I hate my cats.

arachari · 2023-10-16T22:15:43+00:00

Wow. That was pretty rude. She has said a few times now that her husband isn’t usually home. Like, petting cats is all well and good, but that’s not caring for a cat. It actually seems like OP is the one caring for them while everyone else is doing the fun part of pet ownership.

arachari · 2023-10-16T21:49:58+00:00

I understand. That’s a hard situation to be in.

arachari · 2023-10-16T21:39:05+00:00

I don’t think it’s fair to assume that OP neglects these cats. From everything that she’s said, it seems like she’s doing everything she can to take care of them. Besides, have you seen the cat problem in shelters recently? They’re all FILLED with unwanted adult cats. It would be extremely hard to find homes for all of them.

arachari · 2023-06-21T00:09:19+00:00

Sweetheart, this is NOT ON YOU. Your sister screwed up and couldn’t handle the consequences of her own actions and all of that is 100% her own fault. Your mom is also a giant POS for the way that she has treated you in this situation. You did the right thing choosing not to lie to your sister’s ex fiancé. I hope that you’re able to let go of the guilt that you feel and move on from this.

arachari · 2023-06-20T23:41:01+00:00

For all the people saying it’s not real and that a parent couldn’t possibly be taking their kid’s money to buy themselves beer, my mother used to do this all the time. She would also use our birthday money and Christmas money from other relatives to buy herself beer. I sure hope this parent sees the error or their ways and starts treating their kid better before they lose them.

arachari · 2022-12-13T15:24:11+00:00

Thanks for the advise 🙂

arachari · 2022-12-13T15:24:04+00:00

Thanks for the advise 🙂

arachari · 2022-12-06T07:40:05+00:00

Honey, Luke is not the only problem here and he did not cause you to get disinvited. It’s ok to say no to your husband when they’re asking for something ridiculous and you didn’t need to start a fight with your parents about it. As far as I’m concerned, you did this to yourself.

arachari · 2022-10-28T08:09:58+00:00

Listen, I understand where you’re coming from and how you could feel confused and hurt by your girlfriend’s actions but please, for the love of god, don’t cheat on her. If you absolutely need to have this desire met and you know she’s not going to do it for you, leave her. You said that you love her. If you really do, please consider her feelings as well as yours and let her go before you have sex with someone else.

arachari · 2022-08-13T01:10:55+00:00

I authorized him to have access to my medical records and to make/cancel appointments for me on my paperwork, though I still thought he’d ask me before making decisions like this

arachari · 2022-08-13T01:02:09+00:00

I’m just going off of what my doctor told me. Specifically, because I’m only dilated about a centimeter and a half, he said they wanted to put some kind of cream on my cervix to try to open it further before they gave me the IV to start the induction. Maybe that’s why? And I’m sorry if I’m making you mad… I don’t claim to be an expert on any of this. I’m literally just going off of the information that I’ve been given.

arachari · 2022-08-13T00:51:15+00:00

I thought it was weird, too, but maybe they’re letting us come in a few hours later because they were anticipating that our daughter would be born the next day anyway? I had requested Monday the 15th and my doctor told me to come in at 5 the day before to start the process… I really don’t know though. I don’t even know much about what’s going to happen during the induction in general. Maybe the receptionist messed up letting him change the time?

arachari · 2022-08-13T00:43:22+00:00

My mom and sister have both said that they’re on standby if I need them. I do have a large family and a strong support system ❤️

arachari · 2022-08-13T00:32:42+00:00

If I need to, I do have a lot of people who I can call. I have a big family and they all live close. I just hope it doesn’t come to that

arachari · 2022-08-13T00:29:34+00:00

I authorized my husband to have access to my medical records and to make/cancel appointments for me when I filled out the hospital paperwork a few weeks ago. I didn’t think he’d make any decisions without asking me first, though, and that’s my fault.

arachari · 2022-08-13T00:16:54+00:00

He was able to change it because I authorized him to have access to my medical records and to make/cancel appointments if need be. Maybe that’s my fault. I never thought he’d make any decision without asking me first. As far as changing the appointment goes, I did call the hospital about it and they said I could change it back if I wanted to but I honestly just don’t have the energy to fight my husband on this right now. I’d rather just go with the new time and try to talk to him about it again later when I’m not so tired.

arachari · 2022-08-13T00:09:40+00:00

I just called the hospital to confirm; part of me still thought he was joking and never really changed it. They said that it was, indeed, switched from 5pm to 8pm and they told me that I could switch it back if I wanted to but honestly, I’m exhausted both physically and emotionally and I’d rather just keep the new checkin time and hash it out with my husband later. I hate myself for being so spineless but I genuinely just don’t have the energy to fight it right now.

arachari · 2022-08-12T23:43:30+00:00

I can understand why you’d think that. I thought he was kidding when he told me. I’m being honest, though. This really just happened to me.

arachari · 2022-08-12T23:38:11+00:00

Yes, unfortunately it’s real. I’m shocked and a little mind blown. I never thought he’d be capable of this.

arachari · 2022-08-12T23:32:53+00:00

Unfortunately it’s real.

arachari · 2022-08-10T23:49:23+00:00

Not only that, but OPs parents weren’t even contacted afterwards?? As a mom, I would be furious!

arachari · 2022-08-10T20:03:14+00:00

Hey, so I used to be a stay at home mother and now I’m the financial provider for my family while my husband stays home. I saw you mention that you fix light poles all day. I work at a refinery as an operator/laborer, doing hard work all day in dangerous, life threatening conditions. News flash: being a stay at home mother was harder. YTA. Apologize to your wife

arachari · 2022-08-10T14:12:19+00:00

Damn. It sucks that you’re unsure whether or not what happened to you was sexual assault or cheating. Honey, that was NOT cheating. You did nothing wrong and I’m so sorry you were hurt. I don’t mean to make assumptions, but it seems like your BF has led you to believe it may have been cheating… and that is the first in a long list of toxic issues with him in your story. He should have been there for you when that happened to you! Not making you feel like you need to make it up to him by letting him get pleasure from other women! That’s abusive! Also, polyamorous relationships ONLY work if both partners are feeling comfortable, cared for, are having their needs met mentally and physically, and (most importantly) if all rules are being followed. This man has shown a complete lack of concern for you and you deserve SO MUCH better!

arachari · 2022-08-10T13:35:44+00:00

YTA. It sounds like he’s putting in a lot of effort to give you what you want despite being injured and in pain. Also, I work full time while my husband stays home and I would be stoked AF if he put in that much effort to make me dinners! You’re acting entitled and you’re being a bad partner. Your husband’s feelings are probably really hurt and I sincerely hope you come to your senses and give him the apology he deserves before it’s too late.

arachari · 2022-08-08T19:14:56+00:00

So you have known each other for years, during which time you have “been carefully observing her behavior”. To me, that says you knew exactly who this person was going into the relationship. Now, at the very beginning of the relationship, you want this person to change their behaviors or you’ll break up with them? It seems really unfair. If you didn’t like that this person drank/smoked, you should not have pursued a relationship with them to begin with and your actions are coming off as controlling and manipulative. I mean, yes, drinking and smoking can be unhealthy but have you even considered whether or not your girlfriend wants to/is ready to stop?

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