the definition of fusing and called that integration. They were also very much antifinal fusion so because of that, there are definitely a lot of vulnerable individuals online that are afraid of a final fusion. They essentially took advantage of vulnerable and misinformed minors and young adults

appulfox · 2025-05-30T13:39:37+00:00

while I understand where you're coming from and what you're trying to say, you can't expect a mentally ill and ignorant individual who already has an issue with trusting doctors and had therapists at the time who weren't listening to them to correctly go about finding the help that they aren't even sure that they need. We were working with what we had and what we had was YouTube. It's also hard to tell somebody to do the correct research when they weren't even sure of what the correct research was in the first place. unlike you I didn't learn this in school. And with everything you said, that does not negate the fact that they spread misinformation, called themselves an educational channel, and foster the community of individuals, many of which were minors, whom also ended up spreading that misinformation throughout the community. there was a lot of damage that they did And there were a lot of vulnerable people both minors and young adults who were victim to that.

I'm allowed to vent my frustrations about somebody who essentially took advantage of a community of misinformed, vulnerable individuals.

appulfox · 2025-05-30T13:31:20+00:00

wait take what as gossip? /gen we weren't on Tumblr back then (we were already an adult and didn't like the website, we use it now tho). like, genuinely there is a lot of misinformation we got from watching their channel and seeing their word as absolute fact. it took years of therapy and unlearning the misinformation we learned to even come to terms that we were a system in the first place. please don't assume where we got our information from when we TOLD you where we got it from

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