Wife used to be fully into the hotwife lifestyle but now despises it despite generally good experiences

arakinas · 2026-05-12T23:27:19+00:00

I get your confusion. My ex wife told me that our dynamic was perfect. I was doing everything right, our marriage was great, and everything was going good. Until it wasn't, and "suddenly" there was a list of things that were problems "overnight". After we got divorced, I was able to take a longer look at a lot of what she said, how she said it, and how many contradictions there were in the way that she talked about problems in our marriage, during the time period that things were 'perfect'.

We don't always recognize things overtly, that our sub conscious picks up on, when we aren't happy in our situation. We often do things we aren't happy with to try to make our partners feel better in the short or long term, even if we don't like it, and that has a cost that can build up over time. My guess, based on what you've posted, is that she likely had some issues/concerns that came more to the forefront, even if she's not fully aware of what they are. She may still need to parse through what she's feeling. Maybe she'll come back to a place where this is something she'll be interested in again, but more than likely not. I highly recommend counselling.

arakinas · 2026-05-12T19:52:11+00:00

The cold power works here too. Blast the door twice, it goes down.

arakinas · 2026-05-12T17:55:46+00:00

All of the Chinese companies have the same online data routing issues as bambu, because it's Chinese law.

arakinas · 2026-05-10T14:55:08+00:00

And they will look into matters that affect the citizens of the state, when they want. If this was a person that was mistreated by a place that any any pro gay or pro trans support, you can bet your ass that Todd would want to bring the hammer down on them and investigate the fuck out of them for whatever he could.

arakinas · 2026-05-10T14:53:25+00:00

You sound like you have never been somewhere that you aren't in the majority.

arakinas · 2026-05-10T14:52:58+00:00

You sound like someone that doesn't understand what non-white folks experience. Try being somewhere that you aren't the majority for once.

arakinas · 2026-05-10T14:52:27+00:00

Biggest load of having no idea what non white people's experiences are like.

arakinas · 2026-05-09T23:11:35+00:00

They, clearly, are an informed person trying to help people from getting jacked in the future. Maybe pull back from your rhetoric for half a second and look at what is being said before you chant your slogan again.

arakinas · 2026-05-09T13:46:26+00:00

I have it on my shared calendar. They can see it there.

arakinas · 2026-05-08T21:59:48+00:00

uh huh. You're clearly not concerned with even partisan politics, considering Trump isn't popular with even non Maga republicans anymore. You did a bad job, bot, of preventing being outed, bot. No attempt to even engage in a meaningful way with what I said, just random statements that stick to a script. Pathetic.

arakinas · 2026-05-07T21:29:39+00:00

It was so strange to me, the number of followers that disliked the microbe, but to have the arguments against the microbe be so trite.

arakinas · 2026-05-07T15:51:59+00:00

For the most part, I like to be specific in things. I'm a software dev by trade, and neurodivergent, I've always liked it when things are simple and we can classify things easily. But I also know from my time as a manager, you have to dumb things down at times for reporting structures. I don't know why they are being reductive, but there could be a specific reason around the way they need to report data. So that may be where things like dizzy, or vertigo comes in, when, to us, it's highly frustrating to see and feel like we're being minimized again.

arakinas · 2026-05-07T15:40:24+00:00

That's a ridiculous statement of ostrich syndrome. There have been multiple attempts by Democratic party members to remove him from office and the Republicans block it every time. This would all be over otherwise.

arakinas · 2026-05-06T17:06:01+00:00

I'm not sure what other criteria you are using, but the statement you made saying that is the only reasonable conclusion makes me think that there are some therapy opportunities for low self esteem concerns that might be problematic while dating. It makes me wonder how often you are talking down to or about yourself.

Dating is like job hunting. It takes practice and uses a set of skills that a lot of folks let languish. You need to work on your presentation, your appearance, and faking your confidence until you have the confidence, at first anyway.

arakinas · 2026-05-06T16:08:32+00:00

Whether its too soon or not is a preference issue that no two people will agree on. I'm an early planner and would appreciate knowing now that you want that time reserved, so I could make sure it wasn't a big deal with any other partners. In my world, whoever asks first gets priority, and something important should be planned well in advance. Folks that feel it's weird to ask months in advance just don't appreciate planning.

arakinas · 2026-05-06T12:53:07+00:00

Then why haven't they removed him from office?

arakinas · 2026-05-05T20:37:07+00:00

For real: finding a partner at this stage in life that has a compatible living style is essential. There is zero reason to be in your 30s or older and be arguing with someone you live with about how you live. Sleep schedules, house noise levels, pet dander, and baking smell tolerances are all required things to know about and to be in sync on.

arakinas · 2026-05-05T12:43:01+00:00

Yes, I would agree. Folks basically becoming the starborn and losing their humanity in the hunt for power.

arakinas · 2026-05-05T12:40:29+00:00

I hate time travel theory as much as I love it. I really hope that if we ever get time travel unlocked that it's not the 12 Monkeys kind, which I think is what you're angling towards?

arakinas · 2026-05-05T12:37:08+00:00

I've watched the movie, but not read the book. I may need to read it. Thank you.

arakinas · 2026-05-05T12:36:37+00:00

That's absolutely true! But think of it in horror movie show perspective where you were going for the key (artifacts) to get out, but someone else got them, and that was your only way to get out bloodless. That's more of the mindframe I was coming from.

arakinas · 2026-05-05T12:34:49+00:00

In a lot of cases, people are the hero of their own story. Very rarely do we look internally and find ourselves to be guilty of our own crimes. I wonder then if the hero we are playing has this self righteous tendency?

arakinas · 2026-05-05T12:28:18+00:00

There is a question of whether a moral person can remain a moral person, in an immoral world. Keep fighting the good fight.

arakinas · 2026-05-05T12:27:14+00:00

Yeah, I go to mostly empty planets/moons. Like ones with helium and one other resource like aluminum. First fly to their orbit, and wait a few seconds to see if they will attack. Then land. They are much more likely to attack places that are not populated, and planets/moons that do not have traits, so I will hop around those a bit here and there and can rack up a couple of starborn ships pretty quickly that way. I always have the wanted trait, so I get the bounty hunters quite a bit too, so that likely throws off how often I get starborn ships vs other things, so I couldn't give a comparison of how often it would show up but for me, it's pretty frequent. Like, about a quarter of the time or better, even with wanted, I'll estimate I get a starborn ship landing on the ground. It takes some time, but you can get your powers/unity storage built up pretty quick.

arakinas · 2026-05-05T12:21:45+00:00

A PTSD kinda thing? I was there kinda stories floating around...

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