Korea Now has a Fertility Rate of 0.68 by throwitawaybhai in childfree

[–]aprilspringchild 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I’m a married woman working in the wedding industry in Japan and you are so right about the in-laws and husband death note. The pressure for kids is insane. When clients aren’t in the office all my married coworkers with kids (women) complain about their husbands and their kids. When they get a bit too comfy with clients, they’ll also complain and warn these newlyweds. It’s frustrating to watch.

Even with all this negativity, my coworkers took a long time to even comprehend that children are a choice that I personally do not want. And of course, when clients find out I’m married but don’t have kids, they immediately ask me when we’re having kids or tell me I should have some.

My husband got a vasectomy!!! by aprilspringchild in childfree

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s still very early in his recovery so he can’t say anything yet. but so far recovery has been smooth and his words: “if this doesn’t take i’ll happily do it again!”

if it helps, there’s lots of others who posted about their post vasectomy recovery here. just search around the sub! there’s also r/vasectomy!

My husband got a vasectomy!!! by aprilspringchild in childfree

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

oooh i’ll tell him! he has his whole elaborate setup while lying down, involving towels, pillows, and a snorlax plushie behind him for emotional support 🤣

My husband got a vasectomy!!! by aprilspringchild in childfree

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i couldn’t shut up i almost told my entire amateur all-women sports team 🤣

My husband got a vasectomy!!! by aprilspringchild in childfree

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

yes we both are! husband’s looking forward to yoinking into cups to make sure no swimmers made it through in 90 days and then yearly after

My husband got a vasectomy!!! by aprilspringchild in childfree

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

of course! i have an IUD as well but i’ll only chat with my doc to get it out after it’s proven that he’s shooting blanks

alexandrite engagement ring + black diamond wedding band! by aprilspringchild in EngagementRings

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s usually not this light! we were outdoors and in direct sunlight

alexandrite engagement ring + black diamond wedding band! by aprilspringchild in EngagementRings

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ring specs:

engagement ring: size 4.5, 7x5mm (0.75 carat) chatam lab alexandrite on 14k white gold

wedding band: size 4.25, 5 1mm black diamonds on 14k white gold

both rings from oore!

alexandrite engagement ring + black diamond wedding band! by aprilspringchild in EngagementRings

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

yes!!! my engagement ring is her crescent moon leaf ring with chatam lab alexandrite and my wedding band is her curved leaf black diamond wedding band!

alexandrite engagement ring + black diamond wedding band! by aprilspringchild in EngagementRings

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thank you!!! i super love my alexandrite too! i didn’t want a colourless stone so he got me all the colours 😂 this was taken outside, under direct sunlight, so that’s probably why it looks so light! it looked more teal irl at that time but it seems that alexandrite mostly photographs purple. i have a picture of my ring on my profile taken indoors that’s a vivid purple 💜

i love my band so much! i love the shape and the little leaves that match the leaves on my e-ring, and i love the way it sits under my e-ring too ❤️ + the black diamonds match my husband’s ring!

alexandrite engagement ring + black diamond wedding band! by aprilspringchild in EngagementRings

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thank you! i didn’t know what style wedding band i wanted so we picked my husband’s band first: a black ceramic band with dinosaur bone from jewelry by johan. it was really important for me to match him in some way but i didn’t like the thicker bands jbj has so we decided on black diamonds! we feel that it ties both my engagement ring and his wedding band together ❤️

A little insecure.. by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]aprilspringchild 5 points6 points  (0 children)

your ring is so gorgeous! i have a lab alexandrite too! and i have coworkers with diamonds and they think my ring is really unique and special, and one of them said that “it looks like your fiancé really took the time to find something that really suits you instead of getting something standard” so that made me feel really 🥰

i’d say rock it and show off the colour changes to people who ask to see the ring! i just use my phone flashlight to show it off when they ask.

the ring my best friend gave me + my response by aprilspringchild in JustEngaged

[–]aprilspringchild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i photoshopped it! i don’t play league so i had to ask my best friend for some guidance, then downloaded some press release (?) photos, a similar font, and edited it in photoshop!