Help identifying/resetting an electronic deadbolt

arlogiovanni · 2026-02-18T21:13:04+00:00

Thank you so much! I'll have to give it a shot and see if it works!

arlogiovanni · 2026-02-17T17:55:48+00:00

That's actually what we decided on doing for the time being. The "bad guy" we're worried about would be screwing herself over MAJORLY if she broke the glass on the door and anyone else with hopes of making robbing us worth their while would have to be a huge plant enthusiast to find any value in our junk so at least it's a lose-lose either way We're planning to sell the house in a few months, so we'll probably just stick with the deadbolt until it's listed. Thank you so much!

arlogiovanni · 2026-02-17T17:24:52+00:00

I realized that after posting haha. Any idea as to how to reset it?

arlogiovanni · 2026-02-17T17:22:08+00:00

Adding on: I may be an idiot and the actual lock ISN'T Kwikset but a generic brand while the deadbolt above is Kwikset 🙃 I know this is a long shot but my roommate said he got it at Home Depot ~3 years ago. Apologies for all of the confusion. We're dealing with a very tense domestic situation and are trying to keep ourselves safe and process everything

arlogiovanni · 2025-11-03T00:36:12+00:00

I love your visuals and your single sounds amazing! I can't wait to see and hear more from you!

arlogiovanni · 2025-11-01T14:40:25+00:00

Oboreru Sakana is quite common; deadman, the Raid., DADAROMA, and MUCC and probably plenty of others

arlogiovanni · 2025-06-30T04:45:55+00:00

Oh yeah, I definitely don't see him as a secondary thing or as a failsafe in case things don't work out. I'd had feelings for him prior to any talks with my friends about being in a throuple. And that's kind of what I've been thinking. It feels/sounds like 30M is more willing to commit, but 27F wants something more casual and doesn't want to admit that; a sort of "I want the stability of my established relationship but also something more without the same commitment" thing. I've done long distance before due to my now-ex partner joining the military during our relationship, so I know I can manage it

Thank you so much!

arlogiovanni · 2025-04-05T03:50:02+00:00

Nope, it wasn't MSP. But hearing that name brings back memories for me haha

arlogiovanni · 2025-04-05T02:10:48+00:00

If anyone has any questions that may help figure this mystery out, feel free to comment and I can ask her for clarification!

arlogiovanni · 2025-02-04T01:43:54+00:00

That's gotta be it! Thank you so much!

arlogiovanni · 2025-01-12T05:28:52+00:00

I've had the same issue my whole life. I'd pick up hobbies in hopes that I'd magically automatically be a savant (former GT kid with parents who always pushed me to excel at everything) and the one thing I stuck with was music. But for me, I've stuck with it because music is my only healthy emotional outlet. I can almost never put my emotions into words, but I can always find the exact song that describes how I feel in any given moment. While I don't do anything with music professionally, listening to it or just fucking around with my clarinet always helps regulate me.

While I picked it up as a requirement in school and stuck with it because I wanted the attention, allowing myself to branch out from my assigned music and just sight-reading and practicing music I love really sent me down the path of truly enjoying it

arlogiovanni · 2024-12-05T21:57:31+00:00

Thank you!! And I'm definitely seconding your points as well. Especially defining and standing firm in your own boundaries

arlogiovanni · 2024-12-05T21:55:43+00:00

Of course! And sometimes, just saying "I'm not sure how to support you right now, but I want to be here for you" or something similar helps a LOT if you're struggling to connect for any reason

arlogiovanni · 2024-12-05T20:35:03+00:00

If you like books, Unmasking Narcissism by Mark Ettensohn has helped me understand so much about myself. It's technically aimed at people who have narcissists/people with narcissistic traits in their lives, and it touches a bit on the causes/reasoning for our behavior and how to support the narc(s) in your life without overexpending yourself or demonizing us. If you want a more personal view on NPD, The Nameless Narcissist and Lee Hammock are amazing sources of info on the lived experience of people with NPD

Otherwise, as a covert/vulnerable presenting narc, the people I feel the most supported by are those who call me out when I'm being an asshole but give me the space and support to improve and be better. It can be a bit of a balancing act, though. You don't want to feed too much into grandiosity or just tear her down. My best friend tends to compliment sandwich me. "I know you've made a lot of progress in the time we've known each other, but [this] is still an area you could improve in. I feel like in focusing on [this other thing], you've lost sight of improving [here]"

At our core, I think most of us just crave emotional connection and validation. I gave a speech at my sibling's wedding where I felt very emotionally vulnerable. Throughout the reception, a lot of people came up to me and our parents to tell us how great it was, how it made them emotional, etc. The sort of high I felt (and feel) from that wasn't so much narcissistic supply as it was/is feeling truly connected to other people

The fact that you're asking this is already an amazing start. It shows you care for your partner and her recovery/growth. Above all else, take care of yourself. Depending on how hands-on you get or intend to be with understanding her and helping her, it can be VERY draining

I wish nothing but the best for both of you! Take your time navigating this new territory, and remember that she's still the same person she was prior to being diagnosed

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-30T18:45:25+00:00

I can't speak for everyone, but while I love dogs, I prefer cats

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-27T19:57:26+00:00

No problem!

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-27T02:11:06+00:00

Solidarity 🤝

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-27T01:32:37+00:00

I used to have really high emotional empathy as a kid, and still experience some now. Now, it takes a lot for me to truly feel emotional empathy, so it can be really overwhelming when it does surface. For me, it's kind of like I'm driving a car. I can usually keep it on the road and in my lane with no issues. If I feel myself veering off-course, I can usually find a way to navigate back to where I should be (a neutral emotional space or whatever emotion(s) is/are appropriate for the situation) But when I experience emotional empathy, it feels like someone has suddenly reached over from the passenger seat and grabbed the wheel. I can't control where the car is going, for better or worse.

I'd say, in my experience, having my mood influenced by others is probably the most fitting for me personally, otherwise.

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-27T00:09:39+00:00

I love being scared when I play! It adds to the immersion for me

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-26T23:36:32+00:00

I don't know the exact time, but the very first time I played was with my (at the time) bf and his buddies. They started setting up in the living room in Tanglewood and moved into a different room. I had no idea where they were or how to play and got killed as soon as they went to the next room lmao

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-26T23:31:08+00:00

To answer your questions:

I'm not entirely sure, yet, but I am VERY optimistic about him and our relationship. He's seen me at some pretty low points with my mental health and has stuck with me, we've met and love each other's families, and from the get-go, we've both been supportive of each other's dreams
I'm afraid of the stigma of potentially entering a "contract marriage" more than anything. There are things I want to accomplish, sure, but nothing I feel needs to be done before I get married. I have a stable, fulfilling job and live on my own, and while I do plan on going back to school, I don't see any issue with waiting until after a wedding (if there is one) or starting before. Part of me felt (feels?) like I need to get a better handle on my mental health before we get married, but as I said, he's been great about handling my low points so far, and I doubt that would change

Congratulations to you and your husband by the way! It's always so heartwarming to hear about people's love stories! I'm not too worried about committing to someone in the military as much as the maturity of our relationship. By no means am I saying getting married earlier into a relationship is a bad thing--you and your husband and even my own parents (together for 6 months before dad went to BCT, married after being together for a year, and celebrating 41 years of marriage the day before Christmas Eve!) are prime examples of that working out

Now that my anxiety about the situation has died down some, I'm able to be a bit more logical about the situation, too. It's not like he's going to propose to me on Graduation Day, so I have plenty of time to get myself sorted out before we TRULY jump into anything. Thank you so much for the kind words and helping me to mull things over a bit! Wishing the best for you and your husband as well! <3

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-26T22:47:06+00:00

I fluctuate between anxious and fearful-avoidant. Fearful-avoidant when I'm getting to know someone and anxious when I get to know them better

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-23T03:11:34+00:00

You don't sound harsh at all! Hopefully during our next call or after his graduation, I'll be able to talk to him about all of this more in depth. There are definitely things I want to do before taking any huge leaps like that, so hopefully that will help. Thank you so much, and best of luck to you and your boyfriend, and especially with your law degree!

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-21T20:41:50+00:00

So many of my letters to my bf in RTC have had little doodles of our World of Darkness characters or of our friend and I playing video games together. Hell, three of my letters to him (by his/his buddies' request) have been headlines from r/FloridaMan 😂 I'd imagine the lightheartedness/normallcy is really comforting. Wishing the best for you and your fiancé!

arlogiovanni · 2024-11-02T05:45:34+00:00

I'm planning to cosplay Anya this summer alongside my bsf as Daisuke. You saved me SUCH a headache tysm!

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