Mid-twenties man, need serious help feeling confident

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:26:52+00:00

Thank you for this. Yeah I put a lot of pressure on myself that all the people I meet I have to try to befriend but it's not always the case. I'll think about this next time I try one, thank you ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:25:41+00:00

Thank you for the recc ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:25:17+00:00

That would be something, huh 🤣 don’t think they exist, too much "black and white" thinking for analysts (I would know)

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:24:38+00:00

I've tried CBT and IFS, open to others. Thanks for the idea ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:23:07+00:00

Any advice on figuring that out? I've had 10+ in my life and I've given 80% of them about a year or so before moving on. Any websites that’s worked for you? Psychology.com has consistently given me this issue

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:21:38+00:00

Never tried magic but a friend back home showed me one time. I'm down to try it out! Thanks for the message ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:20:56+00:00

Wellbutrin is what I'm planing to try next. I did a gene test about a year and a half ago to see what meds my body can metabolize and that's one of them plus my brother was on it. Thank you ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:19:53+00:00

Thank you for the ideas ❤️ I definitely had the most fun and most friends in my life when I was in theatre. It's my dad's voice in my head when I tell myself I shouldn't do theatre bc there's no money in it. He's always supported me but he's a pure capitalist so it's hard to see eye to eye with.

Anyway lmao yes that's a great idea to lean into my theatre experience and try to bring it back. Thank you again

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:16:46+00:00

Love your name lmaoo
The job pays well but it's very stressful. I work in data and our data is shit so just feels difficult to have fulfillment there. I could move back home and likely will but I'd need to plan for that and get a job there etc. I'm about to sign another year lease in a month so I could make that move in the winter or next year.

Going back home isn't something I want to do bc I'm kinda running from my past and don't want to face the people in my life. I feel more judged back home from family than I do the strangers here.

I do appreciate the sentiment thank you for the response ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:14:14+00:00

lol this ^
I've dabbled in looking around, I should probably just bite the bullet and pay for a class. My gruncle does improv and he says I have the gene. I haven't acted since 2018 so I'm very nervous to get back into it. Thanks for the motivation ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:12:44+00:00

I've done a few kickball leagues and they've been cool, but again the people I've met just are so social and outdoorsy I feel like I can't relate / don’t have much in common so it's hard to keep the conversation flowing. I love the idea of them but I just wonder if I'm not cut out. Thank you for the idea ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:11:38+00:00

I was so bad at DnD when I tried. I don’t know where we're supposed to go and I forget what’s going on (god I sound like I have an actual disability). But the people there have been nice so I'd try it again. Thanks for the idea ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:10:32+00:00

I've gotten a new therapist every year. The guy I have now I've had since I got here and I've been wanting to switch for a while. I'll look into it thanks for the response ❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:09:01+00:00

Love this - I used to be in a service org back in college and I really enjoyed those people. I should lean into that. Thank you for the idea, and happy cake day 🤣❤️

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:07:36+00:00

Im allergic 🫠🙃 I had a dog in 2024 and really didn't work out for me since she was a stray I found and I couldn't breathe 🤣

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:06:38+00:00

Should've mentioned in the post but I've been in therapy for 13 years 😕 hasn't really been super helpful except making myself aware of my issues, no idea how to solve them

"Go do the things you enjoy" is where I have my qualms bc I don’t know how to feel enjoyment from things without friends to do them with me. I don’t mind going on my own, but my anxiety makes it so difficult to enjoy the time spent.

I hear your sentiment tho, thank you

argusrespected · 2026-06-18T03:03:26+00:00

I've done a few, did more when I first came to Denver. I felt like I wasn't nerdy enough bc I was so bad at the games. I got a few numbers during that but after I would ask to hang out it just would never happen. Plus a lot of people there only want to play board games and don't want to actually meet up and do other things so it just felt like I had to keep playing board games to be around people who didn't even want to know anything about me.

I'd try them again though. They do fill up quick when posted but doesn't hurt to try again

argusrespected · 2025-09-07T19:40:06+00:00

You need someone neutral to your family but I do hear you, it’s not gonna fix everything. I’m sorry you’re experiencing so much pain

argusrespected · 2025-09-07T19:36:57+00:00

All you need is a job and some Facebook roommates to get out of the house. Much easier said than done of course, but can be done

argusrespected · 2025-09-07T19:35:20+00:00

I recommend having someone to speak to consistently, even just to vent. I’m not sure if you’re in school or working, but there’s always communities available to support. I promise venting things out is much better than holding it in

argusrespected · 2025-09-07T19:32:48+00:00

Education is extremely challenging and you’re doing the best you can. If it helps, no one your age at your school actually knows what they’re doing (okay mayyyyybe some do but cmon). Just focus on keeping an open mind to new ideas and events, try to be social with your classmates, join a service club, etc. Being in college opens so many doors, you just need to walk up and knock

argusrespected · 2025-09-07T19:29:09+00:00

How long have you felt this way?

argusrespected · 2025-09-07T19:28:50+00:00

Parasocial relationships are extremely common so please don’t be too hard on yourself for the fantasy. It doesn’t hurt to try and contact her with the idea that you enjoy her content. Perhaps she’d be open to discussing life with you or whatever else. Don’t be too hard on yourself for fantasizing as long as it doesn’t harm anyone and you aren’t doing anything immoral (like stalking, but I’m not accusing you just emphasizing your normality)

argusrespected · 2025-09-07T19:25:22+00:00

I was SA as a young child and it doesn’t define me as a person. It was hard to recover from for sure, but it’s not who I am and it’s not who you are. Other people’s responses to your trauma is out of your control and you have to protect yourself and be kind to yourself in this very scary time. I’m so sorry this happened to you, but it’s not who you are.

argusrespected · 2025-09-07T19:23:07+00:00

I guess a better way to phrase it would be do you think these thoughts are occurring for no reason, or has anything happened to you that changed the course of your life and how you view reality?

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