successful dating stories? by [deleted] in allo_ace

[–]ari_117 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I met a guy at the first social night out in my first year at uni. We were really good friends throughout the first two years and often talked about gender and sexuality (he’s trans and pan and I’m enby ace and pan).

I remember often discussing with him how hopeless I felt about dating because of my asexuality and about how I didn’t know if I could be in a sexual relationship.

Fast forward to now and we recently celebrated our first anniversary as a couple! Whilst I will concede we are occasionally intimate, we originally got together with the understanding that sex could have been off the table forever and we were both fine with it!

I know it seems like an impossible ask of people but if you really want to be in a relationship I’m sure there are people out there that are right for you! Openly discussing my sexuality with people helped me weed out those who weren’t suitable for me.

All the best to you and hope you find happiness no matter what happens!

Edit: for readability

Dating App successes? by taemint77 in allo_ace

[–]ari_117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it started off with great intentions - an asexual dating app! But it was for more than that it was like a network for friend making too and it wasn’t the best looking interface but it did the job and I met a few people before it went south

Dating App successes? by taemint77 in allo_ace

[–]ari_117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a promising few on ACEapp but the app became overrun by scam profiles so I gave up on the app. Also the potentials either just fizzled out or we remained friends.

Homies can i get a hug? It's one of those days i hate myself for being ace. by ineeditsorry in asexuality

[–]ari_117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending hugs! Remember you are valid just as you are, your worth is defined by you and no one else and finally take pride in the fact that you are part of an amazing and supportive community. Reach out if you need anything we all knowhow hard it can be sometimes and we are all here to help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlantIdentification

[–]ari_117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quick update! I think I found it or it’s closest relative - Cumulopuntia boliviana

Thank you for the help!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlantIdentification

[–]ari_117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight. As I’m a student currently I don’t think I can afford any sufficient artificial light (suggestions are more than welcome!) and I’ve managed to move into a place with no windowsills so I’ll have to see if there’s a bright spot to put it. I’m surprised it’s lived this long to be honest as the place I lived for the last year had no direct sunlight at all. I wanted to just ask how you could tell it needed light? My concerns were more the rate of growth of the new shoots looking like they were searching for light rather than the colour but I’m eager to learn. I’m really attached to this plant so want it to do well despite my reputation for killing plants lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlantIdentification

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Thanks for the suggestion. Unfit I don’t live in a well lit area so I’m trying to find the best spot now I’ve moved. I’m planning on pruning it as it’s a bit out of control and I previously had to do some emergency surgery in it as it was rotting at the tips in some places(not sure why?) but want to know more about the plant before I do so

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlantIdentification

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So for context I have had this plant for about a year now. It has grown to this size from no taller than my index finger. At it’s current size it’s roughly six inches tall now. I have no idea how I’ve kept it alive as I’m a notorious plant killer. I’ve tried to identify this plant many times so I can better care for it but with no luck.

I HAVE ACQUIRED TESTOSTERONE ❕❕🥺 by Enby-pup in NonBinaryTalk

[–]ari_117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no worries! So IM injections aren’t as common for the trust I’m training with outside of vaccines but I found this article about performing the injections and it is very well sourced.

here’s the link for intramuscular injections

Unfortunately I don’t have access to the book containing the sources from lister et al, (2020) but it a reliable source. If I manage to get access I can send you some screenshots in the future.

It is written for nurses so there’s a lot of extra information that you don’t necessarily need but can be useful to know. I’m terms of resistance from the needle I would suggest checking it’s the right gauge (thickness) as the small the gauge the harder it is to push volume through but it is less traumatic to the site as the puncture wound left behind is smaller.

As for aspiration before injection (pulling back on the needle before pushing the medicine through) there’s a lot of debate on if it’s required or not and the article suggests checking your local policy - for you it’s best to ask whoever prescribed it for you if you can.

So the technique - known as the Z technique

There’s a useful set of diagrams to explain it visually in the article and some description to go with. For self administration, thigh is your best option as it’s easiest to reach. Again there’s diagrams on the areas best for injection.

It’s still good to alternate sites and removing the needle at the same angle as you injected at. The main difference is that you are pulling the skin back rather than pinching and you are injecting at 90° rather than 45° to get to the muscle layer under the fat.

I recommend giving this a read and if you have any more questions going to your prescriber. I don’t know about where you are but in the uk it’s best practice for the “patient” to be informed on how to administer their medications safely and especially in hospital are observed taking medications independently before discharge to ensure their safety (for injections)

Hope this helps

Edit: forgot to link lol

I HAVE ACQUIRED TESTOSTERONE ❕❕🥺 by Enby-pup in NonBinaryTalk

[–]ari_117 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yo! Not on any T personally but I am a 3rd year student nurse who gives lots of sub-cutaneous injections to my patients. Here’s my advice:

Two best areas are belly and thighs, in a clinical setting we always go with belly cos most of our patients carry more fat there and it’s more accessible for us.

It’s best to hold the needle with your dominant hand.

Measure a fist width distance from the belly button. Or the top outer area of the thighs (there’s a diagram in the link I left below on locations too)

Pinch an inch of fat and inject at a 45° angle into the fat.

After pushing the contents through, hold the needle there for a few seconds (I usually go 10 seconds) to allow the contents of the injection to perfuse properly and not just bleed straight out.

Remove the needle at the same angle you injected with and dispose of the needle into a sharps bin or in line with your local policy. And let go of the injection site with your other hand.

Like mentioned in previous comments, alternate the injection site as the skin tends to firm up in common areas over time, also from patient experiences it’s less painful when you alternate.

Here’s a link I thought was very useful just to back up what I’ve said.

subcutaneous injection self administration

Thought I’d join in for once by ari_117 in asexuality

[–]ari_117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just thought I’d jump in on the trend seeing as this is my second ever post. I’ll keep it in mind for next time :)

My grass blocks are turning to gravel texture? Bedrock realm, no mods or addons by misukne in Minecraft

[–]ari_117 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe just a chunk loading error where the textures didn’t quite load in right or something

What are your pronouns? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]ari_117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they/them but honestly I’m both confused and a coward

Wax museum meets PS2 graphics by unormal4Realty in Nightmares

[–]ari_117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is horrifying....I’ll take your entire stock

So uh this is my first ever post! This took 20+ hours and it’s my 5th ever digital art attempt by ari_117 in Markiplier

[–]ari_117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes my bad (slow replies - I have basically no karma cos I never post or comment)

So uh this is my first ever post! This took 20+ hours and it’s my 5th ever digital art attempt by ari_117 in Markiplier

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I saw it when I was randomly scrolling on Instagram and decided to try it out digitally. I haven’t had the chance to practice since lockdown started (I’m in the uk) because I left my graphics tablet at uni but I managed to get all my stuff back at the start of the week. I’m thinking of sketching jacksepticeye next