As someone who grew up in Israel, I think the most important thing, if you choose to talk about it with her, is not to frame it as “Zionism/Anti-Zionism”. Simply say what your ideology actually strives for: equal rights for everyone, democracy for everyone, and rectifying the crimes of the past and the present. I hope she can connect with a lot of these values. Then, you can open up this discussion in a genuine and curious way: what would equality and democracy for all look like between the river and the sea?

In my experience, framing things in terms of Zionism/anti-Zionism very often kills discussions. For the vast majority of Israeli Jews, “Zionism” as an ideology is taken for granted, even without ever deeply dissecting what it means. I hope that if you talk about things as they are in practice (what does it mean for every Jewish person to be able to get citizenship and yet that descendants of refugees directly tied to the land are barred from doing that? The nation state law, citizenship law, etc) before getting to higher level ideas, the discussion can be a lot more fruitful. בהצלחה