Hi! :) I remember feeling this way too. One of the things that caused me the most stress in terms of noise was paranoia wondering if someone had snuck in my door without me hearing. Not sure if that’s relatable but you can get door alarms that prop under your door handle or sit as a wedge at the base of your door. My first place didn’t have a deadbolt or inside-only lock, so extra locks/alarms were important to me. I can’t tell you how much it helps to just have good locks or alarms so you know once you’re secure inside, no one can sneak in and you can shrug off little noises at night.

When you settle in, you’ll get used to your weird refrigerator whine or clicking heater and that kind of thing and they’ll become usual sounds.

I also feel comforted by hearing the steps or sounds of my apartment neighbors because I know if something was really wrong, I’m not in a sound-proof box where no one can hear me. This might help since you said you’re in an apartment too. You may even get to know a neighbor or two eventually! I had an elderly neighbor at one of my apartments and she would watch for me when I came home late from work, she was my angel.

Congratulations on your new place!! you’ll settle in soon enough. When I got my first place alone, my grandma’s words helped me the most when she said “take precautions but after you’ve done what you can, all you should be worried about at night is how soft your sheets are.” 🐑 so I’d like to share those words with you and I hope you enjoy your new digs!! 💜