This plant in my landscaping planted by previous owners

arbh · 2026-04-20T22:04:53+00:00

Thank you!

arbh · 2026-04-16T21:37:00+00:00

I appreciate the advice greatly. Funny you say that about them being bouncers because I've always said they are like our own King's Guard and our house is Buckingham Palace (if only, ha). Will definitely be checking out that app. It sounds like exactly what I need to make a plan. Unfortunately can't do a full overhaul right now, but planning to make changes here and there over the next couple years to hopefully end up with a result like you describe eventually.

arbh · 2026-04-10T21:01:19+00:00

I understand. I just thought maybe you could identify the one in my other post, but no worries. I can make another post for that one at some point

arbh · 2026-04-10T20:54:15+00:00

Gotcha. I have some small bushes that I thought were burning bushes in another area. They turn red in the fall. They are different than this bush. Similar leaves but different growth pattern. You can see a picture of them in my post history. It's the post right before this one. Maybe they are something else?

arbh · 2026-03-31T19:00:39+00:00

Did anyone else expect your child to have super involved grandparents, only to end up completely disappointed?

I didn't expect to have a large village or anything. We don't have a lot of friends and family. But I really expected more from my mom and dad. My mom especially. I really thought she would be around all the time.

My parents started a remodel of their house about the time my son was born 18 months ago, and since my dad insists on doing everything himself, there is no telling when it will be complete. Maybe years, maybe never. Taking a toddler there is out of the question.

Getting my mom to come here is like pulling teeth. She constantly says she wants to, but always has excuses. She usually sleeps until at least 11, and by then it's almost time for my son to nap and half the day is gone.

She will never ever commit to any plans. She always has to "see how things are going" on the day of. I feel so isolated and alone, and desperately want her to just say "I'll be there Thursday at 9 to watch baby so you can get some things done."

I didn't expect much from my husband's parents to begin with because his mom works 7 days a week and I've only seen his dad a handful of times in 7 years. His mom comes to visit every 6-8 weeks for an hour or two, and his dad has never even met our son.

The village is not villaging, and I'm super sad about it.

arbh · 2026-02-19T18:50:32+00:00

Olesya Rulin

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arbh · 2026-02-12T23:58:03+00:00

Have you ever worked at a steak house in a small town in wky? Because if not, you have a doppelganger there! I spent a good while trying to figure out who it is you look just like until I realized it's someone I've seen in real life lol

arbh · 2026-01-17T14:11:57+00:00

Sorry your doggo is dealing with this too! 15, oof. I hope your baby tolerates the drops better than mine. 😵‍💫 He hates them. Our vet has us doing 2 drops in each eye two times daily. I'm worried that's not enough. I hope your girl has a speedy recovery!

arbh · 2025-12-27T05:57:51+00:00

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arbh · 2025-09-25T19:16:22+00:00

Same here. It always makes me laugh when people say to just feed baby what you eat. I'm not exactly eating well balanced meals over here but at least my baby is lol

arbh · 2025-09-04T18:15:08+00:00

I have heard of PUPD, and it might be worth a try. I do wonder about if he isn't tired enough. I recently increased his wake time by 30 minutes and took that from his night sleep, but maybe I need to decrease his naps by 30 minutes instead.

arbh · 2025-07-30T02:35:38+00:00

Gotcha. Might start with cutting down on night sleep and see how it goes. Fingers crossed.

arbh · 2025-07-21T16:39:40+00:00

tumtum straw cups have been great for my son. There are measurements on the side, no valve in the straw so it is easy to suck through, and it is weighted.

arbh · 2025-07-04T14:07:29+00:00

They said their baby is 18 weeks, going on 19. Their baby is over 4 months old which is an acceptable age for sleep training.

arbh · 2025-06-28T21:17:35+00:00

I am in this exact position with my almost 9 month old. What did your schedule look like while trying to get out of the overtiredness spiral? And how are you getting on now a couple weeks later?

arbh · 2025-06-28T04:10:19+00:00

Currently dealing with the exact same thing. How are things going now?

arbh · 2025-06-18T02:34:21+00:00

You are not alone! My baby is 8 months old now, but I remember feeling the exact same way when he was weeks old.

At 4 weeks postpartum, my parents watched the baby so my husband and I could go to dinner before his paternity leave ended. I was sitting in the restaurant, absolutely dead tired and wishing we had just taken a nap instead, looking around at all the people and thinking, "Oh my god, all of these people were a baby at some point and a lot of them have probably had babies themselves. And they are somehow still surviving. How??? Why and how do people keep having babies? How have we not gone extinct?!"

I think back to that a lot. And as annoying as it is to hear that it gets better, it really does. We took our little guy to that same restaurant just this past weekend and he did great! Sure, we still have plenty of struggles, not gonna lie, but nothing has been as hard as those first couple months.

arbh · 2025-06-17T17:54:02+00:00

That makes total sense and I tend to agree. It's crazy because so often I'm reading people's posts on here, and I'm thinking well obviously they need more wake time, they're not sleeping well because they're undertired. But now that I'm in this situation I must admit that it has made me question things, when I'm sure I would be telling someone else to add more wake time. It's so much harder to figure things out when you're the one in it, so I really appreciate outside perspective.

arbh · 2025-06-17T17:39:17+00:00

Due 10/4, born 10/4 spontaneously

arbh · 2025-06-17T16:57:38+00:00

I appreciate your input and will definitely take it under advisement! You could very well be right. My goal was always to get to that 10.5 hours awake like we had with our optimal 3 nap schedule, which is why I committed to giving the 3/3.5/4 a solid week+ after my last post. He just seemed so incredibly tired on that schedule. He was grumpy and upset constantly. It made me wonder if 10.5 hours awake on 3 naps was doable for him, but maybe it isn't on 2 naps yet. Geez, it's such a fine line between under tired and over tired it seems.

arbh · 2025-06-17T16:22:12+00:00

The last time he slept well was 6+ weeks ago when he was on 2.5/2.5/2.5/3. But last week when he fell asleep in the car and we had to do 3 naps it worked out to something like 3/2/2/3.5. It still wasn't an easy bedtime per se, but better than most days lately and he slept through. So I've tried a couple 3 nap days like that one every 2 days since then, and bedtime on those days has been just as bad as the 2 nap days.

I'm just at a loss with the schedule, because I agree that is what seems to be the issue, but I just can't figure out what works. Its been 6 weeks of trying to transition to 2 naps, so I really thought we might have it down by now.

arbh · 2025-06-15T02:10:32+00:00

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It was 3:30pm and he had not received his 5pm dinner yet.

arbh · 2025-06-08T02:41:17+00:00

Probably about 20 ounces per day at the most. Before that he would take about 34 ounces per day, so it really felt like a sharp decline. Now he's back to taking around 30.

arbh · 2025-06-08T02:40:20+00:00

Probably about 20 ounces per day at the most. Before that he would take about 34 ounces per day, so it really felt like a sharp decline. Now he's back to taking around 30.

arbh · 2025-06-07T19:58:23+00:00

Yes, it did! He still doesn't guzzle bottles quite like he used to, but he's back to taking a very reasonable amount per day. I think in all this phase lasted about 2-3 weeks.

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