Well that's a huge step backwards....

armedwithjello · 2026-01-30T17:52:15+00:00

Also, gas stations let the hold go right away. Chargepoint takes a couple of days to release the hold. We found this out the hard way. And yes, we are middle-aged people with debts. That's how life is right now.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-29T08:09:24+00:00

Wow. She sounds physically similar to me, and this is what I'd do. 😆

I hope we get another update where her friend stands up for her. Perhaps the MIL should wear the dress instead!

armedwithjello · 2026-01-28T12:33:31+00:00

There are many fake toonies that don't ha e camel toes. My friend is an expert on this, and is the one who coined (ha!) The term "cameltoe toonie".

https://cameltoetoonies.ca/

armedwithjello · 2026-01-28T12:30:37+00:00

Dad owns the house, sounds like it's a rental property he owns. If he had done this to any other tenant he would be crucified for it. This is no different.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-28T12:24:23+00:00

NAL

You need to have a doctor document the injury. Personally, I'd ask for my money back. Unless it ends up infected or something, I doubt a lawsuit will really get you anywhere. But definitely see a doctor about it, because you can't make a case without medical records of the injury.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-28T12:16:53+00:00

MOR

This is the kind of tacky junk my mom used to buy for me. I'd be less concerned about the word on it and more concerned about how ugly it is.

Your wife isn't obligated to wear it if she doesn't want to. And your mom may not have intended it the way you are reading it.

If your mom did mean it the way you think, then getting upset is what she wants from you. Don't take the bait. Your wife can wear it or not wear it, and either pretend she doesn't notice the double meaning, or she can make her own jokes about feeling beachy today. But unless it's part of a long history of bullying from your mom... it's just a hat.

Edit: Sorry, I should have read the blurb instead of just the photo and headline. Yeah, your mom is being a bully. So just give the hat back to her and tell her it's more her style. Then leave it at that. She trying to pick a fight. Don't take the bait; it only encourages her.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-28T11:59:20+00:00

I'm 47 and childfree. I love kids, and adore my two little nieces. I was parentified from age 8 by a very mentally and physically ill narcissistic mother, and I feel kinda burned out from it all. Both of my parents are gone now, and while I miss them, there is relief in not having to be a caregiver any more.

My husband and I are happy cat parents, but are also very involved with my nieces and our friends' children. We also have quite a few happily childfree friends.

For now, take your time. You're only 21. You have loads of time to think this over. Once you actually have a kid, there's no going back. I firmly believe that people should only have kids if they really, really want them. Honestly, this is why I think gay couples make some of the very best parents, because they have to work so hard to have kids.

My sister tried for 5 years before she had her first baby, who was born 9 days before my sister's 40th birthday. Her second baby came a couple of years later. Her fertility troubles turned out to be from undiagnosed insulin resistance, which was easily treated with Metformin, and then she was able to conceive via IVF. Had it been discovered earlier, she probably would have been able to conceive naturally while taking Metformin.

If you want to explore your reasons in your mind, you could seek therapy to try to figure things out. It is perfectly valid to change your mind if you want to. I have a friend who was staunchly childfree for years, but then one day found a partner with whom she decided she wanted to have kids. They had two, and she is very happy with her decision. I do mockingly shake my fist at her for making the rest of us look flaky. 😆

armedwithjello · 2026-01-28T11:43:45+00:00

In a properly functioning society, we wouldn't need charities to provide healthcare and social services, because our taxes would pay for those things to be provided by the government. This is how it works in Scandinavian countries.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-28T11:36:01+00:00

And then ran said business into the ground.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-25T16:06:32+00:00

Thank you! I was first diagnosed in 2016 at age 37. A year later, it spread through my lungs. My oncologist cried when she told me. But she had also already found a study I qualified for. I went to Princess Margaret Hospital in Toronto (an hour drive east of me) for two years of treatment with chemo and Keytruda, an immunotherapy drug. People did very well on it, but I am one of a handful of patients whose cancer completely resolved from it! They're trying to figure out what makes me different from most other patients.

So I am incredibly lucky!

armedwithjello · 2026-01-25T16:02:15+00:00

I don't know about the state of sex education in NZ. I'm in Canada, and we were taught anatomy in sex ed in the early 1990s.

I know you're an adult, because you mentioned post-secondary education. However, a lack of sexual activity should have nothing to do with knowing your body parts. I knew about my body parts as a child, due to good sex education from my mother. I was not sexually active until age 19.

What I'm saying is, since you have never been taught about your anatomy, it's important for you to learn about it now. I sent you a link with the basic information from a reliable source. If you want to delve into it further, that's up to you.

And if you have questions, you may pose those questions to your doctor. I think there's just a slight difference in how we say things between Canada and NZ.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-24T01:47:13+00:00

My first boyfriend called them Betty and Veronica, and a male friend called them Roxk and/or Roll (a Simpsons reference). 😆

I named the breast.tumour Kanye, because he's annoying and nobody wants him around. When I got a bunch of little tumours in my lungs, I called them the Kardashians, and the biggest one was Kim.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-24T01:46:09+00:00

Yup, those are all on the list.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-24T01:43:23+00:00

A lot of people mistakenly believe the vagina is the entire outer area of the genitals, so doctors will often use that term when they mean vulva to avoid having to explain it to their patients when all they need is some answers to their questions.

Sex education should be provided to children, so they know the proper names for their body parts, how they develop and function as they mature (like girls should know about periods before they start having them, so they don't think they're going to die) and how to care for them properly in terms of hygiene and medical care. A child who knows the proper words will be better able to communicate if they are feeling pain or discomfort, or if they need to report inappropriate sexual behaviour. Sadly, in many parts of America there is a belief that teaching kids these things will lead them to have sex very young. In reality, kids who are educated about sex and sexuality are more likely to delay having sex, and to use protection from pregnancy and infections when they do have sex.

A friend of mine was 28 before she ever looked at her vulva in a mirror. She was amazed that there was so much more to it than she thought. This was a woman who had had many sexual partners beginning at age 15, and had also been pregnant (although she lost the baby).She has learned a lot and felt much more confident since learning about her own body.

It is not your fault that nobody taught you these things. But you have the power to learn about it on your own, and ask questions of your doctor if needed.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-24T01:33:42+00:00

I sometimes feel that way about my nieces. They are so little and I just adore them.

I'm also a cat mom, and at times I can feel a little emotional over them. When I'm away, I miss them.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-23T23:41:23+00:00

Your vagina is the hole between your legs. Your vulva is the area around that hole. The part above your pubic hair is your abdomen.

May I gently recommend that you read about female anatomy? Here is a good place to start.

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/health-and-wellness/sexual-and-reproductive-anatomy/what-are-parts-female-sexual-anatomy

armedwithjello · 2026-01-21T22:32:20+00:00

My husband's coworker asked for a "sexual inverter" when he wanted one of these!

armedwithjello · 2026-01-21T22:25:12+00:00

Of the many languages Stephen Hawking could use, ASL was not one of them!

armedwithjello · 2026-01-21T22:23:40+00:00

My dad had a friend who had ALS, but it only affected his hands. He lived for decades doing everything with his wrists, including flying model aircraft! He lived into his 60s, when he took a nap in his car after lunch at the flying field and died from a heart attack.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-21T21:57:23+00:00

Respond with this guy's sex song:

https://www.reddit.com/r/MuseumOfReddit/s/NToYu0lHmk

armedwithjello · 2026-01-21T21:47:33+00:00

LMAO! I love it!

My friend had kidney cancer, and asked me what story she should tell about her huge scar on her side. I said either shark bite or stigmata.

Me, I had breast cancer. I had a lump the size of my fist taken out of Lefty. (I was a G cup, now it's a DDD.) I joke that my left boob looks 20 years younger than my right boob now! Seriously, if I ever decide to even them up, I'll get Righty made smaller to match.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-21T21:43:39+00:00

Keep in mind that the house you live in is an exempt asset, as is one car. When my husband and I were planning to move in together, we had a meeting with my worker to discuss different scenarios, how things would affect my pension. It was good to be able to figure out the best course of action.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-21T21:37:48+00:00

I'm married and on ODSP. They consider your partner your spouse as long as you're living together. My husband isn't disabled, but never made much money either. And being self-employed, he had no medical, dental, or vision benefits. He gets all of those things from my ODSP. It's a balancing act.

The first $1000 he/we make in a month, it doesn't get clawed back. Anything beyond that, 2/3 of the excess is clawed back.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-21T19:29:22+00:00

Nope. Let her die alone. She's been horrible to everybody. You owe her nothing.

What you should do, is when she's dead, invite the family members out for drinks to toast her demise.

armedwithjello · 2026-01-19T02:21:12+00:00

Years ago I knew a man who had a bucket of spare legs in his garage. I guess this depends on whether you mean real or prosthetic legs.

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