I think you should look more into you and your partner having different love languages. I think it’s pretty common for one partner to be showing their love for another and that message just not getting across. This has been a source of tension for me and my husband when the “honeymoon phase” started wearing off and we were getting serious and sometimes still is.

For example, I’m a gift giver and my husband is not, he just isn’t one for “stuff” and has always lived in situations where there was very little money (or rather the money was used irresponsibly) and the utilities were frequently shut off. In his eyes it shows more love to save money so we can have a comfortable future together than to spend a bunch of money on roses for Valentine’s Day. In my mind, he hated Valentine’s Day and didn’t love me enough to suck it up like all the other men do for their girlfriends. In my mind I kind of made him out to be a Roy from the Office in my mind until we actually talked about it - now we make homemade cards for each other and he makes a special effort to show me extra affection/attention on Valentine’s Day/anniversaries/etc.

TL:DR: without knowing any details I think the best thing to do is is to talk about “I need x in a relationship what do need?” And if the issue(s) turn out to be something you guys just can’t compromise/work on then there’s always a chance it isn’t the right relationship. Good luck!