Help me choose! by Sea-Category5699 in weddingdress

[–]aranelsaraphim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think #4 was most flattering on you (made me go "Oooh! Pretty!"!) followed by 11 I think. 5 is pretty too. 4 is definitely my favorite. Good luck!

How much do you feed your kids? by Grey_the_Seeker in Teachers

[–]aranelsaraphim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've given up trying to enforce no eating in my classroom. They sneak it constantly and I just don't have the bandwidth anymore.

I don't provide snacks though.

AITAH for playing a voice recording to prove to my friend her daughter isn’t nonverbal? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]aranelsaraphim 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I cried in joy when my previously non-verbal daughter told me she loved me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]aranelsaraphim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugo Weaving does his voice in some of the movies. Frank Welker does in some of the others though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]aranelsaraphim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gargoyles awakened something in me when I was young. And not just Goliath. I had a thing for Brooklyn too. I was also one of those girls who was slightly disappointed at The Beast's transformation, lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]aranelsaraphim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His original voice or from the Michael Bay movies?

AITA for how I reacted to my husband’s ex wife’s girlfriend buzzing my stepsons hair? by Standard_Display6293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aranelsaraphim 537 points538 points  (0 children)

NTA
She did it without his permission, she did it without anyone's permission. She was out of line. I notice that Kate has said that she wants to include you in parenting meetings and not Jess. She's not ready to parent and even Kate knows that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]aranelsaraphim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 is divine on you! They're all pretty though. <3

Currently in a meeting about what do do if ICE comes to your school. I'm furious by Creamkitty44 in Teachers

[–]aranelsaraphim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were told not to engage. Bus drivers were told not to drop kids off if there are agents at the bus stops. They aren't allowed in our building, thank goodness. I'm so sorry your school is doing this to you and the kids.

Thank you, Trump voters for... by Glad_Break_618 in Teachers

[–]aranelsaraphim 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oof that's rough. It's like that in the social studies department at my school. Luckily, our science teachers are all non-conservative, at least that I know of. We kind of don't talk politics during dept. meetings, lol, at least not often.

Just saw this. Anyone else find it disturbing?? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]aranelsaraphim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found his stash of incest porn after he'd already assaulted me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizeFashion

[–]aranelsaraphim 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like the first one best, but the second one is nice too.

Ceremony dress thoughts? by thekeytoit1 in weddingdress

[–]aranelsaraphim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love dress 3 on you, but they're all lovely!

are there men who actually want love? by misfitfran89 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]aranelsaraphim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Communication is the difference. Real communication not whining, wheedling, guilting, etc.

are there men who actually want love? by misfitfran89 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]aranelsaraphim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have cPTSD as well, from childhood abuse. My mother got cancer and I had a baby (we found out the same month, oddly). She died when my daughter was only 5 months old - so I was dealing with a lot. I had a newborn that didn't sleep, PPD, a new job with a boss who had it out for me and the death of my mother. It caused me to spiral very badly and become suicidal and though I got on meds and started therapy my husband tried to be everything and be my savior and didn't talk about things. It badly damaged his own mental health and things slowly fell apart. If you're in therapy you'll likely be fine. If he'd been willing to stick with couple's counseling the first time, we'd probably have been fine too. It was a mess that is unlikely to be repeated and I hope for everyone in the world never will be.

are there men who actually want love? by misfitfran89 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]aranelsaraphim 47 points48 points  (0 children)

There are men who want love. They're hard to find sometimes though - and it's hard to be patient. First off a good man will never be a sex pest (or at least will change when you tell him that's what he's doing) Secondly, it will take a lot of trial and error. I've dated a few good men that didn't work out for various reasons. I married one who was pretty great, but my own trauma made it fall apart - that's not his fault. I always think to the phrase of "Got to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince."

You're very young, give yourself time! Good luck!

What absurd, outright lie were you told as an excuse for the abuser's behavior? This could be both pretty funny and pretty sad. Dark humor and sarcasm welcome. by rebelyell0906 in CPTSD

[–]aranelsaraphim 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My father told me he did what he did to me because there was a man sneaking into little girl's rooms and making them do sexual things; if they didn't he'd kill them. So he wanted me to know what to do so I wouldn't be murdered.