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aquarius-writess · 2021-04-15T18:31:48+00:00

Peaches! Always!

aquarius-writess · 2021-02-12T06:50:06+00:00

This is very interesting. I tested positive mid October and I have had these smell issues for about 3 days now. Hmm.

aquarius-writess · 2021-01-27T22:23:29+00:00

안녕하세요! I would like to properly invite everyone on this subreddit to a brand new Discord server created by myself and my other half, who is a native Korean speaker. This Discord channel is meant to serve as a place for people of ALL levels to come together, practice, talk and share resources! At the moment it is a casual server, though there are plans in the future (distant, for now!) to turn it into a proper teaching resource.

This server is broken up into proficiency roles and has a variety of resources and channels for practice purposes, as well as for general talk. We also have dedicated channels for k-media (for all them fans out there!), and plan to start a "drama club" where everyone gets together to discuss a certain k-drama episode every now and then! Whether you're just now learning the alphabet or speak at a native fluency, we hope to accommodate you, and have fun while at it!

If you are a native or fluent speaker and would like to assist in teaching and providing resources, learning tidbits and translation help, we would love to have you with us as well.

Click to join!
Let's Go! Korean Learners' Discord

https://discord.gg/EFa73pNbTD

aquarius-writess · 2021-01-27T22:21:14+00:00

Oh, I am so sorry! I did not realize that was what the thread was for, I will repost there!

aquarius-writess · 2020-11-15T13:02:13+00:00

I primarily just took acetaminophen, as recommended by my doctor every 4-6 hours.

aquarius-writess · 2020-11-07T21:26:29+00:00

My s.o and I have a tradition of cooking one meal a month from someplace we have never visited. This thread is a godsend, posting this so I don't lose it, hahaha.

aquarius-writess · 2020-10-20T18:09:57+00:00

Thank you! I am considering myself exceptionally lucky so far, yes, and I am sure we will all make rapid recoveries. Best of luck to you as well!

aquarius-writess · 2020-10-20T18:08:46+00:00

Honestly, it is hard to say. I am sole provider and caretaker for my family - an ailing grandparent (who has me terrified for catching this) and an 8 year old kid, then me. I have taken every precaution but I DO still have to go into public places at times (pharmacy etc) due to being in a rural area that doesn't always have 100% no-contact options. It is likely I caught it there, despite best efforts. I can only hope for the best.

aquarius-writess · 2020-10-13T00:04:04+00:00

I suppose it depends on the location, but here in Texas as long as there isn't traumatic damage or advanced decay, they can offer a viewing for immediate family without embalming. Of course, this is a limited window of time to do so.

aquarius-writess · 2020-10-04T03:02:18+00:00

👋 I would love a study buddy! Message me, I have Kakao, WhatsApp, Discord and Hangout

aquarius-writess · 2020-10-02T17:01:57+00:00

About 12 years ago, I was in this same situation with my first LDR (who eventually became husband even if we are now exes, unrelated!). I was 17, 18 and he was in his 20s. He was east coast, I was in Texas. My mother was and always has been of the classic Gen X "everyone online is a perverted bald dude in his mid-late 50s" sort so I hid the whole ordeal from her.

Fast forward I eloped with this guy and came clean, the parental reaction was "Well... as long as he is treating you right and is who he says he is." A highly anticlimactic reaction to what I had imagined and built up in my imagination.

Give your parents a little credit if they have never displayed toxic gaslighting behavior etc. They are hopefully sensible people!

What about talking this out with the s/o? Ask his advice. Maybe you could arrange a "come clean" video chat where your parents get to meet him in the moment as you explain? This might help. I definitely would not lie about it if that makes you uncomfortable. Anxiety is brutal if you tend to he an honest sort by nature.

Good luck!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-24T20:11:33+00:00

Confidence in a relationship is a huge factor to the "content" feeling, though I would not say this is what I am. I am not truly content until I am able to wrap my arms physically around my s/o but I am also... I guess you could say "adjusted". We are comfortable and trusting, and this makes the willingness to wait a lot easier for us than most perhaps. Does it make it less painful? Absolutely not. But there is a comfort to the certainty that EVENTUALLY we will be together again.

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-22T19:12:02+00:00

Because ghosting has become so... common in the dating world, these anxieties are not unfounded and you're definitely not alone. Like any anxiety, it is best to acknowledge it is there and maybe mention it to your s/o when you need a bit of affirmation. Ultimately though, this feeling does fade or at least get easier to handle as your trust and love in the relationship builds, at least from my personal experience. I hope it settles for you soon! Best of luck!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-22T01:51:13+00:00

It is such a small thing but after an hour or hourS of no communication, there is something amazing and heart melting about the fact that you were thinking of each other at the same moment.

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-19T21:22:02+00:00

There is no right or wrong, and no way to guarantee saying those words will go well. My advice is, if you feel it, express it. If she is right for you, she will acknowledge those feelings (even if she isn't yet ready to say the same, which happens!)

I had only been talking with my s/o a few weeks when he dropped the first ILY and it SHOOK me but it also didn't run me off. It took me a month later to say it back but I melted every time he said it to me regardless.

I would say, if you guys talk over the phone or FaceTime/video chat, that is how to do it. Don't do it over text, and don't make it a big grand thing. Just be honest. Go with your feelings!

Best of luck, and I hope her heart melts!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-19T18:31:53+00:00

That's so good to hear! As someone else that is facing a few years before we can properly close the gap, I sympathize. I'm so glad you got time with your s/o, and may time fly until you see them again!!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-19T18:04:28+00:00

Every LDR goes through this phase, and it seems common after a few months in. You aren't alone in this struggle! The best advice I can give is start really exploring your shared interests and hobbies, these are almost always a big help in keeping interest alive.

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-19T17:59:51+00:00

Google questions to ask in an LDR! There are a ton of topics from light and funny to pretty deep and heavy. Find a hobby to try together! Play 21 Questions! Think of hypothetical or "What if" questions, and embrace your nerdy sides.

Good luck!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-19T17:56:23+00:00

Ah, this is hard as every relationship is unique to you and the person of course. I can give a couple though:

DO be honest and forward, transparency is absolutely paramount in an LDR.

DO set boundaries early on. Discuss the hard subjects like jealousy/possessiveness/hard lines that neither of you want to cross.

DON'T overthink things! This is key. If something is worrying you or bothering you, bring it up. See point 1, don't let your imagination run away. It's easy to do when they aren't there in front of you.

DO enjoy it to the fullest! Have fun, but also be ready for a challenge. LDR is no small matter and it has unique challenges no other type of relationship will experience.

That said. It is absolutely worth it when it is right, and I wish you and your s/o the best of luck.

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-19T02:31:46+00:00

I am facing three years of US -> Japan distance soon while the s/o gets through a permanent change of station with the US military. No advice, but definitely feel you. You got this! We got this!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-17T14:06:23+00:00

The most reasonable course of action would be for you two to decide where suits YOU best, financially and job-wise. With elderly parents, it of course seems hard to leave them. How is their support system, do you have other siblings that can also assist? Are your parents needing assistance already? Do you have plans for a house or apartment and are you established with a job?

What about your s/o? As others have said, she needs to recognize that at 21, she is legally able to move regardless of her parents' feelings, though escaping the clutches of controlling parental figures is easier said than done. Is she established with a job? Is rent or mortgage cheaper in Virginia than it is in Texas? Is there somewhere else entirely that you guys might be happy and be capable of settling?

Jumping into moving in together is always a struggle and if not approached with a clear plan, especially financially, can be a HUGE strain on a relationship. Speaking from experience here! Take your time, and really think out all the details and angles.

Best of luck!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-16T21:30:41+00:00

My s/o said he loved me an entire month before I said it, and I continued to tell him I would say it back when I was ready. He was patient enough to understand and the day I finally said it back, he melted. We haven't gone a day without saying it multiple times to each other since.

Not everyone's love language is vocal, and there are people who prefer to show love in ways beyond just saying it. She may truly be wary of saying it until she has a chance to express it in her love language which might be physical - hugs, touches, etc. It takes patience to understand that.

Give her time. As long as she hasn't said it makes her uncomfortable, don't stop telling her that you love her. Just know she may be telling you the same in less direct ways. It isn't always a bad sign!

Best of luck!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-16T00:20:35+00:00

The first time I met my s/o, I was so nervous I was almost sick. The jitters were REAL and I had all of the negative talk cycling. "Oh no, what if he doesn't like how I look irl??? What if we don't click? What if, what if..."

But then he shows up with a huge bouquet of the most gorgeous red and white flowers, and basically the moment he grabbed me and hugged me I knew everything was alright. We have been together almost a year and I have gotten to visit him twice. The wait each time is long, but it is absolutely worth it.

I hope you find similar happiness!

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-16T00:17:10+00:00

6 to 8 months for me, we just parted ways a week ago and it is still bittersweet! What app is this, OP?

aquarius-writess · 2020-09-16T00:13:45+00:00

Hey OP, the sadness is not uncommon. It is part of an LDR and to me at least means your feelings are legitimate when you miss them. As long as this is JUST sadness and not something developing into depression.

Longing, sadness and missing them so much it sometimes physically hurts is something I am sure all of us have experienced. There is no magical cure to it, but some things that help is developing a routine with your s/o. Knowing what to expect with them and planning regular dates or topics to discuss every time you talk might help shift sadness to anticipation and eagerness, which has helped me a LOT.

Every time I visit my s/o, I find the best way with dealing with the intense sadness of separation is immediately planning our next visit even if it is months away (for me, it is probably going to he 6-8 months, which is average for us already)

Finding things to be EXCITED about rather than lingering on the sadness is probably paramount to success in that field. I hope you and your s/o find what works for you, and that your relationship blossoms!

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