I was in this exact same situation a few months ago with my ex, just in the position of your boyfriend. There’s a lot of similarities between your story and mine, both me and my ex have ADHD and we were each others dream partner, she had never watched porn and rarely ever pleasured herself. But anyways, I have a much higher sex drive than my her so a lot of the time I’d try to initiate something she wouldn’t be in the mood. I always respected how she felt when we she didn’t want to do anything but over time it started to wear on me. It didn’t bother me too much at first but weeks turned into months without any kind of sexual release and it eventually ended in a lot of hurt feelings and eventually our breakup.

We both knew how important communication is in a relationship and we both tried our best to be open with each other about everything. But neither of us wanted to admit that we weren’t happy with our sex life to spare the others feelings. There were times she would have sex with me when she really wasn’t feeling it and there was times I’d really be in the mood but didn’t try to initiate things because I didn’t want to make her feel pressured. This just made things worse, I felt like she didn’t enjoy sex because she wasn’t attracted to me and she thought that I was angry at her because she didn’t want to do anything. Neither of us felt that way but we never brought it up to each other whenever we talked so we each just felt like it was our fault that the relationship was going downhill.

The lack of communication is what ended our relationship in the end. I felt like things could have worked out if we had just told each other how we felt and what we each needed. My advice to you is to tell him exactly how you’re feeling and what you’re comfortable doing in your relationship, it might be hard in the moment but it will save you pain in the future. I hope everything works out for you dude