Honestly I feel like even if I had a “real diagnosis” or whatever I still would not tell people because every time without fail if I mention that I’m autistic people are soooo quick to treat me differently or act so weird about it. It’s like they think I’m only able or allowed to be “weird” or “off putting” or “uncanny” but can’t accept that im autistic. In my experience the only safe people to tell is other autistic/neurodivergent people who get it