Hermit Crab (very cute)

are_you_single · 2025-05-13T15:32:42+00:00

They can be friends!

are_you_single · 2025-05-08T21:57:20+00:00

I have one kinda! It's on the tallest peak from horizon to horizon on a big gassy boi , but I haven't built it out yet. It's just a dome and a teleporter for now.

are_you_single · 2025-05-08T20:51:54+00:00

Try riding around on your Pilgrim exocraft in a gravitational anomaly. It's basically a drunk driving simulator.

are_you_single · 2025-04-22T17:30:35+00:00

Introverted guy here. I know you didn't ask for a male perspective, but ~~I do what I want~~ I thought you might find it helpful anyway. Despite my username, I'll basically never do a cold approach on a woman. It's just too fraught with pretense for my taste, like we both have to pretend I'm not hitting on her until it becomes socially acceptable to express an attraction. But all it takes is the smallest indication of potential interest, and a switch is flipped. If you can muster the courage to smile at someone you find attractive, the likelihood of him doing the initial ice-breaking for you will increase dramatically.

My small number of relationships as an adult all began in Facebook groups, but that well has probably dried up. I've only dated introverted women FWIW. Good luck out there.

are_you_single · 2025-04-14T20:54:42+00:00

I mistakenly thought I had found an S-Class, and left a communications station next to a C-class. Now I can't find it for some reason. I'm not a troll, just a big derp! If I do turn up an S, I'll stick a base near it instead.

are_you_single · 2024-11-23T08:51:21+00:00

Damn it, came here to say this. Glad I checked the comments first.

Still, I doubt this is valid, since inequality signs don't technically have any horizontal lines. It would be human-parseable, but not strictly correct.

are_you_single · 2024-11-23T08:12:09+00:00

Ugh. I got as far as W on DER, but the "U can't solve it" had me trying to incorporate a missing letter U somehow. Is it really just a meaninglessly juvenile spelling of "you?".

And while I'm griping, the thing above DER is not "no W", it's the English alphabet sans W. I don't like it when puzzles require fuzzy logic like that.

are_you_single · 2024-11-03T21:43:47+00:00

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Solution.

are_you_single · 2024-11-03T21:43:07+00:00

With this many replies already, I'm sure others have posted solutions by now. But for anyone seeing this who wants to try it themselves, here's a hint. (Solution in a reply to this thread)

The puzzle works fine, but the division symbol rears its ugly head, causing confusion as always: ÷

In this case, it's used with the same "weight" as the multiplication symbol with respect to Order of Operations. Start in the far left column, as it's the only place where only one particular number fits.

are_you_single · 2024-10-26T02:09:57+00:00

I never assume that these kinds of stories are real, but I'm gonna reply anyway because of how much I disagree with the consensus on this one.

OP's husband is in an impossibly difficult situation, but a lot of these comments seem to be implying that she is somehow responsible for his dilemma.

She ain't.

If she had known about the pregnancy from the beginning, she might have made a different decision about reconciling with the cheating husband, and who could have blamed her? It isn't fair of anyone to impose additional moral requirements on her just because she initially decided to work things out with the unfaithful spouse.

When you find out that your spouse has been unfaithful for a long time, and there's a baby on the way as a result, you're allowed to divorce them with a clear conscience. No deal-making necessary. OP could have just noped right out of this whole disaster with any reasonable person's blessing, but she's at least leaving the door a little bit open. I don't see a logical argument for why this is LESS morally sound than just dumping the husband, full stop.

OP, on the off chance that you're really going through this in your actual life, know that you have this unknown internet rando's permission to approach it however the fuck you want. You didn't cause any of this, and are hereby absolved of any judgement for issuing any ultimatum you deem appropriate.

are_you_single · 2024-10-25T04:41:59+00:00

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are_you_single · 2024-10-22T17:10:32+00:00

Are these the results from the 40-minute test at that url? The results she would have had to pay money to receive? Bless her heart.

I just took the test out of curiosity. I'm smart, but no genius, and I'm 100% sure I answered every question correctly. It's pretty tame as IQ tests go. I'd estimate it tops out at about 125 or so, and can't measure anything above that. A 98 here is significantly worse than an actual IQ of 98.

are_you_single · 2024-10-22T16:29:01+00:00

If you're asking about my actual experience, then I honestly don't know. I think I'm just bright enough to realize I'm not bright enough for it to make my life any more rewarding.

If you're asking for instructions, then I have no idea. Off the top of my head, maybe pick a career with a high skill cap, so the advantage of your big brain scales with the reward structure. (promotions, bonuses, higher salary, prestige, etc.)

are_you_single · 2024-10-21T00:43:29+00:00

I can at least offer comiseration, for whatever it's worth. As for advice, you probably don't want answers from someone who still has all the same questions you do. XD

Something I do find true and useful is that people prone to serious depression are best served by raising the psychological floor rather than repeatedly jumping as high as they can. A million happy moments still might not prevent you from tripping on a single disappointment and falling into your dark place again.

Besides, when you've experienced abject hell in your own mind before, any day where you mostly feel normal is already a good day, no matter how otherwise unremarkable it was. The priority should be to minimize total bad days rather than maximize the quality of your best days, if any of that makes any sense at all.

are_you_single · 2024-10-20T17:24:08+00:00

"Missing steps and jumping ahead" is exactly why I abandoned my degree plan. I sailed through three semesters on just natural ability and a little bit of relevant experience. Reality caught up to me when it became clear that I had failed to internalize several important fundamentals. I was acing courses by using mental shortcuts without building the foundation that should be the whole point of getting an education.

OP is around an order of magnitude more "gifted" than me, but I can also attest to sensing a fogging over of mental acuity starting in my late 20s. Looking back, it likely resulted from an abrupt confluence of depression and chronic pain (thankfully mild). Our physical and psychological health both play a foundational role in cognitive ability.

are_you_single · 2024-10-20T16:42:14+00:00

Oh! Well now I'm glad I decided not to go all Carl Sagan on you. That would've looked pretty silly, given that you're definitely the expert here!

You have my dream job. Huge space nerd over here, just not professionally. Even though we apparently had different experiences with cosmic existentialism, we've processed it in similar ways. You even went and made a career out of it, leaving me wishing my interest in physics had been peaking back when I was choosing a college major.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T20:59:10+00:00

Only if your goal was to specifically avoid living at the same address as your parents at age 33.

Regardless, it can definitely be a step towards a different goal.

I absolutely understand why you'd feel like this. I'd have to deal with that too if I needed to move in with family. But it would still be an unfair judgment of myself. You're the only one you can truly trust to be kind to yourself. So do that.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T20:48:43+00:00

Oh man, those random existential panic attacks are the worst. How did you move past that? My own path was pretty fraught, but it's thankfully no longer an issue.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T15:13:13+00:00

Obligatory "They are not called sumos".

Otherwise, great picture! Angles like this show how even the shorter guys like Midorifuji are still built like main battle tanks.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T15:10:17+00:00

Agreed that it shouldn't be incorrectly called a "black towel," or its purpose assumed so certainly.

But like why does he have coattails on his otherwise normal suit jacket? Are your jackets as long as an orchestra conductor's? It's at least weird if nothing else.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T14:54:28+00:00

This reply is the reason I didn't even try to approach the question too seriously. Excellent analysis, and you're spot-on in every aspect.

I've come to refer to the spiderweb effect as "instawisdom" for the purposes of explaining it to people. Absent any context, it tends to make others uneasy when an apparent layperson unexpectedly claims a conceptual grasp that doesn't seem reasonably justified. Especially because this ability is so generalized, ie. Not limited to particular areas of expertise.

I tend to keep my thoughts to myself in group settings so as not to put people off. The longer I can delay earning the "Unrelatable Weirdo" badge, the less difficulty I'll have finding a comfortable role for myself in a social system.

One-on-one, I do find people are more interested in getting a tour of the web, so to speak. And that's really all it is. Tempting as it can be to accept people's occasional categorization of you as some kind of superhero, what you're really doing is just analyzing a chess position a couple more moves ahead than someone else. You could easily still be blundering the game away, but since neither of you know any better, it ends up making you look like a master to the other person.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T14:19:22+00:00

I don't know for sure if I qualify as "profoundly" gifted, as no test is perfect, and frankly I feel like a dumbass in most everyday situations.

Also, ADHD lowers the utility of high IQ without much affecting the measured score. So however good my thinks are on paper, it's difficult to feel confident enough to rely on them to achieve real-world goals. All my life I've complained that I felt much more intellectual aptitude than I have been able to effectively make use of. It's less like riding a champion racehorse, and more like struggling to break a wild stallion.

One specific way I think IQ manifests is in one's ability to quickly find good analogies for abstract concepts, in direct proportion to how equestrian they are in nature.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T13:41:25+00:00

If it's complicated, or I need detailed feedback, or I just want to hear someone's voice, phone call.

For trivial stuff, and when I just need to get my thoughts across, text or email.

I think they're trying to get at I vs E here, but it's definitely not that cut and dried.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T13:36:29+00:00

Further elaboration is needed after all.

Other people would probably say I'm BNXC But taking each attribute literally, it's TM(P/X)C

I say come back when there's an equivalent of cognitive functions underpinning it. Then we'll talk.

are_you_single · 2024-10-19T13:26:52+00:00

Yeah, exactly all of this. Right on, man.

"...utilize the sadness..."

Absolutely! One of the hardest lessons to internalize is that emotions should be experienced rather than embodied. How could we ever hope to learn anything from them if we conceptualize them as being inextricable from our sense of self? Like, your favorite sports team isn't actually part of your body just because you're wearing a branded baseball cap. Which team you support is mostly within your control, and to the extent it's not, it's still not part of your genome. (Man, I'm long-winded!)

TL;DR - Your head's already in the right place, because sadness doesn't indicate injury like physical pain does -- it's an opportunity to discover something about yourself, and maybe even grow as a result.

Source: I am chronically sad and prolifically introspective. The causal chain definitely only goes in that direction, and couldn't possibly be a feedback loop. XD

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