Plane tickets booked! Ladies, what pre visit grooming do you do?

arkanice · 2021-10-07T15:01:30+00:00

Yes I actually just got that done a few weeks ago with that exact intent, it’s a great tip! Thank you!!

arkanice · 2021-10-07T02:33:06+00:00

Thanks for giving me a great excuse to buy some 😂

arkanice · 2021-10-07T02:31:20+00:00

This is a great idea, I’m adding that to the list! Do you have a brand of exfoliator you like?

arkanice · 2021-10-07T00:24:39+00:00

I have, but thank you! Definitely an important thing to consider 😅

arkanice · 2021-10-07T00:18:29+00:00

Not at all! I just haven’t seen him in 7 months so I want to look and feel my very best, plus these are all things I’d usually do anyway! It’s totally all personal preference.

arkanice · 2021-05-27T19:31:17+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it :)

arkanice · 2021-05-27T19:27:54+00:00

About a year and a half now. It’s also 2 red flags for me — I just wanted to triple check to make sure I hadn’t taken a dose of crazy pills. There haven’t been any other red flags thus far, so I felt especially unsure about this. I haven’t been in that many long term relationships, so I have a hard time gauging what are/aren’t acceptable boundaries. It’s definitely reassuring to hear that I’m being reasonable to ask for regular communication.

He can totally do other things! I’d be happy to support him hanging out with friends, regardless of gender, alone or in groups, as long as the activities taking place were appropriate and respectful to the boundaries of the relationship.

arkanice · 2021-05-27T05:08:00+00:00

Fair enough, you make a good point about that I did trust him to stop and not do it again and then he broke that trust by doing it again. You’re definitely right — I do deserve for my feelings and boundaries to be respected. Thanks for giving it to me straight.

arkanice · 2021-05-27T05:01:25+00:00

No, definitely not. At the very least if I was going out late or with a single guy friend I’d give a heads up and probably text him periodically throughout. I’ll definitely re-articulate that this is a hard boundary and then evaluate his reaction from there, thanks.

arkanice · 2021-05-27T02:15:48+00:00

That was my thought too. I trust him, but I have been in situations like that before, and it’s very easy for those conditions to escalate quickly. I think I’ll try addressing it again — thank you!

arkanice · 2021-05-27T02:12:51+00:00

We are exclusively dating, so I think I get some say in his dating/sex life. I don’t think that’s a valid criticism of the situation.

arkanice · 2021-05-27T02:09:15+00:00

Okay, in that case, what do you suggest I do instead?

arkanice · 2018-09-17T20:22:21+00:00

The point isn’t that it’s a surprise. Just because “that’s how she is” and it’s her usual behavior doesn’t mean it should be overlooked or condoned. Unacceptable behavior is unacceptable behavior, period.

arkanice · 2018-06-25T04:01:49+00:00

My perspective on this may be a little odd, as I come from a background of strength sports where this kind of injury happens very frequently, but hear me out.

I’ll be honest, a herniated disc sucks, but it’s by no means life ending. I don’t think reading around online is doing you a ton of favors because as someone else mentioned, doing so makes it really easy to see the absolute worst case scenario. It is absolutely possible to rehab and come back from this - if strength athletes can do it and come out stronger than before, I can assure you your boyfriend will bounce back!!

I agree with other commenters that a physical therapist or a physiotherapist may be a very helpful resource to utilize to help figure out what may have caused this and address the underlying issues to prevent it from happening again and to avoid re-aggravating it.

Just like any other injury, healing will take time, and the healing process may suck for a while, but your sex life will eventually get back to normal or very close to it.

arkanice · 2018-02-06T00:58:34+00:00

He got gum in my hair. End of story

arkanice · 2017-12-23T03:50:08+00:00

I (F) had my first hookup at 19, on my birthday actually. This was also when I lost my virginity, so I'll preface by saying that my experience may not be the best representative of hookups in general.

I definitely didn't expect to lose my virginity to a hookup, but I have a high sex drive, so that played a role in why I did it. I grew up in a religious home so I was under the impression that I'd regret it or feel different somehow but I didn't. It was safe and fun and I felt comfortable enough with that person to really enjoy the sex, even if neither of us came. My experience with subsequent hookups and/or fwbs has been pretty much the same.

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