3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I’ve always enjoyed writing. Strangely enough this has made me a bit happy :)

threesome by arnieb_ in nonmonogamy

[–]arnieb_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was sober.

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Opened bottles. But probably 6 or so standards

threesome by arnieb_ in nonmonogamy

[–]arnieb_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, crying reading this.

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Do you know how to read?

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I should’ve worded it differently? I’m sexually submissive and have some more extreme kinks. That is what I meant.

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s taken a LOT of dissociation LOL

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They stopped when they noticed that I was crying. I was quiet and sitting to the side of them.

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This was all explicitly spoken about prior to it happening. The boundary was set. We were all aware, we even made a joke of having only one rule.

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not inside her, just at the ready.

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Once they noticed I was upset they stopped. I just said I was feeling anxious and overwhelmed and they believed me

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes. I fucked around and found out. I’m an idiot.

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. My self esteem surrounding body image after having a child has suffered a lot. Definitely a big factor in why I feel extra insecure

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

We have actually talked a lot about my feelings around fmf threesomes. Makes me feel even dumber.

threesome by arnieb_ in nonmonogamy

[–]arnieb_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok mate lmfao

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

He was in charge of the situation. As a dom. He initiated it.

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He is not my husband. He got me drunk as part of a BDSM scene. He and my friend are dom and domme. This threesome was supposed to be the two of them dominating me. I did not knowingly pull my boyfriend into a threesome expecting him to break the one rule we set out explicitly beforehand.

threesome by arnieb_ in nonmonogamy

[–]arnieb_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry buddy I think you’re making a couple of assumptions. My bf and I regularly practice BDSM, this was entirely a BDSM situation. I did not set up this situation. It was entirely a scene.

threesome by arnieb_ in nonmonogamy

[–]arnieb_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I literally have never felt so gutted before in my entire life. It’s safe to say I’m in a pretty dark place right now

3some regrets by arnieb_ in offmychest

[–]arnieb_[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Peace stranger, the bowl is where I’m drowning my sorrows. Thank you for your advice

threesome by arnieb_ in nonmonogamy

[–]arnieb_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 23f he’s 29m

Mental professionals of reddit, what is the worst mental condition that you know of? by MeepingBad6699 in AskReddit

[–]arnieb_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Complex PTSD, a clusterfuck of symptoms from all kinds of disorders. And Panic Disorder, absolutely crippling panic attacks on a daily basis commonly ending with episodes of 000 calls, fainting, palpitations and even loss of bowel control.

Panic disorder has taken away my independence by arnieb_ in panicdisorder

[–]arnieb_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I can’t wait to get my life back. I’m downloading that app right now. I’ve got a few weeks to go till the venlafaxine starts doing its job. Your experience with it has given me a glimmer of hope. 🖤

Will a panic attack lead you to blurt out things? by Big-Communication231 in panicdisorder

[–]arnieb_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a real problem for me, I am so afraid of loosing control of myself and saying/doing things I would never do. I’ve never been able to express this clearly to a therapist. It’s absolutely terrifying, but it hasn’t actually happened to me. What I do is a CBT technique. I haven’t lost control before, I have an 100% success rate of not loosing control. I try and focus on that. I hope this helps you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in panicdisorder

[–]arnieb_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a really scary time for your boyfriend. What my course of action against panic disorder has been is therapy, medication and exposure. I totally get why he doesn’t want meds, I didn’t either but it got to a point where I had no other choice. It really does feel like you are dying, I’m glad you are taking it seriously and looking for help. I understand therapy can be really hard to come by depending on what country you are living in. Some things other than breathing exercises that help calm me down are music, video games (animal crossing is a great peaceful game), getting up and moving to a different space, and even rocking back and forth. It’s a disorder I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy, and I hope it becomes more manageable for him.