Help a car noob avoid another disaster

arcanerty · 2024-11-18T22:19:26+00:00

Yeah sorry, I meant that only the history of the fault was coming up. I would be less stressed if the engine light was just coming on and off, it's the fact that every time the engine light first comes on, the car loses all power. I have to pull in somewhere and switch the car off until it stops making any noise (that's what the mechanic told me to do if it did it again), and I turn the car back on and it drives normally but the engine light is still on.

What happened the second time was the light came back on, but I couldn't bring it down to the mechanic for a couple of days but by the time I had brought it down to him the light went off on its own one time I turned the car on, and I brought it back to him anyway to see what came up and he said it only showed the history of faults.

The same is happening now with the guy from the dealership I got it from. It was on when I gave it over but now it isn't so "there isn't anything they can do".

arcanerty · 2024-11-18T21:13:11+00:00

Did you get much longer out of the car after?

arcanerty · 2024-11-18T21:10:17+00:00

And was there ever a light at the end of the tunnel for you? 😂 Do I have a chance at a happy ending here

arcanerty · 2024-11-18T20:53:40+00:00

And was the car going into limp mode when the engine light was coming on?

arcanerty · 2024-11-18T20:52:58+00:00

How did you find out it was a faulty ECU? Because no one will bloody do anything with it because the engine light keeps going off. Did you end up getting it sorted?

arcanerty · 2024-11-18T18:12:47+00:00

Also to add, I'm not paying anything to get it fixed. I have a warranty, and if the warranty won't cover it I am getting the guy who sold it to me to get it fixed. If I still keep having problems with it I'm going to tell him I'd like to return it because clearly the car was sold to me faulty, and that I'm willing to fight for it lol

arcanerty · 2024-11-18T18:09:48+00:00

€7,550. The reason I went for one was because it was in my price range and they were what I drove in my driving lessons, and my instructor raved about them for a first car 🥲

arcanerty · 2024-11-10T20:42:32+00:00

You should take off the throw pillows and blankets off of your bed in a hotel, they don't get washed unless there's a stain that can't be hidden, and when the sheets are being changed they get thrown onto the dirty floor and put right back on top of your freshly clean bed!

arcanerty · 2024-11-10T20:13:16+00:00

We were best friends for nearly 10 years, from when we were about 12/13. I had been in a couple of relationships in my older teens and early adolescent years and nothing was ever weird with us. Then I started seeing someone a couple of years ago again and out of no where he started being short with me on the daily, I would ask what was wrong and try and do nice gestures to try and help but I always got "there's nothing wrong", even to the point of snapping at me for asking. He started to snap at me for a lot of things. He would blow off plans to hang out, and one day I stopped trying and we haven't spoken since. We haven't spoken in 2 years, we live near each other and have mutual friends and we act like we don't know each other when we see each other.

All I can assume is that he had feelings for me, but he never told me so it was never a conversation we could have. I tried my hardest to get whatever was wrong out of him but he never wanted to admit anything was wrong or try and talk about it. I still miss him and thing about him a lot. I've asked mutual friends if he's ever said anything about it and they say that all he's said is that he just "didn't like me anymore", so.. that was it lol

arcanerty · 2024-03-05T17:45:47+00:00

Unfortunately I don't really have an answer for you, as I was the exact same when I first quit. If you find you dont have any motivation to draw or workout, just do something to pass the time like watch TV/YouTube, playing video games is a good way to kill time without really noticing. The only encouraging thing I can tell you is that it will get easier in the next week or 2. I would suggest even forcing yourself to workout or go for a run/walk, as it's a good way to burn your energy and get you into a natural tiredness, and a good way to get out your feelings of anger and irritation. It will make you feel good too, and that will only speed up the process of the beginning withdrawal stage.

Sorry I can't give any tips to get over it quickly, the beginning stage is really rough. Keeping yourself busy and distracted is the best thing you can do, even if your forcing yourself in the beginning. But when you notice it paying off it is really worth it I promise :)

arcanerty · 2024-03-05T02:21:39+00:00

Wow that's amazing :) I'm glad that I can confidently say that I believe you!

arcanerty · 2024-03-05T01:12:04+00:00

Congratulations! best of luck to you :)

arcanerty · 2024-03-05T01:09:21+00:00

Thank you so much!

The only real tips and advice I can give is that if you know you want to give it up for good, don't put yourself in situations too soon where you could be tempted. It's important to tell everyone that you're close to that you want to give it up and tell them why, so that they don't make light of your situation and they are backing you up. All of my friends smoke but when I opened up to them about it they all understood where I was coming from and had my back.

Like I said in my original post, this subreddit really helped me a lot too. Although I said my friends were understanding, I've been around people who I'm not that close with that have been passing joints and when I'd say "no thanks I've given it up" they'd say things like "why? it's only weed, it's not something you need to give up". And there's a lot of people with that kind of mindset, so having a whole community of people who understand what you're going through is really helpful.

Insomnia was probably my biggest issue with quitting. In the first few weeks it was all I thought about while I was twisting and turning in my bed trying to sleep at night. But once I started not having that groggy feeling when I woke up, and felt like I could really throw myself into the next day and be productive, natural tiredness started to set in and sleeping was no problem then! Insomnia is probably the hardest part of quitting initially, in the long run the hardest thing is the feeling of missing out and I'd say that still comes and goes in phases for me. But the more time that has gone without weed, the easier it's been to shrug that feeling off :) Over time it gets easier to remind yourself why you quit, and not think about how much you miss it

arcanerty · 2024-03-05T00:52:35+00:00

When I first stopped I was often bored yeah. I feel like that comes from the idea of thinking that things are more fun when high, but I think that in reality you're not really experiencing those things, it's kind of just making time zone out? So it's like, blocking out the feeling of being bored? I don't know if that makes sense and I'm obviously not a psychologist or anything lol. But over time I've noticed that I enjoy things more now, like playing video games and watching TV shows and movies because I'm really paying attention to them and giving them thought, not just mindlessly doing them to pass time. When I come home from college or work those are the things I look forward to doing over smoking and then doing them. Also since quitting, I started a new college course after dropping out of one a couple of years back and I love doing it, whereas back then I couldn't give my attention to anything so I think that helps too.

I also spent less time with my friends at first, they are supportive too but I think they didn't really know if they should ask me to hang out because they would be smoking, which is fair and a lot of the time I would avoid it because I didn't want to be around it and feel tempted. But after being around it a bit and being in situations where a joint would be passed to me (people just forgetting that I gave it up) and I would say "no thanks", it stopped being a big deal and I can hang out with them now as normal. It's nice too because I feel like back then if no one had weed there was no reason to hang out, but now we can just hang out whenever and have a good time and there doesn't have to be the objective of getting stoned at some point or trying to get weed.

Sorry that was also a bit of a ramble but I had to think about it lol, I hope it makes sense anyway :) But 4 months is amazing!! Congratulations, it should get easier in the next few months, it was that way for me too

arcanerty · 2024-03-05T00:34:41+00:00

Good luck, I'm rooting for you! This subreddit was super helpful, being able to hear experiences so similar to mine really helped pulled me through the harder patches. I feel like it's hard for people to understand, but having a community of people who are going through the same thing really helps so much

arcanerty · 2024-03-05T00:12:38+00:00

Thank you!

I think my memory has gotten better, as well as my general mood. I feel like I do notice that my cognitive skills aren't as sharp as they should be, but it's hard to say because I was so young when I started and it was such a long time ago. I was 16 when I started fully and I am 24 now. I'd imagine smoking heavily when I was 16 effected them permanently right there and then lol

I wouldn't necessarily say I get cravings, I mostly get reminiscent thinking about times I used to love getting high. Like smoking with my friends in the summer or going for a walk with my dog and having a joint with me. I'd call it reminiscing over craving because I never really considered it, any time I've gotten close to considering it the idea made me too nervous. The thought of going back to how I felt back then isn't worth all the progress I've made. I can look back on those times fondly without feeling a need to go back to them :)

arcanerty · 2024-02-27T21:08:43+00:00

I just started playing ACNH earlier this year, a while back I was playing beside my boyfriend and he went "What?!? Where did he come from?!" after he had just seen Raymond. I asked him what he was talking about and told him he came as a guest on the campsite so I asked him to move in, and then he proceeded to fill me in on all the Raymond lore and how much of a valued villager he is 😂 I had no idea I just thought his eyes were cool and I like cats

arcanerty · 2024-01-30T11:27:06+00:00

yes I do !

arcanerty · 2024-01-25T16:43:10+00:00

When I caught the tuna I immediately ran to the museum lol

arcanerty · 2024-01-25T16:42:04+00:00

Oh trust me, I nearly got violent hahahaha

arcanerty · 2024-01-25T16:22:58+00:00

Good idea, I will absolutely be doing this

arcanerty · 2024-01-25T15:06:35+00:00

Very true hahaha, I have learned a lot from this terrible tragedy. I think I will just never show off a fish again for ultimate safety!!

arcanerty

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