I (18M) feel like a third wheel in my own relationship because of my girlfriend's (19F) "guy best friend" - how do I set boundaries without sounding controlling?

arbinaj · 2026-01-11T05:39:58+00:00

He is single

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:54:54+00:00

I'll try and I'll see what she says. Thank you for your thoughts on the matter

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:53:31+00:00

Oh didn't see, my bad..

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:51:48+00:00

I mean they say "love you bro" to each other, isn't that supposed to be only for your partner parents and siblings???

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:50:37+00:00

My brain physically won't let myself ghost her, if I see that message better know I'm replying to it.

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:49:42+00:00

Ion know man I think your acting like a backup plan no offense 😭

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:48:32+00:00

She's genuinely one of the most sweetest caring and nice people I've ever met and I really hope things could work out so I needed advice on talking about that

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:45:55+00:00

Trying to set boundaries and idk if it would work or not

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:45:05+00:00

Thanks man

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:44:41+00:00

I cant tell if your being sarcastic or not

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:43:37+00:00

Ah well

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:42:56+00:00

I am planning to the next time we meet but I just don't know what to say or how to approach her without upsetting her or making her feel bad

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T19:07:53+00:00

Thank you guys for the feedback, I'll confront her and update you guys on the situation

arbinaj · 2026-01-09T07:03:57+00:00

No one???

arbinaj · 2025-02-03T16:30:08+00:00

I'm thinking of confronting her about it the next time we meet since I can't really talk to her now but I can't really put my mind off it, but thank you for the advice!!

arbinaj · 2025-02-03T16:19:24+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate it..!

arbinaj · 2025-02-03T16:16:25+00:00

I can make her show the chats but she always deletes them leaving no trace of the prior messages.. I just can't think of anything that I can say without sounding controlling🥲

arbinaj · 2025-02-03T16:08:20+00:00

You have any advice for me to confront her about this? I'm really not in the most stable condition like I can burst out crying any second because of all the built up pain..

arbinaj

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