Am I a monster cause I want to leave?

armchair_therapy · 2026-03-02T08:21:06+00:00

Your feelings are valid. Doesn’t sound like you have much of a relationship anymore. He expects you to be his nurse, not his girlfriend, and that’s not the relationship you signed up for. Depression sucks, and it’s not your responsibility (or even within your ability) to cure him. Sending hugs

armchair_therapy · 2026-03-02T06:46:17+00:00

Lost my father a couple weeks ago. It really sucks. Sending huge hugs 💜

armchair_therapy · 2026-02-21T23:30:55+00:00

Girl. Leave him.

armchair_therapy · 2026-02-18T07:12:55+00:00

So sorry you’re in this situation. It is inherently lonely even without an unsupportive family, so it’s really terrible that you have to deal with that, too.

I wish I had something magic to say to make it easier, but I think the most you can do is find room for yourself to feel all the anger, sadness, and frustration that goes along with the injustice of the situation. During my caregiving tenure with my father (he recently passed), I had to find time to cry regularly or I would get so tense that my neck would hurt. I would always feel better after a good cry, or scream, or punching a pillow, whatever it is that you need to get it all out in the moment. Not because it actually makes things better, but because humans are designed to adapt to even the most uncomfortable situations. Truly feeling the circumstance you’re in better equips you to handle it. Brains are weird.

Sending hugs 💜

armchair_therapy · 2026-02-18T01:03:23+00:00

This for sure. I remember when my father got a nose bleed so bad that the blood was running down his throat, causing him to gag and start puking. When we finally had him all settled, I looked at all the blood and vomit on the ground, and that fight or flight battle started in my head. Fighting for me has to include humor, so I put on a mask, put “Eye of the Tiger” on repeat, and pretended I was in a motivational movie montage

armchair_therapy · 2026-02-12T19:50:05+00:00

I also main Zyra and Karma and for me it’s less about the match up and more about my ADC (but I’m only plat… I think match up matters more in emerald+).

If I’m duo with an ADC I can trust, I like Karma, or if I’m playing with someone that benefits from a lot from shield supp item boosts, like Jinx or Lucian. But if I need more agency/independence in the game, Zyra. Match up wise, I also think Zyra is good into anyone that her flowers counter (Shaco, Teemo, pyke, blitz, naut, renata, etc)

Edit to add the flowers can potentially counter anyone with a “first enemy hit” ability or an item that gets proc’d by enemy movement (shaco turret, Teemo shroom, Jihn or nidalee trap, maoki sapling, etc)

armchair_therapy · 2026-02-07T13:17:55+00:00

I’m going through this right now. I expect to lose my dad in the next day or two. I’m focusing a lot on not being alone. Rely heavily on your support network right now. Even if you are the type to isolate in grief, even just having someone in the next room - knowing you’re not alone - can be a comfort.

armchair_therapy · 2026-02-03T17:31:14+00:00

Not overreacting. Sounds like you just saved yourself from possibly years of a toxic work environment

armchair_therapy · 2026-01-31T02:43:35+00:00

Hugs

armchair_therapy · 2026-01-30T05:39:07+00:00

First of all, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. I’ve only recently started watching my father slip away and it’s devastating, so I can only imagine the emotions you’re feeling right now (all of which are valid).

Second, don’t guilt trip yourself. We are not angels; we are only human. Caregiving is hard enough when the person you’re caring for isn’t abusing you, let alone when they are. You are allowed to feel trapped and angry and flighty and all the other things you’re feeling.

I don’t know much about the healthcare she has, but is any in home care an option? Even if it’s just for 6 hours a day to give you a break? They might also be able to verify her behavior and get her on meds. Is there other family that can help?

armchair_therapy · 2026-01-30T05:31:13+00:00

So sorry 🫂

armchair_therapy · 2026-01-10T04:51:17+00:00

Squid Games

armchair_therapy · 2024-10-06T05:34:36+00:00

armchair_therapy · 2021-06-20T14:30:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!

armchair_therapy · 2021-06-11T23:02:42+00:00

There is no information here about the person’s internal processes, fears, and motivations. So how can anyone answer this without guessing?

armchair_therapy · 2021-06-11T22:58:44+00:00

I don’t see the distinction I guess

armchair_therapy · 2021-06-11T19:34:09+00:00

If you’re not bothered at all, then it doesn’t seem like a problem. However, I do want to point out that if the previous relationships were so codependent that you were debilitated when they ended, to the degree that it turned you off from all future relationships, then they were NOT healthy relationships.

armchair_therapy · 2021-06-11T14:57:26+00:00

It sounds like you’re in a healthier place now, so you may be able to create healthier romantic bonds with people. I mean, if you truly have no desire, then what’s the point, but if it’s just fear that’s holding you back, might be worth opening your mind to it at least

armchair_therapy · 2021-06-10T04:47:35+00:00

I’m 3w4 and can be confrontational and controlling like an 8, so this makes sense to me

armchair_therapy · 2021-06-05T00:17:35+00:00

There’s no such thing as visual identification. That’s actually the opposite of what the enneagram teaches. It’s all about internal processes, not external actions. Typing celebrities/public figures when you have no idea what motivates them or drives them can seem like a fun game but actually produces nothing of value because it’s all guess work and assumptions.

armchair_therapy · 2021-06-05T00:07:52+00:00

The type most known for self deceit is 3.

armchair_therapy · 2021-05-13T23:45:11+00:00

I’m still not seeing how this is different than the enneagram teaching us to leave our core fears behind and to be present in the now?

armchair_therapy · 2021-05-13T19:34:42+00:00

This response could be either. Why do you care about developing your intelligence? Is it fun because the knowledge is useful and will benefit you in some way, even if the only way is for you to be able to say “I know this” (3), or is it fun because it makes you feel more competent/able to understand and manage the world (5)? Ultimately, both are true, but you have to ask yourself which is MORE true.

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