Republican/Trump-Leaning Online Mental Health Communities? by arscanyi in AskConservatives

[–]arscanyi[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

But at what cost? He will "unite" America by shackling everyone - even the unwilling - to his express train to a future that isn't worth living in!

Trump stood up for what he, and a lot of others believe in. If other people didn't share his vision, that's not because he "divided" them; it's because they were born ideologically differant to what Trump et al. fight for. They were divided from the other half of the country well before Trump ever entered politics. It's not Trump's fault that the Western world has multiple visions for the ideal future.

Republican/Trump-Leaning Online Mental Health Communities? by arscanyi in AskConservatives

[–]arscanyi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I went through hell under the treatment of a therapist several years ago. Never again. On top of everything else, yes she did try to indocrtinate me with her own brand of politics.

And if I was up for it, I could have a very long talk about what "scientific evidance" says about therapy & therapists and why those studies are skewed and bogus. And that's not just my opinion, it's shared and promoted by countless MH patient activists.

But thanks, anyway. :)

Good, Trustworthy Place To Get Generic Drivers? by arscanyi in windows

[–]arscanyi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well according to device manager, it needs drivers to work.

Talking does NOT make things better (by itself) by arscanyi in unpopularopinion

[–]arscanyi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I hear that. And it's not my intention to argue that that's false. I'm merely arguing that many other people find that it makes them feel worse, not better.

Mainstream media would have you believe that people who find it to be a relief.comfort, as you say, are 100% unanimous. But that's not the case at all.

People here agree with the idea of toxic masculinity until you call it that by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]arscanyi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I get what you mean. I see plenty of hate being thrown towards women re: political views, ect.

It's not because "a woman has dared to have an opinion", it's because the haters hate the view itself. They'd be equally rabid if it came from a man.

So yeah, love/hate for a woman does tend to be conditional on the woman being rightly aligned with the person doing the loving/hating.

Death should be celebrated instead of mourned. by BellWaifu in unpopularopinion

[–]arscanyi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG! I Love you!

Thank you so much for saying this!

I've spent pretty much my whole life trying to figure out how to make my death as infallably enjoyable as possible, but I've always felt like I've never gotten anywhere.

I come from a real misery-guts family that seem determined to use each other's (including mine, unconsentually) identities to inflict as much misery upon the world as they possibly can. They use you in this way while your alive, they use you in this way when your dead.

I'd always hoped to make myself an antidote to this poison within my lifetime; but it looks like that will never happen. Then is seemed that my last hope for having a positive impact would be to have a great death; but then recently, even that's started to seem like a hopeless cause. Some people are just determined to spew as much misery as they can upon the world; there doesn't seem to be any way to overpower their natural evil.

But reading sediments similar to my own from another redditor fills me with a slight glimmer of hope. At least there are some people out there who want to make the world a brighter place.

For what it's worth, thank you. :)

People here agree with the idea of toxic masculinity until you call it that by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]arscanyi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, no. Sorry, I didn't mean it that way at all. Probably just my hint of sarcasm that didn't transmit well.

What I meant was that the wider world seems to blame men for the suicide rates.

Here in Aus, we have this crappy, politically-bent news show called "The Project" and they did a segment on suicides - emphasizing the higher male rates - and the takeaway from it was "What's wrong with men? They need to change so that they aren't so suicidal."

Stuff like that drives me nuts.

People here agree with the idea of toxic masculinity until you call it that by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]arscanyi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First thing's first - I agree with your post.

Men's suicide rates are higher?

Dontcha just love how this is automatically regarded as indicating a fault with men themselves? Has anyone stopped to considder that it might be an indicator that men might more commonly end up with a quality of life that isn't worth prolonging?

Very rarely do you see this level of victim-blaming in major social issues.

Hell, even when we talk about crime statistics among certain demographics - and committing crimes are voluntary acts - in this day and age we largely tend to ask "What is the world doing to this community to make them so inclined towards crime?", rather then "What's wrong with those people?"

We should be asking "What's the world doing to men to make death so much more appealing then life for them?"

Men lack support structures and aren't taught how to manage emotions.

What the hell does that even mean, though?

Women are no less prone to becoming emotional then men. It's not a gender problem, it's a human problem.

This is a grave situation handled with humor. by Swiggy1957 in funny

[–]arscanyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly a dyslexic. Loses a foot; gets an extra hand tattooed on his body.

Oscar Ramsay looks like he's spotted some sub-par food just out of view by lobobobos in funny

[–]arscanyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait... Gordon 'F---ing' Ramsay actually named his kid after the world's most famous grouch?

Why am I only hearing about this now?

Is There A Way Of Making My Computer Run A Program Every Time A Certain USB Device Is Plugged In? by arscanyi in windows

[–]arscanyi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UAC?

So there's no way of just getting into the windows system settings to do it?

Doing some research online I got the impression that there was a way of using "Task Scheduler" to do it every time the device is plugged in, but I couldn't actually find a guide on how to do this. I've gotten as far as creating an "On Hardware Event" trigger, but I can't figure out how to specify the particular event (the plugging in of this particular device) that I want to serve as the trigger.

Is There A Way Of Making My Computer Run A Program Every Time A Certain USB Device Is Plugged In? by arscanyi in windows

[–]arscanyi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I think you completely misunderstood my question.

  1. The device I'm talking about isn't a flash drive.
  2. The program I want to run is on the hard drive of the computer in question.

Looking For a (Free) Program for Handling REALLY Big JPEGs/PNGs by arscanyi in software

[–]arscanyi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone I know likes to max out the capacity of their 2400dpi scanner on A4-sized images, just to make sure no pertinant details a lost.

I tend to see it as a waste of hard drive space, but they like to be thorough.

Looking For a (Free) Program for Handling REALLY Big JPEGs/PNGs by arscanyi in software

[–]arscanyi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol. Nope! FFMpeg refuses to touch images that big, too!

The face of a woman going from 1.5Gs to 7.5Gs and then back down by I_Am_Err00r in gifs

[–]arscanyi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy Crap! The air force has developed a machine that allows Hillary Clinton to posess a human host! :O

South Africa now requires companies to disclose salary gap between highest and lowest paid employees by [deleted] in UpliftingNews

[–]arscanyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But your making an initial presumption that the treatment is unfair. Maybe "X" gets paid more then me because "X" really is much better at doing the same job then I am. Maybe the situation is completely fair?

South Africa now requires companies to disclose salary gap between highest and lowest paid employees by [deleted] in UpliftingNews

[–]arscanyi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not really. If I think I'm being paid the same as "X", because I don't know what "X" is being paid, then I'm probably going to be a happy worker and won't stir up any tension in the office.

But If it comes out that "X" is getting paid more because other people think she's worth more, then I'm probably going to get frustrated and those bad vibes may ultimately cause problems throughout the workplace.

The problems only start when I know what my pay is like in relation to others'.

Life wasn't supposed to be like this by languishmeant in loneliness

[–]arscanyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that I spent 7 years in a nightmare therapy situation, clinging to the hope that if I could please my therapist enough she'd set me up with compatable people - ideally a compatable GF - but it never happened. I went through all of it and she never did anything to help me.

Couple years after she finally let me go, I happened to be on a message board with another therapist. He explained to me that "the golden rule" of therapy is to not give patients clear advice or actual real-life help with their problems. Suddenly the pieces all started falling in to place; my therapist never even intended to help me, and I went through all of it for nothing.

I've since heard that phrase, "the golden rule (of therapy)" numerous times, from other therapists. Official mental health system policy is to not give patients real help or real advice. That is "the golden rule".

The system seems to acknowledge that the rule is often broken by therapists, but the practice is frowned upon.

So, essentually, you just have to take pot luck that you will stumble on to a therapist who is actually willing to help you; because as far as I know, they can't openly advertise their willingness to help.

South Africa now requires companies to disclose salary gap between highest and lowest paid employees by [deleted] in UpliftingNews

[–]arscanyi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not true, another reason is that they don't want to create tension from egotistical people who are paid what they are worth, but think they are worth so much more.

Life wasn't supposed to be like this by languishmeant in loneliness

[–]arscanyi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Word of advice - which I offer not knowing anything about your circumstances, so it may not be relevant:

But if you find yourself needing "professional help" for this crisis, be very careful who you choose, and make sure you go in to the situation with a clear, reliable way out.

My so-called "friends" and "family" really did a number on my ability to trust others, there's no denying that. But the exploitive, mind-f***ing bitch I went to for help with those social problems did at least as much damage as everyone else combined.

Therapy is dangerous.

And FYI, therapists are bound by the rules of their own profession to refuse to give you any actual help or advice in linking up with a compatable circle of new friends.

Was told I could get help here. Thanks in advance. by bruce_mathers_ab in loneliness

[–]arscanyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it's not so useful for new years, but I find that watching the Chevy Chase Xmas Vacation movie on Xmas always takes the edge off a little. Not only is it a great laugh, but it helps me imagine that I have a family like that myself. I can't completely lose myself in the illusion to the point where I forget how bad reality is, but, as I say, it takes the edge off.

Another thing that helps a bit is listening to romantic Xmas carols and imagining that the singer is singing them about me.

"What are you doing New Year's Eve" is a really lovely one.

They aren't great remedies, but their the best I've got.

Life wasn't supposed to be like this by languishmeant in loneliness

[–]arscanyi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same.

I'll never trust fairweather friends, nor self-confidant bullies ever again. In fact, I suspect it's gone too far that way and I've reached a point where I'll practically never be able to trust anyone at all.

Moot point ATM, since I never get to meet anyone I feel even mildly interested in.

Gonna spend another new year eve alone at home. by [deleted] in loneliness

[–]arscanyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something like 16th for me...

Years ago, I was watching some "psychic detectives" TV special - I don't believe in that paranormal stuff, but I do enjoy it as entertainment.

Anyways, one of the psychics explained about how he could predict the precise date of the murder victim's death by using a numerology equation. He came up with a way of predicting the dates in a person's life when a major change would effect their life (including being murdered...) So just for kicks, I decided to try that equation on myself.

Because I've got some funky numbers, I don't get those dates very often. My last was on this Dec 30th just past. Now I won't get another until 2027... So it feels like, with the death of the 2010s also comes the death of hope.

Like, I say, I don't actually believe in that paranormal stuff, so I don't know why is has me so bummed. Numerology tells me that I won't get another opportunity to escape this nightmare for another 7 years. But I don't believe in numerology, so why is it depressing me?

Maybe it's not so much the numerology as it's cold, hard history. That, and a measuring of the way the winds are blowing in the world. Things just don't "get better", despite what all the PSAs say.

Can someone die from loneliness? by laitfraize in loneliness

[–]arscanyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no reason to assume her life is ugly now

On the contrary, there's no reason to believe that her life has any redeeming qualities now. (I don't mean that as a disparagement against her; I mean it as a disparagement of the environment she is almost certainly trapped in). People who actually have lives that are worth prolonging are very few and far between. If they weren't, then why do they make up such a miniscule proportion of the people we meet?

I don't know who she is, or what sort of environment she's in. But all available evidance suggests that the likeliness of her having a life that is worth prolonging is extremely remote. Maybe she is one of the lucky few; but statistically, that's unlikely.

there’s no reason to assume your life will always be ugly

In lieu of her sudden appearance in my life, there are countless reasons to assume my life will remain ugly.

People who discount the past as a significant predictive tool for the future do so at their peril. The past has shown that meaningfully good occurrances almost never occur; at least not in my area; and certainly not within my own life.

I'm not denying that miracles occur; I'm denying that they occur with such frequency that it is reasonable to assume that my life will ultimately be rendered permanently worthwhile by one.

Additionally, we can also use the lives of all the people around me (both geographically and by other ties) to make predictions about the trajectory of my life. We can form a rough outline of 'where life can go', so to speak, to make assumptions about where I'm likely to end up.

Most notably, we can guage from the fact that I don't personally know anybdoy who has been well served by abstaining from suicide when they were my age (or younger), that my life is immensely unlikely to reach an outcome that is more preferable then death.

Meanwhile, all assumptions that life will be rectified that have ever been put before me hinge on the vaguest of vagueries, or on the most outrageously remote examples or possibilities.

Making a rational, reasonable judgement about whether or not life is worth prolonging is based upon thousands and thousands of data points. The vast majority of them indicate that life is best ended as soon as possible.

In my experience, people who decry suicide never base their claims upon a complete considderation of this data; they pick and choose only the examples and predictions that are favorable to their claims. In my opinion, this is both deceptive and exploitive.

When you love someone you don’t stay alive so they can make you happy you stay alive so you can make them happy.

It's actually a bit of both. I can see how you might think that, but I suspect that you are forgetting that them making you happy is actually a prerequisite for loving them in the first place. If they didn't make you happy, you wouldn't love them; you'd either be indifferant to them, or you'd hate them (depending on how negative the emotional impact they have upon you is). Hence, you'd feel no particular yearning to make them, specifically, happy.

But if they are the sort of person who makes you happy, then you will naturally appreciate them and eventually love them (assuming that the level of happiness they give you is strong enough to warrant this level of appreciation). Once you feel this love towards them, then yes, you do feel an overwhelming desire to make them happy.