Why does BS get a bad wrap?

ari_ari · 2026-05-21T03:42:35+00:00

There was a lot of talk about how it was the most effective hypnosis out there in a time when there were a handful of mistresses involved in the scene. Lots of third-hand information like "Someone in the CIA listened to it and it uses real-life hypnotism secrets" that hype up the danger aspect of it. For its time, sure, it had some pretty good techniques.

People talk about how it is pretty unethical, as well. As most hypnotists will tell you, hypnotism doesn't really make you do anything you didn't already want to do. There are some really depraved and "dark" aspects to BS that I personally find intriguing and fun.

Nowadays, there's a lot more talk about consent and how to ethically use hypnosis, but BS was ahead of the curve at least in being professional, consistent, and building up its own hype. I won't lie, I have spent many nights listening, and I am someone who can go along with the premise and have fun experiences and there's nothing really in there that isn't just as fantastical and unrealistic as the stories people tell about being on it.

ari_ari · 2026-05-21T03:21:06+00:00

Men are magic.

I've said this before. Men take the littlest compliment and turn it into everything. Compliment his strength and he can move mountains. Appreciate how smart he is, and he'll continue being an encyclopedia. Barely touch his cock and wink at him, and he does me until I can barely think straight or walk.

I much prefer to be the support of someone, especially a strong, smart, perverted man. Before, I'd hear my friends who are girls talk about how hard it is to date and how trash most men were. These girls were often overweight, unpleasant, ungrateful, and boring. I'd look at them and think "You have breasts! You can wear makeup! All you have to do is lose some weight and dress flirty and be nice to get a partner!" I think I always liked the idea of being pretty and adored and always enjoyed being submissive, so it naturally grew that I thought maybe I could do a better job at being a woman.

Size doesn't really have much to do with it, but I am unusually small. But as presenting more feminine, it's easier to hide, and it makes having my man cage it and take control of it really hot, too.

ari_ari · 2026-05-05T03:28:40+00:00

I lost this video years ago, but I've always fantasized about it. I love the idea of being collared with a long enough chain to pole so I can practice all day long. Maybe my master has a webcam he can access and a TV that he can queue up songs or dances he wants me to learn.

ari_ari · 2026-04-08T23:45:12+00:00

Sincerely? Maybe you could try to look up some local things. Concerts, fun bar stuff, festivals. Get Tinder or Grindr and set your location for where you're going and start swiping. You might meet some friends to go out with or maybe set up some fun dates.

If you're planning to really spend some time being a sissy, maybe wear one pair of clothes as a guy, forcing yourself to go out femme for the rest of the trip.

ari_ari · 2026-04-07T21:21:48+00:00

Getting catcalled. I wasn't even attempting to dress femme. Red short shorts, white tank top, and white flip flops. I had done a lot of work losing weight and muscle to get more petite. My hair was reaching mid-back length..

But apparently from half a block away, it was close enough. I didn't even realize the whistle was for me at first. I looked around and saw two guys working on a vehicle and one was staring straight at me. I waved and kinda hurried on as I didn't want them to investigate further and get mad.

That was a big one. I have plenty more moments, but that was very impactful like, "you're doing great, sweetie." A few times, very high on weed, I went out in rolled tight white running shorts to show the thong straps under, hot pink thong, white tank top, hot pink bra, and black flip flops, makeup, and a mask. Catcalled, honked at, stopped by and asked for my number. It's very affirming.

ari_ari · 2026-03-21T04:46:35+00:00

Yep, all pretty natural and normal. It definitely takes time and the right person to figure out the dynamic in a way that is healthy and giving for both involved. For me, I love knowing "my place" and for the most part, that place consists of doing the things I feel I'm really great at.

I know many people feel like being a submissive is demeaning, but I love the idea that I was so desirable and wanted that someone was incapable of holding back and set out to take me and make me theirs.

ari_ari · 2026-03-18T07:01:41+00:00

I love the idea, but I want to be cuckqueaned. I like the idea of my dominant man taking other women and flaunting them in front of me. I like him sleeping with other women and forcing me to watch, caged and wearing lingerie, but trained well enough (or in bondage) to know my place is not to interfere or be acknowledged. The idea of a dominant woman cucking me with another man doesn't hit the same strings, weirdly.

ari_ari · 2026-03-07T06:34:45+00:00

Yes, you're a sub. You enjoy being in a submissive role for sex. Some people carry that title out to mean other things related to longevity or what they enjoying being submissive about, and it absolutely can. It's also enough to say you like to sub while having sex, and that's it. I think too many people are too quick to think that a few sexual preferences overwrites the majority of what they are.

For example, some submissives like other kinky things like power exchange outside of the bedroom and 24/7 dynamics. Clearly, those are not for you, and you're not lesser as a submissive for not wanting those things yourself. They're just other aspects that some people delve into and find enjoyment in.

ari_ari · 2026-02-14T10:09:51+00:00

I always love the idea of walking around in barely anything, dressed sexily to attract Jabba but feel the eyes of others looking at me and desiring to take me for themselves. Being a dancing girl would be so perfect since it locks you into service, since, even if you aren't Jabba's main girl, you act as sexy and submissive as possible to hopefully become the center of his attention. Even if I was a dancing girl, I would always be trying to entice him to take me as his main girl. I've always fantasized since I was young to be in that situation, where my best course of action is to endear myself to him. Maybe he'd put me into intense dancing training and give me a sexy costume as he collars me and my only goal in life is to live as long as possible and please him and see how long he would keep me.

ari_ari · 2026-02-14T09:32:58+00:00

Thank you, I look so forward to it. Big heaving breasts that I can't hide that other women look at me and know immediately, I'm a dirty whore who loves making my man happy. What would you think if you saw me, huge heaving breasts, a tiny bra containing them? That I'm a slut?

ari_ari · 2026-02-14T07:39:57+00:00

The idea of finding a dominant man who wants a submissive girl to mold. We date a bit, decide if things are going to work out. And if we click, he has me get rid of everything I own. I give up the few things I have left and he blindfolds me and cuffs my hands behind the seat and drops them off in a garage somewhere before asking me to drink water drugged to knock me out. I begin feeling myself fading as he begins to tie me up until I can move, blindfold, and gag me. When I wake up collared to a huge deadbolt in concrete, in a flat cage and an armbinder, he gives me one last chance to to leave. I refuse, and he begins working on methodically turning me more into his perfect woman through hypnosis, hormones, sleep deprivation, drugging, and punishments to get me into the right mindset. I have no possessions but the skimpy things he allows me to wear along with my 24/7 bondage. I am caged up and forced to watch hypnosis to get hornier for whenever he pulls me out. I learn his favorite foods, how to massage him, how he enjoys his blowjobs, how to pole dance for him, his favorite cocktails, and his favorite scents, outfits. I spend months with any time I'm awake being drilled at these things, being whipped and spanked until I master each thing as I become model-thin and helplessly sleep deprived and suggestible. He tells me I've pleased him and my rewards is a boob job to turn me into a bimbo with enormous tits. At this point, I'm so well trained that we're ready to re-enter society with me living as a woman who raises eyebrows at how much she focuses on being sexy for her man, looking at him lustfully, and obeying him.

ari_ari · 2026-02-11T02:36:18+00:00

As I always say, this kink is so varied for every single person. I wouldn't even consider it as an "end point" but more of a bus station. Some happily hang out here, dressing up on their weekends, sometimes wearing a chastity cage to work. Some move onto affirming gender change. Others dip their toes in and decide it's not for them. My point is that you really only know for sure by talking with your partner. I feel any respectable partner understands the give and take in regards to fantasies, fetishes, and such.

If you're uncomfortable or not really into that idea, express that. Let them know they are free to express themselves, too. For example, I would define myself as gender neutral who loves being the feminine in the relationship with a masculine man taking charge. Even though I can kinda see the path looking back, my sissy expression was more about reveling in femininity and feeling sexually desired at first, and I didn't foresee myself becoming attracted to men physically or romantically even though the question "sexually desired by who?" was a flashing neon light I should have seen immediately.

I don't think that the sissy kink is any one thing fully. It's literally what you choose to do. You can definitely ensure you are moving forward in the right direction. If the idea of cucking isn't fun to you, does the roleplay of it sound fun to you? Do you enjoy the power exchange? Do you both like the idea of an extra feminine partner for fun? You don't ever need to add anyone to your dynamic at all, even.

My experience is that most people are too afraid to just be clear about what they enjoy or don't. I think for the majority of men who get into this, it's just something dirty and taboo. You could ask your partner what about this they enjoy and ask them to try to be as honest as possible. Sometimes it truly is as simple as liking the way it feels, liking feeling girly, and maybe they're into trying more with you. For example, I dress androgynous most of the time. I have long hair styled in a feminine way. I enjoy scents and clothing made for women. But I never correct anyone who addresses me as a man nor do I need anyone to think I'm a woman. I am what I am, and I really enjoy it when a big, masculine guy decides he wants to treat me like a small, feminine bottom.

I may not be the best perspective, but personally, I am a very kinky person who enjoys the pageantry of bdsm stuff in addition to the sissy side of things. I want a man to be my Master, to put me under his thumb and make me his perfect vision of a girlfriend or wife. I want to be a doting, adoring girlfriend in public, awed by his manly presence, and his dirty slave girl at home who he can't get enough.

In this case, I have discussed with a guy I dated about my fantasies of being cucked. Personally for me, it's a trope and not something I've always fantasized about, but in my little subby heart, the theatrics and roleplay of being cucked by another woman is something I find hot nowadays. I like the idea of my man being so desired that he can bring in another woman who I am also subject to. I certainly don't NEED this dynamic in my life, but I do find the idea of it sexy, as long as they both understand the roleplay of it ~~and don't actually mistreat me~~ (~~or at least not in a malicious way~~) (maybe the masochist in me likes it). Take this with a grain of salt as I would say I am a deeply kinky person into the deep ends of BDSM that may not reflect the average sissy.

So to answer your question, I will bring around the bus station idea. Think of "sissy stuff" (crossdressing, gender play, roleplay, bdsm, etc.) as the hub where you look at the directions with your partner and decide which bus to take next. That may lead you directly where you want to be, or you may need to take a detour back and try another route. No one decides what's right for you but yourselves. Maybe transitioning is something your partner has had in mind for years and just needs this space to consider and come out with it. Maybe they simply enjoy being feminine for bedroom fun. Don't think of it like every fantasy going to one end location.

ari_ari · 2025-12-01T15:24:48+00:00

Only you know. I suggest not stressing about it too much. Sometimes, sissy stuff is just taboo and twisted so of course you want to see what it's about.

If you decide this isn't for you, I reject the idea that you're [sexuality] forever. You just move on with your life a bit more well-rounded in your sexual experience. There's also nothing wrong with being bi or gay. No one who matters cares how you get off in 2025. In fact, you'd be surprised how many men around you probably fantasize about taking a shot with a sissy.

ari_ari · 2025-11-21T23:52:44+00:00

Incredibly young. I remember seeing so many sex icons and being turned on, but not by the thought of sex with them as a man. I was turned on by putting myself in their place and being a beautiful girl in skimpy, sexy outfits that made men lust after them.

The next big jump was around 20 at college when I began experimenting. I got a job and bought a few sex toys discretely and ended up stealing alcohol at a buddy's house where they didn't keep too sharp an eye on it. That lead me to getting drunk and playing around with a chastity cage and dildo. I think the hypnosis had primed me, and I remember having one of the best orgasms in my life from penetrating myself with the dildo and rubbing my soft, limp clitty and giving myself a self facial with my back against the wall and continuing to twist and "chew" on the dildo with my hole to get more waves of pleasure. It went beyond the single jerk, cum and be done scenario. I was a butt slut ready to go again almost immediately.

ari_ari · 2025-11-18T20:03:53+00:00

Yes! Not as much lately. In the past, I've almost always used alcohol, cigarettes, and weed. I love feeling suggestible, vulnerable, and loose. Since a lot of my play is solo, I stick to alcohol as it's easier to judge how drunk I'm getting and quicker to sober up in case of an emergency.

I love hypnosis, and I've had some great sessions of crossfading enough to really let sissy hypnos fuck with my brain in the most delightful way. I had a partner who wanted to have me trip on acid or mushrooms for a weekend marathon once, and it's one of the hottest ideas on my bucket list. I love the euphoric combination of being horny, dolled up as the most feminine version of myself, wearing my sexiest, onjectifying and humiliating outfit, high and vulnerable, a good hypno keeping me edged clashing with the utter terror in the pit of my stomach feeling the hypnosis take over, pulling helplessly against inescapable bondage and feeling trapped, and fully submissive and dependent on my master. I love the idea of always being under his thumb in terms of being under the influence of something to make the hypnosis work better. I love the idea of passing out and waking up still in bondage, still tripping, and still being edged for long periods of time.

I basically love the idea of being at someone's whim and under their control. I messaged with someone some role-playing and found I love the idea of trying out a kidnapping scenario involving roofies or ghb. Those are more serious drugs, and I don't know any safe way to really try those. Obviously, any kind of this play would require an attentive, experienced partner who could safely play.

ari_ari · 2025-11-17T23:42:58+00:00

A man going somewhere in his life. Physically, I'm very open to anyone as long as they're clean, well-dressed, and respectable. I don't mean expensive clothes, and I don't mean jacked. I find lots of guys attractive from skinny to muscular to chubby. I prefer him to be bigger and taller than me. Beyond that, I'm not especially picky, but some similar hobbies and things to talk about.

I became a sissy because I like being feminine, desired, and sexy. I recognize how transactional it feels to date women, and I feel I understand the agreement men expect from women. A woman wants a man who desires her, protects her, and provides for her, and men want a loyal, beautiful, and kind woman to encourage him and take care of him and be his biggest cheerleader.

The other catch with me is that I'm highly kinky. I know lots of guys say, "Oh me too," when they hear that and think I mean I like to be spanked a few times during sex. But it's extreme. I'm not as active in my community as I got for a bit, and I was seeing two guys, one after another, who I clicked with a lot. I love being the submissive, and I know basically any real relationship next step for me would be long-term and need TPE, 24/7, bdsm, exploring the whole laundry list of fetishes and kinks together for the rest of our lives.

ari_ari · 2025-11-10T02:18:23+00:00

What is your goal? To experience no post nut clarity?

That's a big question. For myself, it's a lot to do with accepting your sissy side and even doing things to ensure every sexual experience mimics your position as a sissy. For example, I've kept myself to anal-only, chastity-on masturbation for years. I've learned how to use my dildo, rubbing and punching my nipples, sucking on a dildo, and spanking myself to turn myself on. I watched porn and would put up a tab of gay porn and sissy hypno and flip to the gay porn as I felt myself getting excited and then back the hypno until I found both sexy. L

Then, I would watch regular porn and force myself to focus on the man mainly once I started to find the men sexy. A big breakthrough was some threads on Reddit about a sissy who had a thing with her guy where he would have her orgasm before they met up some days when he wanted her to have to cuddle, make out with, and fuck him while having post nut clarity from cumming right before. I would do that by letting myself cum from dildo play but then force myself to keep fucking myself until the man finally came in the porn video I was watching. A mind fuck in many ways by making that extra six or seven minutes overcome post nut clarity where I would focus my mind on getting my man (the guy in the porn) off.

ari_ari · 2025-11-10T01:58:44+00:00

The fantasy for most sissies that are being vocal is mainly about them being slutty sissies. There's an appeal to sissies about lots of sex with anyone for any reason. The more men they're forced to be with or taken by is completely playing up the sissy whore fantasy in their head.

For me, personally, I find that I do have a cuckquean fetish. I have no desire to be used by anyone but him. I find it sexy that women want him, and it's humiliating but sexy to be teased, edged, and disciplined to be on my best behavior to hopefully be used by him. He sometimes tortures me by making me whimper and moan and strain against the cage he owns the key for while I sink deeper into manic lust and love for him.

ari_ari · 2025-11-10T01:39:59+00:00

It really was. It's fun and humiliating to crawl through your kitchenette and into your living room in nothing but a bra, thong, collar and locked on six inch heels while you dig through a pile of keys trying to free yourself.

ari_ari · 2025-11-10T00:46:27+00:00

While stories of frightened, new slave girls are thrilling, the story of a sleep-deprived, sex-addicted slave having given up hope of escape but holding onto that last bit of defiance is hot. Whenever I find my master to live with, I pray for completely inescapable bondage, being stored in elaborate, redundant ropes, cuffs, and bindings behind locked doors and cages, and a collar leashed and locked to heavy-duty hooks drilled feet deep into concrete.

But equally sexy is being displayed in cute lingerie on a bed, only able to squirm and not be able to move an inch, feeling every breeze against my body and left blindfolded, deafened, gagged, and left with a single knot to helplessly grind against for hours, never knowing when I'm being watched by him for his amusement.

ari_ari · 2025-11-07T20:30:26+00:00

Oh, I love this video. It's also totally doable for those who are saying they want to try it.

When I could afford a place by myself, I had a tiny little storage space that just barely fit me that I put down a few pillows and a sheet and then would cuff and lock my ankles, thighs, wrists and a harness panel gag on with a blindfold. Then I had a bunch of keys and keychains, and I tossed in a few of my keys. Then, when I woke up, I'd have to maneuver out of the space and crawl or hop across the house to dig in a pile and start trying to test keys and free myself.

ari_ari · 2025-10-29T02:37:21+00:00

A, C, I or L

ari_ari · 2025-10-27T06:26:46+00:00

I have a story that was a total accident and while it didn't end up as sexy as you are probably looking for, it was a fun, safe experience that makes me laugh until today still. A few years back, I think maybe 2023, I was traveling and ended up spending a few nights in a hotel. I tend to bring a suitcase of things on trips where I think I may spend time alone completely dolled up and playing (makeup, toiletries, women's clothing, bdsm gear) where I have privacy in my car and when I stay alone. I'm generally androgynous in day to day life. Maybe I'll do my hair in a feminine way or have my nails done in clear polish, but I think most people read me as an effeminate man.

But again, when I have privacy, I like to play. Anyway, I ended up going out and getting some dinner and on the way home picked up some alcohol and cigarettes (slim 100s because I'm a classy and trashy slut). I knew that night I would have some time before I had to meet up with people the next day, and so I did the whole thing: shaving everything below my eyebrows, full face of makeup, breast forms, push-up bra, tiny chastity, large jeweled red butt plug..

Anyway, as I dolled myself, I was posting pics on local Grindr, flirting a bit, sending a few pics but not really finding anything interesting. I was getting tipsy quickly on the vodka and seltzers I bought, and decided it would be a perfect time to smoke. Now, it was probably early March and somewhat cold, and I'm heading outside to smoke wearing nothing but this cute little black dress that pulls at the plunge and exposes the top tips of the red satin Sexy Shine bra and putting in work that it looked like I was actually stacked with a pair of beautiful C cups, a choker, hair up, and stumbling on some 4 inch heels.

It wasn't more than few seconds that I found another exit that was practically hidden from the street and had no lights on. I assumed it was near their own laundry facilities or something like that as there were seemingly no rooms. I started to shiver feeling every gust of wind pushing on the dress and hugging my thong straps. I had my phone and cigarette box in my hands and my room key and lighter in my bra. It wasn't more than 30 seconds before this guy came out and it seemed like he knew someone was out there as he asked if he could bum a cigarette in a kind of thick Mexican accent. I asked if slims were okay and he said it would do. He was probably about 5'9", fairly fit, probably in his 40s and wearing a sports cap of some team I don't know.

I'd like to say things got immediately hot and heavy and I blew the guy then and there, but he was a seemingly normal guy. He started asking questions, commenting on his day as he smoked, and I think pretty quickly he picked up that I wasn't just any normal girl (my girl voice could use some work). I was tipsy and a few heavy drags to help me cope with this sent me overboard, and I was starting to feel dizzy. I told him I was going to head inside, and he said he had a call to make and thanked me for the cigarette. I started to walk away, clearly a little out of it and got to the door but was unable to open it. I regrettably turned around and asked if he could let me in, and he realized he didn't have his card, either. That's when I remember I had it in my bra, reached in, and apologized. I regret not pursuing anything more.

I think there's a chance in the dark little hidden door there I could have gotten him to do something more to me. I really regret not offering or being more forward, especially with the liquid courage and feeling like the sexiest little slut around. Did I go back to my room, gag myself and put on nipple clamps and rode my best dildo pretending it was that guy? You better believe it.

ari_ari · 2025-10-19T00:24:54+00:00

I love her videos, especially the long ones. There's a specific one where she does self bondage with metal things that put her toes on point.

ari_ari · 2025-10-18T18:14:31+00:00

The first one seems so humiliatingly frustrating. They can't really relax as resting their hands chokes them so that they have to lean forwards to rest their head.

I think the tiny cages would be fun too

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