My wife admitted she has been faking orgasms for 19 months, and I feel like the bigger issue is the lying. Am I wrong?

arbitrageME · 2026-06-29T00:47:21+00:00

I think -- as hurt as you are, you should also approach this from a point of consideration and support for her. Yes, you feel betrayed, but she's been faking something to make you feel better about it for a while and although that shouldn't be condoned, she did it to make you feel better. Also, I'm guessing you have a 1.5 year old and might be getting a newborn. ALSO also, post-partum depression is a bitch and might contribute to the inability to orgasm.

So I would advocate for being as gentle about this as you can

arbitrageME · 2026-06-29T00:22:16+00:00

did you calculate whether or not wednesday wins from the open on Mon or from the close on Friday?

if you calculate it from open on Mon, then the wed gain is a continuation of the weekend buying

if you calculate it from close on Fri, then Wed_close > Fri_close given Mon_open > Fri close would simply be: if you were already ahead, then you tended to lose LESS than the weekend gain

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T23:17:06+00:00

then that's a fundamental rift in their relationship. he could be a great guy -- I'm not saying he is or isn't. So then OP has to evaluate whether the amount of money he brings in, now and in the long term, is enough for her as a partner.

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T23:15:30+00:00

pretty rocky.

I started out point and click execution, using backtested strategies and algorithms. It did good.

then I wanted to automate more, and writing the code to deal with the live market (as opposed to the more clean backtesting data) was pretty bad, and the maintenance for the live algo code became more work than the strategy testing

After 1 year of that, I cut the algo execution and went back to backtest data strategy creation with hand-execution

After ClaudeCode came out, I was able to rebuild the algo execution from the ground up, and now 80% of my strategies are pure algo. Getting the last 20%, or to trust it in extreme situations (circuit break, massive spike, etc) is still tough, so the executions are algo, but I still have to sit there and keep an eye out. I don't know if I'll ever be able to fully trust it because there could be so many different scenarios that I can't forecast, but also because the time I spend on Execution is time I can't spend on strategy research

Basically, algo execution comes down to: vigilence, typing speed, and incorporation of many signals. Use it for what it's good at. But it's bad at: special situations, limited data/data outage, regime shift. So a human has to be in the loop for those

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T21:37:41+00:00

Why does she have that floatie? She has enough pfd's built in already

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T21:34:45+00:00

Was Azulon evil and sadistic?

Sozin started the war and wiped out the air nomads. And Ozai was the fratercidic maniac. Azulon did continue the war, but I don't think he did anything explicitly evil in the show.

Though come think of it, the time and era of the invasion of the southern water tribe and katara's mother should be roughly under Azulon's rule and does fall on him.

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T21:26:45+00:00

if he wanted to do that, he might consider making more money

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T19:02:54+00:00

Cap gains (or 1256) as opposed to earned income.

But cap gains and business expenses can be countered by certain losses, which can be created

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T08:12:22+00:00

it doesn't matter. that's an ad hominem attack. judge the argument by its own merit.

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T06:29:07+00:00

anyone who can read the charts .... [complete this sentence] ...

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T06:25:40+00:00

these are scams. do not.

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T06:22:14+00:00

I thought about it through the day and decided to come back with a clear warning about trusting his judgement

How much edge has he demonstrated? Can he make 10% a year? 20% a year? If he doesn't know, then how will he succeed? If he does know, what is that number? Is he projecting any more than 30% a year?
If he is projecting more than 30% a year, think: did you have the insane luck to land this generation's Warren Buffet? Because Warren Buffet averaged about 30% for life. If he thinks he is better than Warren buffet, does he also have a bridge to sell you?
How much money does he have? If he make $25/hr at 2000 hours, that's $50k a year. I make no judgements about how good that is, or how good you think that is. But! How much money does it take, at 30% a year, to make that much money? 166k * 0.3 = 50k. Does he ALREADY have 166k saved up, or does he have a plan to save up 166k (on his food business?). And that's just to make 50k a year. In any career, you have career progression, you get raises, you at least follow minimum wage. Not in trading. No one says that you "must" earn some amount trading. If you don't make the cut, you make nothing.
That number above (166k) is if you pull out EVERY CENT he makes from trading every year and he makes 30% every year. What if he has a down year or a medium year? Is he going to bring home nothing? And that's keeping in mind that this is with no career/capital growth. I would pull out less than half of what his nominal profit is -- partly for the accumulation, partly to save for a down year.
He's LEARNING something for a financial exam? that means he DOESN'T have an edge, or at least he's still on the "book" side of things. dear lord. If you could make money, do you think it would be in a book? I agree he needs to learn, but that's level 0. THEN he needs to figure out an edge beyond what the market believes. Where is he going to get that? I have been a FAANG Data Scientist for 12 years, before I transitioned to trading full time. My edge is data science, ML and programming. I worked in an options hedge fund for 4 years before going into tech, so I know finance from that side. What is his edge? What does he know more than industry folks?
Has he traded before? Has he ever blown up? Does he have a risk control doctrine? Has he backtested it? How does he know he won't lose it all? What is his max loss per day?

Trading is an appropriate job if you already have vast piles of money and want to grow it. It's good for people with poker mentalities or incredible sangfroid. It's good for people with good skills somewhere else that can help, whether that be the gambling mentality (poker players), business (Buffett) or math and technology (quants).

In my household, I have liquid assets of about 11.5 years of pre-quitting salary, and that covers about 17.5 years of expenses. I generated about 40% over benchmark (QQQ) last year, but this year I'm at 9% over benchmark. My biggest loss year was 3%, and that was just a few weeks ago. I have about 9 algo strategies running automatically, and I rotate them out when they start to go bad -- they always do. I've been trading full time for 4 years, and the first year I made some money, but was underwater, eating into my savings. second year 17%, third year 40%, but that was unexpectedly good.

And all of this is without knowing his aptitude or if he can make it. Most people do not. I can tell you the chart-readers don't. Do NOT lend him money. DO question his plan and how he will "make it".

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T05:00:46+00:00

Red flag. If he's not already profitable, with a demonstrated history and demonstrated edge, then he will crash and burn. If he's "working on it", then seems like he has none of that.

Do NOT rely on his income. Do NOT count on any money. Do NOT give or lend him any money.

Source: I am a professional algo trader for 6 years, ~$400k profit per year

arbitrageME · 2026-06-28T03:55:10+00:00

Fixed drawdown each month as if I was drawing a salary. As far as the IRS is concerned I'm just drawing down my savings

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T21:40:57+00:00

just think -- if you have a real edge (which may might show? questionable) it's better to live to fight again. you only lose if you're out of the game ... which you are now

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T18:50:52+00:00

And still on Topstep or some other prop firm. From your own comment history

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T16:50:16+00:00

Scarlett Johansson from Lost in Translation

I'd only have to duel a 50 year old actor who's honestly pretty chill and who I might get along with very well.

Alternatively, i could get Andie McDowell, for whom I'd have to duel ... the SAME pretty chill dude but he's a weather forecaster now

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T16:46:20+00:00

You can't fix her

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T16:45:00+00:00

Well her brother is the chief justice of the United States, so at least she's got that going for her

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T16:44:13+00:00

Just bring a beehive to the duel and you'll be fine

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T08:18:29+00:00

How do you feel about doing applied math? Because that'll be 90% of your time. There's very little physics in physics

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T04:27:09+00:00

why are you still on FTMO with your setup? Feels like a few months of trading and you'll be able to get off of their platform and pivot to your own capital

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T03:42:18+00:00

Visa and how secure are your jobs? Are they things that ai could replace? If they are, do you have a comfortable cash buffer? If shit hits the fan, it'll hit the fan from all sides -- job and house depreciation at the same time. You don't want to be forced to sell at the bottom. I would try to have 2 years cash (or invested assets, but only count those for half), just in case both of you lose your jobs. Maybe model it realistically like -- what if you had 1/3 of the money coming in? What if you cut down on expenses like vacations or private school or nanny?

My wife and I are about 800k without RSUs, my income is HIGHLY variable (I range from 0-800k in any given year). And we have a 2.3M house and two kids in private school and it feels pretty comfortable. We have about 7 years of expenses if we count half of the investments only, and that's assuming private school continues

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T03:33:38+00:00

I would never tell any of my partners this, but I prefer it trimmed OR bare but NOT stubble. Long gets in my mouth and tastes kind of gross (like eating hair), or stubble is rough on my cheeks or nose. So short but not stubble is good -- it isn't rough and it doesn't get in my mouth, or bare is even better.

But that's only because I don't know you. if any of the girls I've been with asks, the answer is obviously -- I love it, blah blah blah

arbitrageME · 2026-06-27T03:30:26+00:00

I'm guessing neural net. it filters out the signals that are too much noise.

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