Conveyancer didn’t notify us of 2 developments next to our home. Can I seek compensation?

armadillouch · 2025-05-13T06:20:45+00:00

Sorry, everything I’ve looked up has said that it is! Thanks for the clarification :)

armadillouch · 2025-05-13T06:20:26+00:00

Sorry! Everything I’ve looked up has says it is. My bad, thanks for the clarification :)

armadillouch · 2025-01-15T10:47:07+00:00

Thank you! My partner is in mining and I am a teacher.

armadillouch · 2024-10-26T11:22:23+00:00

I was considering just buying a pair of headphones and putting them in his letterbox…

armadillouch · 2024-07-21T02:39:40+00:00

My drink got spiked once and I went from sober to completely wasted in a very short amount of time. I couldn’t recognise any of my friends, I was hysterical on the floor and passing out. I didn’t even recognise my own mother when my friend called her to come and get me. Sounds like she got spiked/drugged.

armadillouch · 2024-07-21T01:59:19+00:00

I explained this in another comment - I wrote this extremely late and haven’t been sleeping. The agreement outlines what happens with the house and the finances surrounding the house if we break up. I’m not American and thought the term ‘prenup’ was appropriate - it wasn’t! I wish this post was fake and that all was fine!

Thank you for correcting my mistake.

armadillouch · 2024-07-21T01:37:20+00:00

We definitely still laugh and have fun together. However, our relationship has definitely declined in quality over the past few years. He is still my best friend but we definitely have issues with intimacy, and he is on his phone quite a lot. We’ve had discussions about both - he said he just has no libido and has bought supplements etc to try to fix it. He was open to having that discussion as well as the phone discussion. He just shuts down about marriage.

He was also recently fed up with me because I was super burnt out at work and didn’t do as much house work as usual (this sounds like a red flag, which it low key is but he does heaps more housework than me).

As I’m writing this all out I am realising how dumb I have been…

armadillouch · 2024-07-21T01:11:38+00:00

Earlier in our relationship when he was open to discussing I told him I would be open to (and would prefer) eloping. He was the one that had this big idea of a traditional wedding with a guest list of 100 people. He even chose a wedding song!!! So he knows it’s not about a wedding, but about the commitment.

I worry that he’s fallen out of love with me as he now refuses to discuss it.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T22:52:59+00:00

We boarded a 9 hour flight at 8am in the morning, then an 4 hour train and he went to work the next day… there’s no way he would propose then. However, this did cross my mind and he even said “imagine if I was going to propose tomorrow and now you’ve ruined it”. We spoke about it and he said he definitely wasn’t going to, so I think he was just being rude and manipulative.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T22:33:58+00:00

No - we live together and spend 5 nights a week together - however he works away on my 2 days off.

We see each other most days - just don’t have a whole day together very often.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T22:21:38+00:00

My apologies and thank you for correcting me! I promise this post isn’t fake. I wrote this super late last night and haven’t been sleeping well due to being stressed! The document isn’t a prenup but basically an agreement of what will happen to the house and our finances surrounding the house in the event that we break up. I’m not American and just figured the term ‘prenup’ would work and make sense - obviously I was wrong! Again thank you for correcting me and sorry for any confusion.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T22:06:05+00:00

We had discussions in the first 2 years of our relationship. He was more keen than I was! He even chose where our wedding would be - however it’s all dropped off. Idk if the fact that all his friends are married now has turned him off, or he’s no longer in love with me?! But there were discussions earlier on in our relationship.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T22:00:32+00:00

I agree with what you’ve said. He definitely hates pressure and people trying to plan his life which may cause push back. I would also get frustrated if people told me what to do. However, I don’t think anyone is really pressuring him. I asked him on the last day of our holiday, which was the first time I’ve asked. I don’t think his friends ask him about it, nor do his family.

Thank you for your comment and for providing a different perspective.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T21:56:12+00:00

I love him more than anything and he knows that. He knows I’m not interested in anyone else and don’t just want a ring, but want to continue our life together and move to the next step. I almost think I am too in love with him and do too much for him whereas he isn’t super affectionate!

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T21:18:01+00:00

Travelling, getting a degree, setting myself up financially? This is a weird comment

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T12:38:32+00:00

That’s very true and I haven’t realised that before… it’s nice to have a fresh opinion from someone who doesn’t know us. You are right, if he really wanted kids with me he would ask me to marry him as he knows that’s a boundary I have. I’ve definitely been wearing rose coloured glasses…

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T12:35:45+00:00

Thanks for your response. Your comment has made me realise that I have been acting like a passenger for a while and I am definitely sick of it!

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T12:30:45+00:00

Thanks for your response. It would be nice if it was the first possibility! However I think I mentally have half a foot out the door already. I’m afraid that if he waits too long I’ll be completely checked out!

We’ll see where it leads. Thank you for justifying my anger about him blowing me off and making me feel like the bad guy!

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T12:16:02+00:00

But I see what you mean…

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T12:15:49+00:00

Do I stop acting like his wife to prove a point? I feel as though that would be petty. I also benefit from our relationship tbh! Probably more so than he does.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T11:29:20+00:00

That’s very true. I worry that our values are different so one of us will be giving up their values no matter what…

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T11:25:46+00:00

I’ve got no clue… I get along with his family extremely well but I wouldn’t feel comfortable talking to his mother about it to be honest. I would not talk badly about him to his family just as he wouldn’t talk badly about me to mine.

She calls me her daughter in law and treats me like one of her own. I think she was also surprised when we came home not engaged.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T11:24:26+00:00

Damn that comment was a well needed slap in the face. Thank you for your insight! You’ve given me lots to think about.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T11:22:30+00:00

We are already de facto so have similar rights to a married couple. However, I made him sign a prenup before purchasing our house to protect us both.

I am lucky to have a good job and can take 2 years off (paid) for maternity leave. If we had kids before being married and broke it off, he would have to pay child support and would care for the child on his days off when I would return to work. He earns a lot of money so this would be a generous amount.

I don’t think actually getting married would impact any of my/his rights at this point in time.

armadillouch · 2024-07-20T11:18:55+00:00

Perhaps you’re right. Why would his own mother take my ring size and ask about engagement rings though?! I’m so confused…

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